Serious Should my father be allowed to speak to me this way?

[inceloser]

He always tries to exert power over me or make sure I realize hes in charge of my life etc. No matter what I say to him he can never understand my point of view, it always has to go his way even if my way is slightly better.
Lately, since I don't live with him anymore (he still pays my rent where I live) he's been asking me to video call him once a week. And I've already explained to him that I have been living my life as an ugly incel and can no longer sit down and see my reflection in the mirror as it makes me sick to my stomach and gives me PTSD of the times I've been bullied. I even asked him why he wanted to video call me so badly when we've been fine just voicecalling and he said
"Because I am your father, I say you do."
Jfl he doesn't even know why he wants to videocall me, it's only because I've been saying I don't want to video call him is now he wants to video call. Jfl.

 

[gummybearcel]

He clearly wants to help you. I never had a father figure so it's kind of annoying to see you brush him off like this mate.
If he still pays for your stuff then that means he cares about you. He could quite easily kick you out since you are 18.
Geniunely; lose weight, stop eating goyslop, shower for God's sake (not a meme). From what I've seen you are the biggest volcel on this site: do something about it.

 

[asdfghjqbbbb]

do you actually see him much?

 

[Intellau_Celistic]

He clearly wants to help you.

Sadly, my father was abusive due to my mother's behavior. This isn't an excuse for kicking me though, and it holds no weight at all unless she mutes me.

You, though, have your own. No.

 

[inceloser]

do you actually see him much?

not at all, i avoid calling him at all times. and i live millions of miles away from him now jfl.

He clearly wants to help you. I never had a father figure so it's kind of annoying to see you brush him off like this mate.
If he still pays for your stuff then that means he cares about you. He could quite easily kick you out since you are 18.
Geniunely; lose weight, stop eating goyslop, shower for God's sake (not a meme). From what I've seen you are the biggest volcel on this site: do something about it.

he has abused me, i cant get past that. my own father. i broke down crying in front of my family 6ish months ago. the only thing my father did was point at me and laugh, then call me pathetic. this is just one of many things.
because i got a C in math, he told me he wants to strangle me in the bathtub.
he doesnt care for me at all, my existence is only there to validate his own man-made accomplishments. i fuel him. hes a narcy, and he doesnt care about me at all. if he did, hed listen to me for once, and understand how hard ive had it in life because im a happa and its his fault im ugly.
not mine

 

[Intellau_Celistic]

Sadly

Intellau_Celistic said:

Yes; my father would regularly batter Mother and break things. When angry, Mother would grab my stimming objects and shake them in my face while tightly grasping my neck.

Mother moved into a separate apartment and stayed with relatives, at times. We also had to live with my paternal grandparents.

When I was a four-year-old, my parents and I lived in a duplex, where my father would hit Mother and damage the walls, resulting in holes near a wooden desk she used for sewing. I recall pouring soap in my eyes at this age to stop them from arguing.

When we moved, my father would regularly come home and argue with Mother over anything he disliked. He broke the windows in our living room as well as the windows in our kitchen, he broke a "Leopard Statue", he broke our kitchen table, he broke plates, he threw Mother's computer and clothes into the garbage bin. He'd regularly pound on Mother's room door(Used for crafts). He'd yell at Mother as he was driving her to work.

 

[Intellau_Celistic]

Continued:

My parents were disgusted by my autistic behavior; as a young child, my mother told me that fidgeting with objects made me look "mentally retarded" and would sometimes hit me/grab my neck to make me stop.

In adolescence, my father would hit me and frequently verbally abuse me because I had obvious non-NT traits. I'm autistic and could barely socialize at all when I was younger. I can barely socialize in the "Real World" as of now. I stutter due to anxiety.

I've had women avoid me as much as possible. On one occasion, a foid quickly blocked me from sitting next to her on a very crowded bus. Another fell(wearing sandals) on the ground and accused me of pushing her until her foid friend said "It wasn't him".

Indeed. A bitter "ex friend" made "puppy eyes" at me as I was struggling with suicidal thoughts. This is because she expected me to worship her, as the rest of her (many) orbiters did.

The "extreme romantic attachment" is not from an easy life; it's from mental illness. My "attachment" to people extends into obsessive thinking and fantasizing because it helped me ignore childhood trauma(D.V). I'm an ASD and PTSD sufferer.

I've felt age dissociation since I was eleven/twelve. Although I'm 23, my short height and "abnormal" behavior lead most people to think I am a young adolescent.

