Discussion Study shows singlehood is only tolerable for people when they are sexually satisfied "but being single isn't bad!!!!!!1"

[Edmund_Kemper]

Many humans like to tell us that they're single and they're fine with it, and that relationships aren't important in life. Well here's the thing, many of these humans have been in relationships many times and got it out of their system anyways. Additionally, singlehood, studies show, is only acceptable for humans to endure when they experience sexual satisfaction during singlehood. In order to enjoy singlehood, you have to have sexual satisfaction. Without that sexual satisfaction, single humans tend to be tormented by singlehood, and they tend to be satisfied with singlehood or believe happiness while single is possible if they experience sexual satisfaction during singlehood. Studies found that single humans were less sexually satisfied than partnered humans. In order for single humans to experience sexual satisfaction, they have to either lack sex but have low sexual desire, or have strong sexual desire, but still have sex a lot. Single humans with strong sexual desire were less sexually satisfied but this is because singles have sex less often than partnered people, otherwise they are sexually satisfied if they crave frequent sex and still have sex regularly.

Among single individuals, higher levels of dyadic sexual desire were consistently associated with lower sexual satisfaction, whether it was assessed with SDI-2 or as desired frequency of partnered activities (at the correlational level). When accounting for both desired and actual frequency of engaging in partnered activities, however, the strength of main effects of desired frequency dropped. Instead, there was an interaction between desired and actual frequencies such that wanting more frequent partnered sexual activities was associated with lower sexual satisfaction only if individuals were not participating in the desired activities very frequently. These data suggest that singles with relatively high sexual desire for partnered sexual activities may experience sexual frustration when not able to find sexual partners, which in turn contributes to dissatisfaction with their sex lives (and thus perhaps with their singlehood; Park et al., 2021). On the other hand, singles with low sexual desire (e.g., asexual individuals, e.g., Bogaert, 2015) may fare relatively well in singlehood by sidestepping sexual frustration from unmet needs for partnered sexual activities.

In the authors' previous study, they found that sexually active singles were less sexually satisfied, but that could be because they had low sexual desire but still had sex frequently or because they didn't like uncommitted sex (or casual sex) as much. I bet the sexually satisfied singles in that study who didn't have sex had low sexual desire. Nonetheless, they found in that study that sexual satisfaction during singlehood was the key to being satisfied with singlehood:

Despite the worldwide increase in single-person households, little research has examined what factors contribute to a satisfying single life. We used three data sets (N = 3,890) to examine how satisfaction with sexual and social aspects of life are linked with single people’s perceptions of marriage and singlehood. Our results suggest that higher sexual satisfaction is associated with less desire to marry (Study 1), stronger beliefs that unmarried people can be happy without marriage (Study 2), and greater satisfaction with singlehood and less desire for a partner (Study 3). All effects in Studies 1 and 3 remained significant controlling for life satisfaction and sexual frequency. Satisfying friendships were associated with variables related to satisfaction with singlehood but not variables related to desire for a partner, whereas no effect was found for satisfaction with family. This study highlights the potential importance of maintaining a satisfying sex life in people’s satisfaction with singlehood.

A Norwegian study found this:

The purpose of this paper is to examine the extent to which Norwegians are satisfied with their singlehood, and to determine the association between being sin- gle and sexual activity. Data were obtained from a questionnaire survey of a representative web sample of 1076 unpartnered individuals (568 women, 508 men) aged 18–89 years. A total of 45.2% of the single respondents reported being satisfied with being single, while 33.9% reported being unsatisfied. There was no difference between the age groups in men, but more women aged 45 years or older than women under the age of 45 were satisfied with being single. A higher percentage of gay, bisexual, and transmen than heterosexual men was satisfied with being single. More women who had not been sexually active with a partner in the past year were satisfied with being single than were women who had been sexually active. The men who were most satisfied with being single were those who had masturbated and/ or had sexual intercourse, and least satisfied were those with no sexual activity, or exclusively masturbation activity. The results are discussed in terms of biological, psychological, and social positions.

So why were single women who had less sex more sexually satisfied than ones who had sex? Because women didn't like casual sex (unless it's with a conventionally attractive man because women tend to only like casual sex with a man they find very physically attractive). LGBT men were also satisfied with being single because men are more interested in casual sex than women and gay men have it easier finding a male sex partner than men finding a female sex partner, including when it comes to casual sex.

