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owaisi_supporter
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I think that people usually end up marrying someone of a similar level of attractiveness. Conventionally unattractive men end usually up marrying conventionally unattractive women. The way to beat this is through factors other than physical attractiveness: financial stability, availability, familiarity.
I am not an attractive man. But the reason I have never been in a relationship is because I haven't tried hard enough and was pursuing women way above my league. At the age of 25 I have decided to confront this reality about myself instead of blaming women. The women I have been a "beta orbiter" around have shown great kindness to me. They were pretty girls with no incentive to settle for some guy like me, but they were still very kind to me. There was a girl who helped me through college and defended me when I got into trouble with authority figures. I was the one who blew all my chances with her by being a disrespectful ingrate. If I could have acted like a decent responsible human being, who knows what could have happened over time? She put up with me for two years until I began to misbehave with her.
Right now I am a "beta orbiter" to another girl who is 4 years younger than me. I really do believe she respects me and isn't talking to me out of sympathy. I had a conversation about this with a female family member and she told me this: "Give women the chance to prove they are not as shallow as you assume they are". Unattractive guys are getting married everywhere, albeit not to the pretty women. I am shallow, I want to try my chances with girls who are physically attractive. I really want to see what happens with this girl. I don't mind being a "beta buxxer" for her because she is very kind and intelligent. Even after rejecting me she still talks to me. Her reason for rejecting me was that she has a boyfriend, not that she finds me unattractive. If you'd think that I am someone with no self respect, the other alternative is marrying a girl who is not physically attractive, which might be better on the long run. When I'm past 30, I'll probably stop caring about looks altogether, it would be so much easier for me to accept a wife who isn't pretty.
I am not an attractive man. But the reason I have never been in a relationship is because I haven't tried hard enough and was pursuing women way above my league. At the age of 25 I have decided to confront this reality about myself instead of blaming women. The women I have been a "beta orbiter" around have shown great kindness to me. They were pretty girls with no incentive to settle for some guy like me, but they were still very kind to me. There was a girl who helped me through college and defended me when I got into trouble with authority figures. I was the one who blew all my chances with her by being a disrespectful ingrate. If I could have acted like a decent responsible human being, who knows what could have happened over time? She put up with me for two years until I began to misbehave with her.
Right now I am a "beta orbiter" to another girl who is 4 years younger than me. I really do believe she respects me and isn't talking to me out of sympathy. I had a conversation about this with a female family member and she told me this: "Give women the chance to prove they are not as shallow as you assume they are". Unattractive guys are getting married everywhere, albeit not to the pretty women. I am shallow, I want to try my chances with girls who are physically attractive. I really want to see what happens with this girl. I don't mind being a "beta buxxer" for her because she is very kind and intelligent. Even after rejecting me she still talks to me. Her reason for rejecting me was that she has a boyfriend, not that she finds me unattractive. If you'd think that I am someone with no self respect, the other alternative is marrying a girl who is not physically attractive, which might be better on the long run. When I'm past 30, I'll probably stop caring about looks altogether, it would be so much easier for me to accept a wife who isn't pretty.