My personal belief made me think that was the incorrect path. Years ago i would look at guys in here who were willing to go, in several ways, too far(imo) to fit the requirements and think: "how could someone find happiness by doing things that go against their values? that will undoubtly lead only to a different sort of lack" ,but now, after understanding what life is a little bit better, i'm not so sure anymore.
I'm starting to realize not doing something by being afraid of the uncertainty of such decisions might actually be more harmful to the individual, as there are no guarantees in life either way. All that you can take from this is experience, good or bad, so whatever happens will, almost every time, be a better return for your investment than remaining in a stable condition and taking only what you think you can get. When your values only serve to deter you from getting the most valuable resource(Experience), they cease to be useful.
We live with a specific set of tools which must be put to use. You will never get to "play this character" again, so to not have the experience of romantic relationship is actually quite catastrophic, as a part of you will never see the light of day, and an important part of that experience will be wasted. We can develop in solitude in many ways, but there are things that can only evolve trough deep, meaningful interactions with people, and nothing is deeper than romantic interactions.
Still, even after all this reasoning, i'm scared as fuck of taking life by it's horns this way, even though that is probably the best course of action. Unfortunately, i don't think i have a choice....i have zero desire to regret my life.
I'm starting to realize not doing something by being afraid of the uncertainty of such decisions might actually be more harmful to the individual, as there are no guarantees in life either way. All that you can take from this is experience, good or bad, so whatever happens will, almost every time, be a better return for your investment than remaining in a stable condition and taking only what you think you can get. When your values only serve to deter you from getting the most valuable resource(Experience), they cease to be useful.
We live with a specific set of tools which must be put to use. You will never get to "play this character" again, so to not have the experience of romantic relationship is actually quite catastrophic, as a part of you will never see the light of day, and an important part of that experience will be wasted. We can develop in solitude in many ways, but there are things that can only evolve trough deep, meaningful interactions with people, and nothing is deeper than romantic interactions.
Still, even after all this reasoning, i'm scared as fuck of taking life by it's horns this way, even though that is probably the best course of action. Unfortunately, i don't think i have a choice....i have zero desire to regret my life.