Another interesting finding was that heterosexual women with no sexual activity in the past 12 months were more satisfied with being single than women who had been sexually active. Furthermore, the heterosexual women who were least satisfied were those who had masturbated and had sexual intercourse. This corroborates a British study, in which a minority of those who had sexual experience but were sex- ually inactive, 35% of men and 24% of women, reported being dissatisfied with their sex lives (Ueda & Mercer, 2019). According to Baumeister (1999), women’s sexual- ity is more plastic than men’s sexuality. This implies that women without access to a committed partner may “turn off” their sex drive altogether, and not longing for something they do not have and releasing energy into other things of importance in life makes them satisfied with singlehood. It can be hypothesized that women who recently had been sexually active with a partner might have been reminded of not having an available partner, which might have caused them to long for one. In that case, it can be argued that they are committed to a romantic ideal, but had either found the wrong partner to enter into a relationship with (Træen & Sørensen, 2000), or had experienced unrequited love (Baumeister, 1993). The finding that men who had less masturbation activity in the past month were more likely to be satisfied with being single indicates that some men may have lower sexual desire than others. However, based on the findings from other studies, it may also be linked to higher levels of avoidant attachment, lower sexual self-esteem and self-confidence, lower sexual satisfaction (Anticevi et al., 2017), or poor flirting skills, unattractiveness, shyness, and bad experiences in previous relationships (Apostolou, 2019).

Park et al.’s study (2021) showed that having a satisfying sexual life was associated with how positively single individuals viewed their singlehood. Men and women are biologically different and undergo different primary sexual socialization processes. Unlike women, both LGBT+men and heterosexual men who were satisfied with their sexual life in general, satisfied with their current level of sexual activity, and who had had sexual intercourse in the past month were more likely to be satisfied with being single. In addition, the relationships were generally stronger for LGBT + men than for heterosexual men. It could be that men in general who are satisfied with their singlehood find it more convenient to have casual partners and to avoid all partners who could become committed partners. LGBT+ men may be able to obtain male sexual partners more readily than heterosexual men can female sexual partners, in part because of men’s greater interest in casual sex (e.g., Schmitt, 2005). According to Eastwick et al. (2019), passion peaks in the early stages of a relationship, and feelings of intimacy and emotional bonding peak in later stages. For single individuals who are satisfied with being single and who still have sexual activity with partners, it could be that it is the drive for passion that is satisfying to them, and that they may not have a desire for emotional bonding with a partner. LGBT + men and women are likely to undergo a new socialization process when coming out as gay (Alonzo & Buttitta, 2019). We found that LGBT+ men were more satisfied with being single than heterosexual men, but there was no difference between LGBT+ women and heterosexual women. LGBT+men may have a larger pool of other men to have sexual interactions with, and in the gay sub-culture there is likely to be a higher acceptance of sex for the sake of pleasure and of not having to legitimize sex with love than in the heterosexual majority culture (Abramson & Pinkerton, 2002; Matsick et al., 2021).

So in order to be happy while single, you need sexual satisfaction. If you don't have sex, you can only be satisfied sexually if you lack sexual desire. If you crave sex while single and still have sex, you will enjoy singlehood (maybe unless you hate casual sex).
@Robtical pin this.

 

[Edmund_Kemper]

@Infinity @Fat Link should this be pinned?

 

[BornToLose]

Foid definition of being single: I only have sex once a month.

 

[Mulattocel]

Yeah man the bluepillers will never understand this

 

[Indari]

Only reddit autists will claim that sex is not a need. It objectively improves your health. Reddit is not real life. Most normal people know this fact.

 

[Edmund_Kemper]

Only reddit autists will claim that sex is not a need. It objectively improves your health. Reddit is not real life. Most normal people know this fact.

