Serious Should you give up on women completely?

[ogreism]

If you get into a relationship with a woman and you're not physically attractive, she'd never truly love you for who you are. She'd only care about what you provide.

You're almost certainly not going to have a FWB situation, since you have to be good-looking for that to happen.

So should you just give up on women and quit warm/cold approaching and using dating apps?

 

[Onyx]

Did that ages ago, it's why I'm here lol

 

[wereq]

So should you just give up on women and quit warm/cold approaching and using dating apps?

Honestly, its just too tough now. The competition and standards are insane. Not worth it unless you're willing to downgrade and compromise on the genetics of your children.

 

[whyflylongtimecel]

Just enjoy your copes

 

[zd60]

i gave up on everything a long time ago

 

[Animecel2D]

What other choice do we have?

 

[ogreism]

What other choice do we have?

I wanted to hardmaxx, but I don't have the money.

 

[Thaway]

The world has given up on you completely, infact they never gave you a chance.

 

[Wolnir]

If you actually look good, they will come to you.

 

[Grodd]

What other choice do we have?

 

[Grodd]

I already have

 

[LeoKing93]

If you actually look good, they will come to you.

You the hit the target. If you have to chase women,approach them or anything else for that matter, just accept that its over.
An attractive man can just exist and women fall out the sky for them.

 

[Wok22]

You the hit the target. If you have to chase women,approach them or anything else for that matter, just accept that its over.
An attractive man can just exist and women fall out the sky for them.

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Joined Jan 22, 2026 Posts 9

Well you are fairly new. What got you here? I am interested in your story. You are 30, and you came here pretty late, my dude. I joined here at 18.

 

[Glassness]

It would be better for me to give up but not giving up is what keeps me waking up in the morning if I didn't think there was a anything for me I wouldn't even wake up

 

[LeoKing93]

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Joined Jan 22, 2026 Posts 9

Well you are fairly new. What got you here? I am interested in your story. You are 30, and you came here pretty late, my dude. I joined here at 18.

I first had discovered the term incel back in 2016. I was at the time in my early 20s. Honestly I was wondering why most people in my age group had experience intimacy and romance with the exception of me.

I remember reading articles from a relationship advice coach named Dr nerdlove.

One lesson he mentioned that stood out to me was " A man's value is not based on getting women and sex"
Along with other valuable lessons that had gave me comfort.

From 2016 to now(2026) I just have been living with it. I was oblivious to the fact there was a community of men just like me. Until I stumbled across the incels.is X account along with the community. It intrigued me that I found the website and became a member.

Really I want to experience serious romance. I am marriage minded and don't want to waste anyones time. I feel apprehensive about sex because of STI'S and getting a woman pregnant when I am not ready to become a father. I want to have a marriage along with a nuclear family. However I'm not a blip on any woman's radar.

 

[MajorThomas666]

You the hit the target. If you have to chase women,approach them or anything else for that matter, just accept that its over.
An attractive man can just exist and women fall out the sky for them.

Yup. If you look good 6.8/10+ and are 5'10+ women will come. I only ever had a 700lb women flirt with me. I remember her friend talking to her, and I was like, "finally, at 26 I might have a chance!" The friend was hot. 5'4 blonde, skinny. Near Stacy tier. Well, it wasn't her. It was her friend in the pool next to her.
I'm sitting there and look down at my camera. I'm on vacation with family and they are in springs several hundred feet away. In my head I'm thinking, "what am I gonna say..." and I looked decent that day. Had very unique style. Thought I might finally meet and talk to a girl, get to know her like some shitty fairytale. Then I look up. It wasn't her. It was her literally 700lb friend waddling towards me, trying to get me to look at her and make a move while her attractive friend is telling her to get closer.

I stand up and walk away. Absplutely disgusted that the only girl that ever hit on me, and I have flirted wirh other women but never got reciprocation, was a humanoid filled with 100% trans fat.

 

[MajorThomas666]

I first had discovered the term incel back in 2016. I was at the time in my early 20s. Honestly I was wondering why most people in my age group had experience intimacy and romance with the exception of me.

I remember reading articles from a relationship advice coach named Dr nerdlove.

One lesson he mentioned that stood out to me was " A man's value is not based on getting women and sex"
Along with other valuable lessons that had gave me comfort.

From 2016 to now(2026) I just have been living with it. I was oblivious to the fact there was a community of men just like me. Until I stumbled across the incels.is X account along with the community. It intrigued me that I found the website and became a member.

Really I want to experience serious romance. I am marriage minded and don't want to waste anyones time. I feel apprehensive about sex because of STI'S and getting a woman pregnant when I am not ready to become a father. I want to have a marriage along with a nuclear family. However I'm not a blip on any woman's radar.

That's shit advice. A man's value is not based on getting women and sex, but it is if you're attractive and tall.

A man's value is on aquiring resources, being attractive, tall, having wealth, status, NT, good friend group, not boring.

 

[itsovER99]

If you are .is user there is no hope

 

[FoidsEnshittifyAll]

You can't quit on something that never was meant for you... .

 

[UriBelmont]

Boycott EVERYTHING supporting women until The Incel Crisis dies with The Queen Of Plaques.
EVERYTHING.
WOMEN HATE GOOD MEN.
THEY HATE YOU.
A LOW BREED OF NARCISSIST ONLY TO BE KILLED BY BEING STARVED OF ATTENTION.
ALL CONTENT, SUBSCRIPTIONS, ATTENTIONS, CONCERNS, MALE FANTASIES.
UNTIL EVERY FEMOID DESIRES SUICIDE ONLY

 

[DriveLikeNigger]

Yes. What's the point of trying when you'll never get unconditional love from a woman?? Might as well avoid any physical relationship since they're needlessly superficial.

 

[GeneticDysfunction]

You must be new here.

 

[INVERTER]

The OP makes sense actually because "incel" implies that you're still even entertaining the idea. Once the higher state of consciousness is reached where it doesn't even appeal to you anymore on any level you're free. I'm not quite there yet. Just coping hard

 

[anglocelticcel]

Depends on what age you are mate

 

[The Judge]

Yes.

That is why we are all here.

 

[SlayerSlayer]

you dont have a chance so all you can do is cope

 

[peesentinel]

26 and starting to come to terms with how conditional everything is

 

[atheistJesus]

I gave up a long time ago. Fortunately, I found my place in society very early and realized I'm a fucking loser, so I won't even try to approach women.