I'll chalk it up to ASD and childhood trauma.

 

[Trident]

interesting what if he is not your actual father, have you done DNA test?

 

[asdfghjqbbbb]

he is a white man?

who banged a chink foid?

 

[gummybearcel]

not at all, i avoid calling him at all times. and i live millions of miles away from him now jfl.

he has abused me, i cant get past that. my own father. i broke down crying in front of my family 6ish months ago. the only thing my father did was point at me and laugh, then call me pathetic. this is just one of many things.
because i got a C in math, he told me he wants to strangle me in the bathtub.
he doesnt care for me at all, my existence is only there to validate his own man-made accomplishments. i fuel him. hes a narcy, and he doesnt care about me at all. if he did, hed listen to me for once, and understand how hard ive had it in life because im a happa and its his fault im ugly.
not mine

Ok bro my dad beat me all the time until I almost died, laughing at you is not abusive. The strangling part sounds a bit excessive but he just sounds like he's massively annoyed with you.
I mean, you're not even in charge of your own life from what I've seen. Every post of yours drips with self-pity like you get off on it. You're 18, you should not be on here, lose weight and start aiming for something and taking a bit of pride in yourself. Maybe then you'll gain the balls to tell him to fuck off, if that's what you want to do.

 

[Intellau_Celistic]

interesting what if he is not your actual father, have you done DNA test?

I don't think you get it. Your passive responses make you worthy of being physically victimized. They don't, in any way, justify your claims.

I'm mute, which means you are embarrassed over your obvious BS excuses.

 

[Intellau_Celistic]

Ok bro my dad beat me all the time

No effect

 

[gummybearcel]

No effect

It had little effect other than giving me PTSD and exacerbating my socialisation issues jfl.

 

[Swagpilled]

is your name like julius maximilius the 3rd or why is the censor so long

 

[Intellau_Celistic]

Ignore the lying guys. Let's continue.

 

[Intellau_Celistic]

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Re: Social Anxiety: Will it ever go away? AnonyAnonymous Join Date: 2013-06-23 Post Count: 6332 #146490988Sunday, September 21, 2014 2:58 AM CDT Well, It's entirely impossible to determine whether your anxiety will ever truly resolve, It's a condition that requires you to try to the best of your ability to change your perception of the situation's that trigger your anxiety, It's certainly not a condition that I would personally consider easy to resolve.There's going to be many times when the anxiety affects your over-all thinking to such a degree that you may even become frightened and terrified so much that it could significantly affect your quality of life and perhaps trigger depressive thoughts, It can also worsen in many cases depending on the situation.Over-all, although "Social Anxiety Disorder" may be a very depressing condition that can often cause you to be extremely paranoid and frightened and although it can be a very difficult and to handle and can last for a very long duration of time, the outcome depends on how you decide to manage the problem.

Re: Social Anxiety: Will it ever go away? AnonyAnonymous Join Date: 2013-06-23 Post Count: 6332 #146491038Sunday, September 21, 2014 3:00 AM CDT "Social Anxiety Disorder"Actually, "Generalized Anxiety Disorder" would be appropriate as social anxiety is a form of the disorder itself.

Re: I never understood why people have a " crush" AnonyAnonymous Join Date: 2013-06-23 Post Count: 6332 #147224032Thursday, October 02, 2014 11:14 PM CDT "I'm actually getting over it"Don't misinterpret this statement as aggression however, different people have are each affected to a different degree by "Anxiety" and have different causes, simply because one person may have their "cause" and "effect" well controlled doesn't necessarily mean someone else will their "problem" controlled as well as the other person, self-initiative is certainly vital, however.

Re: I never understood why people have a " crush" AnonyAnonymous Join Date: 2013-06-23 Post Count: 6332 #147224503Thursday, October 02, 2014 11:27 PM CDT "Idc how bad their problem is.Same with most cases of depression too. Lets just blame it on that when i'm sad instead of getting help, getting medication, and finding people too help."The person's over-all thought process and mental state doesn't instantaneously change, regardless of whether they have help or not, It's a process that requires much management and "Medication" certainly doesn't cure long-term depression or anxiety;It can be very difficulty for the person to seek help simply because the negative thoughts they are having has distorted their perception of the situation and they certainly shouldn't be insulted because of that.Over-all, insulting the flaws of someone else simply because they have a condition such as "Depression" or "Anxiety" that negatively affects both their physical and psychology while you're suffering from it or a similar condition yourself is rather egotistical and hypocritical behavior.