Even everyday people say this

 

[Indari]

Even everyday people say this

i doubt most normal sexhavers think that

 

[El Enemigo]

Being single doesn't equal to not getting sex to normies

 

[Edmund_Kemper]

i doubt most normal sexhavers think that

They do. R/ForeverAlone talk about this all the time and how they deal with these people

 

[Indari]

They do. R/ForeverAlone talk about this all the time and how they deal with these people

selection bias. A lot more reasonable people exist

 

[Edmund_Kemper]

selection bias. A lot more reasonable people exist

no they don't they're rare. toxic positivity is everywhere

 

[Indari]

no they don't they're rare. toxic positivity is everywhere

maby

 

[Deleted member 41741]

High IQ. The basic inequality: A roastie who is "single" is STILL usually getting her sexual needs met through Tinder, through FWB arrangements, through short-term relationships, etc. A man who is single usually only has Pornhub.

 

[Edmund_Kemper]

High IQ. The basic inequality: A roastie who is "single" is STILL usually getting her sexual needs met through Tinder, through FWB arrangements, through short-term relationships, etc. A man who is single usually only has Pornhub.

Single women could get casual sex easily. Single men it's much harder unless he's chad.

 

[Deleted member 41741]

Single women could get casual sex easily. Single men it's much harder unless he's chad.

So the consequence of women delaying marriage to their 30s is a lot of sexually frustrated males.

 

[BarrelStuffer]

So the consequence of women delaying marriage to their 30s is a lot of sexually frustrated males.

That frustration doesn’t end because most men are still sexually frustrated with an over 30’s hag. We crave young prime woman and many men don’t get it out of their system in their 20’s when you’re supposed to.

 

[subhuman]

Over for you if you can't fuck prostitutes regularly. I am doing all that I can to move out of my shithole third world country so that I can get to the point where I can see one once a week to stay sane. If I can't, I will just rope. Life isn't worth living like this.

 

[TheDarkEnigma]

When a foid tells you she's single, it does not mean that she's not sexually active at that moment.

She's either single by choice and just having hookups, or she's looking for her next Chad.

 

[Deleted member 41741]

That frustration doesn’t end because most men are still sexually frustrated with an over 30’s hag. We crave young prime woman and many men don’t get it out of their system in their 20’s when you’re supposed to.

100% agreed. I have no plan to cooperate with the "feminist lifetime plan":

"When looking for a life partner, my advice to women is date all of them: the bad boys, the cool boys, the commitment-phobic boys, the crazy boys. But do not marry them. The things that make the bad boys sexy do not make them good husbands. When it comes time to settle down, find someone who wants an equal partner. Someone who thinks women should be smart, opinionated and ambitious. Someone who values fairness and expects or, even better, wants to do his share in the home. These men exist and, trust me, over time, nothing is sexier.” ― Sheryl Sandberg, Lean In: Women, Work, and the Will to Lead

Hey Sheryl, these women are ruined. They are used goods. It would be degrading to accept them after they decided it's time to "settle down." Bitch that should have been when you were 22. The "good guy" who goes along with the above plan is getting a bad deal.

 

[BarrelStuffer]

100% agreed. I have no plan to cooperate with the "feminist lifetime plan":



Hey Sheryl, these women are ruined. They are used goods. It would be degrading to accept them after they decided it's time to "settle down." Bitch that should have been when you were 22. The "good guy" who goes along with the above plan is getting a bad deal.

These bitches think their appeal doesn’t fade with age or something .
Hey foids, men want you for your looks and youth, nothing else. No one cares about your career or interests. Just don’t be a bitch and act feminine. Stop trying to be men

 

[sub8male]

This is why prostitutes exist.

 

[Deleted member 42058]

Good high-iq stuff. Always appreciate stuff that's backed up with studies and stats.

 

[DryDick]

High IQ. The basic inequality: A roastie who is "single" is STILL usually getting her sexual needs met through Tinder, through FWB arrangements, through short-term relationships, etc. A man who is single usually only has Pornhub.

Even if a woman is not having sex while single, she knows she can get it very easily, so it's not something that gnwas at her, unlike most men who don't know whether they'll get sex 1 month from now or 6 months, or years.

