LifeFuel Steps to Cure Oneitis

[Sir Silentium]

After struggling for years with a former oneitis, and most recently been infatuated with another female online, I have developed a method to stop the intense feelings and constant thought patterns associated with this.

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Step 1. Understand positives/negatives
Write down all the positives about her, then all the negatives. Then why it is impractical to be with her, or why you cannot be with her. This leads to gaining an understanding of wanting a detachment from the her.

Step 2. Reframe your thinking
Shift your patterns of thought away from the person, whether this be to restrain from looking them up on social media which helps your brain to stop relying on feeding off this person .

Step 3. Getting dopamine elsewhere
After reframing your thinking patterns, your brain receptors will be looking for more, new dopamine. Chose a hobby or activity to help with this issue, preferably not online or with anyway of possibly leading to thoughts about the person. A good example is exercising e.g lifting weights, skateboarding etc - in which your brain produces it's own set of healthy dopamine and endofins to make you feel better naturally.

Step 4. Regaining self focus
It may take a few days, weeks or even months depending on the situation to get over it, but putting these steps in place will help you out, trust me. I wish I did these steps years ago instead of mentally declining over stupid things.

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Step 1 is the most important, if you cannot find a way not to be with her, your body/brain will continue to not stop thinking abbout her. You will continue to crave the desire.

 

[Albertopenheimer]

never had one but based

 

[Sir Silentium]

never had one but based

Thanks brother, I appreciate it

 

[Obanchito]

This might be of great assistance for a plethora of grays/newfags

 

[Sir Silentium]

This might be of great assistance for a plethora of grays/newfags

Yes, hopefully the newcomers aren't too far gone for the help.

 

[psyop]

plethora

Niga fink hie shaksper

 

[Obanchito]

Niga fink hie shaksper

Damn is it not a commonly used word? I don't want to come off as pretentious

 

[Cuckoja]

Thanks man.

 

[WastedPotential]

After struggling for years with a former oneitis, and most recently been infatuated with another female online, I have developed a method to stop the intense feelings and constant thought patterns associated with this.

__________________________________________________

Step 1. Understand positives/negatives
Write down all the positives about her, then all the negatives. Then why it is impractical to be with her, or why you cannot be with her. This leads to gaining an understanding of wanting a detachment from the her.

Step 2. Reframe your thinking
Shift your patterns of thought away from the person, whether this be to restrain from looking them up on social media which helps your brain to stop relying on feeding off this person .

Step 3. Getting dopamine elsewhere
After reframing your thinking patterns, your brain receptors will be looking for more, new dopamine. Chose a hobby or activity to help with this issue, preferably not online or with anyway of possibly leading to thoughts about the person. A good example is exercising e.g lifting weights, skateboarding etc - in which your brain produces it's own set of healthy dopamine and endofins to make you feel better naturally.

Step 4. Regaining self focus
It may take a few days, weeks or even months depending on the situation to get over it, but putting these steps in place will help you out, trust me. I wish I did these steps years ago instead of mentally declining over stupid things.

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Step 1 is the most important, if you cannot find a way not to be with her, your body/brain will continue to not stop thinking abbout her. You will continue to crave the desire.

Shuldve whitepill tagged this

also I think step 1 is not a good idea, writing down the positives and negatives and keeping it around can lead to thinking more about her. you want to minimize this. Ideally you block them or any trigger that makes you remember their existence.

 

[daydreamER]

Damn is it not a commonly used word? I don't want to come off as pretentious

You didn’t I think he’s trolling jfl

 

[psyop]

Damn is it not a commonly used word? I don't want to come off as pretentious

It’s normal in a formal setting. I’m just used to gen z brainrot ebonics

 

[Sir Silentium]

Thanks man.

No problem my friend

 

[Sir Silentium]

Shuldve whitepill tagged this

also I think step 1 is not a good idea, writing down the positives and negatives and keeping it around can lead to thinking more about her. you want to minimize this. Ideally you block them or any trigger that makes you remember their existence.

It may not work for everyone but it workde for me. Otherwise I feel a constant cycle of missing out on something I can have, when in reality it isn't practical. I understand you point though.

 

[jmx]

After struggling for years with a former oneitis, and most recently been infatuated with another female online, I have developed a method to stop the intense feelings and constant thought patterns associated with this.

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Step 1. Understand positives/negatives
Write down all the positives about her, then all the negatives. Then why it is impractical to be with her, or why you cannot be with her. This leads to gaining an understanding of wanting a detachment from the her.

Step 2. Reframe your thinking
Shift your patterns of thought away from the person, whether this be to restrain from looking them up on social media which helps your brain to stop relying on feeding off this person .

Step 3. Getting dopamine elsewhere
After reframing your thinking patterns, your brain receptors will be looking for more, new dopamine. Chose a hobby or activity to help with this issue, preferably not online or with anyway of possibly leading to thoughts about the person. A good example is exercising e.g lifting weights, skateboarding etc - in which your brain produces it's own set of healthy dopamine and endofins to make you feel better naturally.

Step 4. Regaining self focus
It may take a few days, weeks or even months depending on the situation to get over it, but putting these steps in place will help you out, trust me. I wish I did these steps years ago instead of mentally declining over stupid things.

__________________________________________________

Step 1 is the most important, if you cannot find a way not to be with her, your body/brain will continue to not stop thinking abbout her. You will continue to crave the desire.

great guide thank you

 

[LeFrenchCel]

Ask her out asap, so you can get rejected asap, and you can forget her asap

If you have a oneitis for too long, like you daydream about an hypothetical life with her for a very long time, you won't be able to forget her after you get rejected. You might even not be able to forget her at all.

 

[Sir Silentium]

great guide thank you

 

[Sir Silentium]

Ask her out asap, so you can get rejected asap, and you can forget her asap

If you have a oneitis for too long, like you daydream about an hypothetical life with her for a very long time, you won't be able to forget her after you get rejected. You might even not be able to forget her at all.

True, living in rejection is so muh better than living in regret.

 

[The Chronicle]

How can you be blackpilled and still have one

 

[jmx]

How can you be blackpilled and still have one

mf it's just feelings no shit you have a girl which doesn't want you yet u want her

 

[Cuckoja]

ike you daydream about an hypothetical life with her for a very long time, you won't be able to forget her after you get rejected. You might even not be able to forget her at all.

 

[The Chronicle]

mf it's just feelings no shit you have a girl which doesn't want you yet u want her

There's no point as she will reject you. They hurt me badly enough.

 

[jmx]

There's no point as she will reject you. They hurt me badly enough.

but that's the whole point u still have because she rejected u

 

[Lego Island 2]

@superpsycho

 

[Sir Silentium]

How can you be blackpilled and still have one

I don't understand how people can be blackpilled and yet never had a oneitis. Or someone that they desired yet didn't like them back.