 

[inceloser]

is your name like julius maximilius the 3rd or why is the censor so long

I dont know what this means

Ok bro my dad beat me all the time until I almost died, laughing at you is not abusive. The strangling part sounds a bit excessive but he just sounds like he's massively annoyed with you.
I mean, you're not even in charge of your own life from what I've seen. Every post of yours drips with self-pity like you get off on it. You're 18, you should not be on here, lose weight and start aiming for something and taking a bit of pride in yourself. Maybe then you'll gain the balls to tell him to fuck off, if that's what you want to do.

i forgot to mention, moments before that he dragged me down the stairs, i was on the floor and he started kicking me and telling me to "GET UP GET UP.." as he was kicking me i dont care even if my dad wasnt doing all this.
my parents, parents as a whole they brought us into this world without knowing a damn thing about it. they sit their on their pedastls thinking they know everything there is to life. if that was the case then my life wouldnt be a damn hell, i wouldnt have been born as a happa chink subhuman. and even if i was, theyd help me pay for my surgeries and sympathize me everyday. these idiot natalists should be paying for the damn dirt that i walk on. they should pay for the fucking shit that i shit out of my ass too. my dad has done terrible things to me, i will never forgive.

he is a white man?

who banged a chink foid?

yes

 

[Intellau_Celistic]

Ignore the lying guys. Let's continue.

I'll reinforce as much as possible to block her.

 

[gummybearcel]

I dont know what this means

i forgot to mention, moments before that he dragged me down the stairs, i was on the floor and he started kicking me and telling me to "GET UP GET UP.." as he was kicking me i dont care even if my dad wasnt doing all this.
my parents, parents as a whole they brought us into this world without knowing a damn thing about it. they sit their on their pedastls thinking they know everything there is to life. if that was the case then my life wouldnt be a damn hell, i wouldnt have been born as a happa chink subhuman. and even if i was, theyd help me pay for my surgeries and sympathize me everyday. these idiot natalists should be paying for the damn dirt that i walk on. they should pay for the fucking shit that i shit out of my ass too. my dad has done terrible things to me, i will never forgive.

yes

Is there any reason you have to call him at all? You said you don't live with him.

 

[Intellau_Celistic]

OT im coming out of the closet...

screamincows Join Date: 2012-03-09 Post Count: 2182 #147585956Wednesday, October 08, 2014 7:48 PM CDT it's time to confess.

TheChangerDB Join Date: 2010-10-07 Post Count: 14359 #147586367Wednesday, October 08, 2014 7:53 PM CDT I'll shield you. *puts down lawn chair and relaxes* #DidNotDoTheBloodyResearch

AnonyAnonymous Join Date: 2013-06-23 Post Count: 6332 #147586451Wednesday, October 08, 2014 7:54 PM CDT Ignore the negativity as there's nothing wrong with participating in groups on "Roblox".

screamincows Join Date: 2012-03-09 Post Count: 2182 #147586502Wednesday, October 08, 2014 7:54 PM CDT ill remember to put you on my favorite oters list

ProblemOfficers Join Date: 2011-05-24 Post Count: 46350 #147586653Wednesday, October 08, 2014 7:56 PM CDT burn him alive

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[Intellau_Celistic]

Is there any reason you have to call him at all

Sadly, I am a bodhisattva. I have to be objective entirely about hole nature.

 

[gummybearcel]

Sadly, I am a bodhisattva. I have to be objective entirely about hole nature.

Praying for you brocel

 

[PLA1092]

Ok bro my dad beat me all the time until I almost died, laughing at you is not abusive. The strangling part sounds a bit excessive but he just sounds like he's massively annoyed with you.
I mean, you're not even in charge of your own life from what I've seen. Every post of yours drips with self-pity like you get off on it. You're 18, you should not be on here, lose weight and start aiming for something and taking a bit of pride in yourself. Maybe then you'll gain the balls to tell him to fuck off, if that's what you want to do.

 

[PLA1092]

Get a job so he's not paying your rent. Then beat his ass. Easy boyo.

 

[IncelsNeverCry]

He is your father he can speak to you however he chooses and you will listen, the day you impregnate a foid you can do the same to your child until then the father is absolute

 

[tacotown2142]

Get a job so he's not paying your rent. Then beat his ass. Easy boyo.

this. Dude sounds like a major asshole. Start paying your own rent then kick his ass to the curb.

 

[gummybearcel]

Idk what that means but ty ig

 

[BoliMeKurac]

Are you a product of Seamaxxxing?