 

[Deleted member 5712]

men who don't know whether they'll get sex 1 month from now or 6 months, or years.

or decades for a few
heh. Not that i know anything about that

 

[Deleted member 42309]

Start escortcelling

 

[Edmund_Kemper]

or decades for a few
heh. Not that i know anything about that

It won’t be decades. Most men don’t experience that much inceldom

 

[InMinecraft]

Over

 

[1337hikki]

Ppl also need to start differentiating between intimate and nonintimate sex, as they are very different things that fulfill different needs

 

[RuudVanNistelrooy]

When a foid tells you she's single, it does not mean that she's not sexually active at that moment.

 

[Indari]

sex is a need for health

 

[fuckchadsandstaceys]

bluepilled faggots would want to argue

 

[coping_manlet]

Foid definition of being single: I only have sex once a month.

More like once a month. Foids go out to clubs and bars every Friday and/or Saturday. It always ends with chad shoving his cock into their skull in the bathroom stall

Even if a female got unlucky (which is impossible), she’d still probably be getting dicked 2-3 times a month minimum.

Women of the 21st century are walking glory holes. There’s no way around it sadly

 

[Deleted member 41729]

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@Edmund_Kemper thoughts

 

[Edmund_Kemper]

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@Edmund_Kemper thoughts

Not a single second I bet they’ll just use anecdotes or blindly repeat shit society says

 

[ionlycopenow]

Being single doesn't equal to not getting sex to normies

Absolutely not, especially if you are a foid. Really, a foid being single just means she currently doesn’t have a beta provider and that’s all.

 

[SupremeGentleman48]

Semen retention maxxing, looksmaxxing and gymmaxxing starting tomorrow. Might even buy a Corvette from the 80's. I think i can afford it

 

[Edmund_Kemper]

Semen retention maxxing, looksmaxxing and gymmaxxing starting tomorrow. Might even buy a Corvette from the 80's. I think i can afford it

SOME ALPHA MALE FUCKED UP MY NIGHT TODAY. FUCK THAT HUMAN SCUMBAG

 

[Nemesis]

They do. R/ForeverAlone talk about this all the time and how they deal with these people

Holy shit, this is a joke
Female, wasn't in relationships because "much factors" But protably not a virgin

She also can't accept that she slowly turns into rostie and parents want the best for her. To be honest, If parents woud want me in arrange marrige, that woud be a blessing for me. I woud have a chace meet foid that is intrested in me, just any foid that wants to have anything in common with me

 

[Nemesis]

Foids on places for alone people are such a joke. But if you ask her if she wants to date you, she woud reject you as quick as possible

 

[SupremeGentleman48]

SOME ALPHA MALE FUCKED UP MY NIGHT TODAY. FUCK THAT HUMAN SCUMBAG

Mine too. That's why I want to use his own weapons against him, eclipse him, and mercilessly fuck his girlfriend/wife.

 

[Mecoja]

Got tier thread.
I don't believe there is a single person on Earth who's sex drive is so low that lack of sex doesn't affect them.
This study proves not all sex is equal and unsatisfactory sex with prostitutes or girls you get disgusted by its not the same.

 

[jerkjocky]

Over for you if you can't fuck prostitutes regularly. I am doing all that I can to move out of my shithole third world country so that I can get to the point where I can see one once a week to stay sane. If I can't, I will just rope. Life isn't worth living like this.

Fcking a plastic bag (condom) isnt sex. And enjoy aids if youre fucking hookers withot one

 

[jerkjocky]

This is why prostitutes exist.

Start escortcelling

Jfl at all these plastic bag humpers. Just feel a slight pressure and heat around your dick with virtually no sensation theory.

 

[trying to ascend]

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[Toxic_Manbabby]

Is this really where we're at? We need a study for this?

 

[Anorcel]

the lonelyness of being single is worse than having BPD or being a schizo

 

[SamuraiWarriorsKoei]

I have so much love in my heart to give and there's no one to take it from me so it just eats away at me inside I'm becoming hollow and the love will fade then I'll stop breathing I will curl up into a ball rot and end in forgotteness

 

[Deleted member 42058]

I have so much love in my heart to give and there's no one to take it from me so it just eats away at me inside I'm becoming hollow and the love will fade then I'll stop breathing I will curl up into a ball rot and end in forgotteness

Relatable...

 

[Loner94]

Great Find OP

 

[Mr.Sophistication]

Is this really where we're at? We need a study for this?

Was thinking the same thing, tells you how far we have come on the way to idiocracy.