Exactly. This.
At the end of the day, there were proportionally less average and sub 5 men who couldn't find a decent woman (ugly landwhales or completely disabled don't count) in the past than there are now. (meaning, there would be more than before since the population is higher regardless, but there is proportionately far greater male loneliness than in the past.)
This is essentially because as capitalism and the economy goes through stages of development, inflation happens, cost of living goes up, property is more expensive than ever, there are less adequate jobs available, men have to work more for money that can't go as far, we have less time and opportunities, the middle-class shrinks. In response to this, women standards only get pickier and pickier and more skewed. There is a correlation with men getting poorer and women getting pickier. (I don't agree with incels who want a return to a previous stage of capitalist development/economic reality, where average/below average men could more easily compensate for their looks with money, least of all because this simply will not happen.) Most men are normies who do manage to find relationships, who have just accepted it and lowered their standards which is why you can visibly observe that men are with women who are uglier and worse in general than they were before. (as opposed to looksmatches and women of more decent character, which was more the norm in the past.)
Obviously none of this is sustainable. It all signifies a point of no return. But obviously 100% of women (that's a given) and the vast majority of men (even working-class and poor ones) in society not only refuse to acknowledge this but actively blame social ills on people like us, the most isolated, unfortunate, dejected and impoverished members of society. They are in denial because unlike us they are in a position to harbor these delusions, but at the same time, remember that they are terrified of being in the same situation as us, and it would only take a couple things to change for them to be. They will be affected by the same developments we are in time, we are really a sign of what is to come.
Only people like us can acknowledge this without bias because we have nothing and nothing to lose. Bluepill and redpill is the same, it's just individual blame and justifying all of this by kicking people like us who have nothing while we're already down to justify the social arrangement. (bluepilled people justifiyng it by demonizing us as "misogynist incels," redpillers calling us "losers" because we're not rich) Obviously, most of these people either have girlfriends/wives or are in a position to get one easily enough in the near future, and they blame us, demonize us, and dismiss our concerns with the notion "there's more we could be doing," to deflect from a proper understanding of this.
With women, I just expect them to justify everything. It's like the same way you can't blame an animal for acting the way it does, it's just pure self-interest. What I truly find despicable is men who justify this and blame us, (this is obviously most men, everyone thinks like a liberal or conservative and these mindsets aren't to be distinguished) because they aren't even far from being in our position themselves, most of them are average. All it could take is losing one job, one accident, etc. In terms of the potential for illness and accidents this is even true for Chad. (but Chad is actually less likely to be hostile to us than most men, because he's the least insecure.) So I remind myself that you can really see their entire mindset as coping in the face of this. At the end of the day only insecure people feel the need to put others down. (of course, most people are insecure, especially these days.)
Again, the point that just because effort doesn't necessarily correlate with success, (as many incels who have done everything in their power, moneymaxxing + gymmaxxing + gamemaxing etc. over years can attest to) doesn't mean that
all men should necessarily give up and stop trying, (especially younger ones) has just been beaten to death at one point. I went out of my way
writing a reply here that acknowledged the situation from all angles because I thought the points OP made at least deserved to not be dismissed like many of the other repliers were doing, but thinking about it more deeply this isn't anything that hasn't already been discussed here before.
The purpose of my efforts is that if nothing else, these things
must be acknowledged
somewhere. (we will be censored on every other platform, because we all know what happened with reddit.) I would have downspiraled to insanity by falsely assuming it was possible to talk about with people I knew off the internet a long time ago, because they only offer the same dismissals, platitudes and individual blame to deflect from a true confrontation with what we both just noted. I've given up on finding anyone IRL to even be so much as willing to admit the dynamics of society and the economy I highlighted above, no matter how rote, sober, and grounded an analysis it is. A large percent of men (even single men) would even construe it as an attack on women when it's completely the opposite. (i.e. women are simply the female half of the human species, nothing more or less, they are merely products of the conditions of the society they're born into, wherever and whenever that is. I'm too analytical to hate women, but I understand those who do. Women are bad, sure, but I prefer to look at how horrible society is in general.)