 

[inceloser]

Is there any reason you have to call him at all? You said you don't live with him.

yes my aunt forces me to, i live with my aunt but my parents pay her to feed me and take my ass to schoo.l. if i lived alone i would never call him not even if he got a heart attack and died.

He is your father he can speak to you however he chooses and you will listen, the day you impregnate a foid you can do the same to your child until then the father is absolute

natalist mindeset

Get a job so he's not paying your rent. Then beat his ass. Easy boyo.

yeah im going back to the states in 9 months, soon bro. soon

Are you a product of Seamaxxxing?

both of my parents lived in california when they met so no.

Dude sounds like a major asshole.

thank you

 

[tacotown2142]

He is your father he can speak to you however he chooses and you will listen, the day you impregnate a foid you can do the same to your child until then the father is absolute

what a cuck.

 

[Intellau_Celistic]

Praying for you brocel

No. No more.

That person isn't the same as the others.

 

[IncelsNeverCry]

what a cuck.

No it's called respect, and it's the opposite, a cuck father is one you do not respect

 

[Intellau_Celistic]

No it's called respect

You lack respect, among many other things. However, I'm more focused on your excuse for your parental failures, which unfortunately are not capable of being erased or rationalized beyond pigment, so don't bother with any input.

 

[gummybearcel]

No. No more.

That person isn't the same as the others.

Ok I will stop praying but I wish all of your iterations the best regardless.

 

[tacotown2142]

No it's called respect, and it's the opposite, a cuck father is one you do not respect

I didn't say the father was a cuck, I'm saying you are a cuck for thinking you're obligated to respect someone who treats you like shit just because that person is your father. why the fuck would he respect a guy who treats him like dirt, mocks his insecurities, and tells him he wants to strangle him for getting mediocre grades?

 

[IncelsNeverCry]

I didn't say the father was a cuck, I'm saying you are a cuck for thinking you're obligated to respect someone who treats you like shit just because that person is your father. why the fuck would he respect a guy who treats him like dirt, mocks his insecurities, and tells him he wants to strangle him for getting mediocre grades?

His father is obviously trying to turn his weak son into less of an abject failure, that is an admirable act in a world where most fathers are content sitting infront of the tv and drinking beer. he might make his son resent him in the process but as long as it achieves results, which it seemingly is by OPs distressed ramblings and awakened ambition it will have been a net positive, quit that soft touch love bullshit you sound like a "BAD EXCESSIVE WORD WENT HERE."

 

[Intellau_Celistic]

Ok I will stop praying

No, Thank you. I don't need you to feign your religious rubbish. This isn't a site for bigoted holes who have no way to justify obvious racism.

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Sorry. Repeat the same, though I won't frame this beyond what it is.

 

[Intellau_Celistic]

Ok I will stop praying but I wish all of your iterations the best regardless.

That wraps that up, for this thread easily.

 

[gummybearcel]

His father is obviously trying to turn his weak son into less of an abject failure, that is an admirable act in a world where most fathers are content sitting infront of the tv and drinking beer. he might make his son resent him in the process but as long as it achieves results, which it seemingly is by OPs distressed ramblings and awakened ambition it will have been a net positive, quit that soft touch love bullshit you sound like a faggot.

This, really. Sorry OP but at least if you take care of yourself and aim for something you might have the opportunity to get revenge on your dad/parents for any suffering they put you through. It sounds like you're at their mercy.

 

[tacotown2142]

His father is obviously trying to turn his weak son into less of an abject failure, that is an admirable act in a world where most fathers are content sitting infront of the tv and drinking beer. he might make his son resent him in the process

No he isn't. treating someone like shit is the exact opposite of that. Kicking someone when they're down doesn't motivate them to do better, it just makes them more depressed and miserable and makes them not even want to try. The results of this method so far seem to a be a son so insecure about his looks that he throws up just from looking at his own face. Wow such incredible results. Does this guy lift even a single finger to help his son get a good job or GF? doubtful.

 

[Intellau_Celistic]

This, really

Re: ideas to more-prevent exploits? UnsourcedAnon Join Date: 2016-01-12 Post Count: 563 #183647399Sunday, February 14, 2016 10:50 PM CST "You're also an idiot for trying to argue"With all due respect, I believe that the term "moron" would be more preferable for an intellectually-inferior and otherwise worthless individual such as myself."Idiot" is much too lenient.Anyway, returning to the actual discussion, I am very glad that we are having an exchange of opposing opinions. It truly establishes a sort of long-term "social expectation" between us, cntkillme.

Re: In middle school I suffered with anxiety. UnsourcedAnon Join Date: 2016-01-12 Post Count: 563 #184675640Wednesday, March 02, 2016 10:33 PM CST "Anxiety" is a fabricated psychological condition.You are only "anxious" because you do not want to conform to social standards.

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Re: Why do people hate fadious? UnsourcedAnon Join Date: 2016-01-12 Post Count: 563 #185289800Sunday, March 13, 2016 6:50 PM CDT From what I am able to decipher, the majority of users seem to dislike "Fadious" for purely hypocritical reasons. They dislike the user simply because "he" has insulted individuals within their Internet social clique.

No. Caucasian.

 

[The Darkcel]

Video call, why? Sounds like a boomer thing. My grandmother was trying to video call me a lot, especially when my brother and I moved out. She never just "texted", it always had to be video calls, it was fucking weird. Hell, she did it once when she was downstairs and I was upstairs (where I used to live before I moved out) and I even called her out on it. Seriously, fuck boomers, they're on their phones / devices more than younger generation(s) from what I've noticed.

 

[cvh1991]

not at all, i avoid calling him at all times. and i live millions of miles away from him now jfl.

he has abused me, i cant get past that. my own father. i broke down crying in front of my family 6ish months ago. the only thing my father did was point at me and laugh, then call me pathetic. this is just one of many things.
because i got a C in math, he told me he wants to strangle me in the bathtub.
he doesnt care for me at all, my existence is only there to validate his own man-made accomplishments. i fuel him. hes a narcy, and he doesnt care about me at all. if he did, hed listen to me for once, and understand how hard ive had it in life because im a happa and its his fault im ugly.
not mine

It’s really scummy when parents say things to their kids like “I pay for your ability to survive you scum”. They may not call you scum outright, but that’s the tone and it’s clear what they mean. They’re effectively saying that they’re the reason you exist and that you’re worthless without them and try to micromanage every waking moment of your life.

The best thing to do (I get this is way way easier said than done these days — I’ve been having a hell of a time trying to land a job) with such people is find a job, even a shitty one, get a couple roommates if at all possible to pay the bills and just get away from them and cut contact. Or if you can get on the dole, whichever. I know I’d rather be homeless sleeping under a bridge or in my car then live under the same roof as my mother again.

If I had to guess I’d bet many of us come from broken or outright abusive homes and were raised ineffectively. Parents have kids because they want to and because it fulfills their life in some way. And that’s fine and all, but for them to then act like they’re doing you some favor when it is their job and responsibility to care for their kids and help them succeed in life is so brimming with ego and greed it honestly enrages me. The kid didn’t ask to be born and the fact is not everyone has a net positive life — so parents having kids is them taking a risk and that choice entails responsibility if you’re not a total piece of shit which many parents are.

 

[psyop]

 

[inceloser]

I didn't say the father was a cuck, I'm saying you are a cuck for thinking you're obligated to respect someone who treats you like shit just because that person is your father. why the fuck would he respect a guy who treats him like dirt, mocks his insecurities, and tells him he wants to strangle him for getting mediocre grades?

exactly this. well said man

 

[inceloser]

No he isn't. treating someone like shit is the exact opposite of that. Kicking someone when they're down doesn't motivate them to do better, it just makes them more depressed and miserable and makes them not even want to try. The results of this method so far seem to a be a son so insecure about his looks that he throws up just from looking at his own face. Wow such incredible results. Does this guy lift even a single finger to help his son get a good job or GF? doubtful.

bookmarked, dude. thank you, finally someone understands.

 

[theshazam]

I really doubt you're that ugly that you cannot make a video-call to your father

 

[inceloser]

If I had to guess I’d bet many of us come from broken or outright abusive homes and were raised ineffectively. Parents have kids because they want to and because it fulfills their life in some way. And that’s fine and all, but for them to then act like they’re doing you some favor when it is their job and responsibility to care for their kids and help them succeed in life is so brimming with ego and greed it honestly enrages me. The kid didn’t ask to be born and the fact is not everyone has a net positive life — so parents having kids is them taking a risk and that choice entails responsibility if you’re not a total piece of shit which many parents are.

book marked.
read every word.

I really doubt you're that ugly that you cannot make a video-call to your father

i am extremely ugly

 

[theshazam]

i am extremely ugly

proof or larp

 

[Esoteric7]

He probably wants to video call to gauge your physical health. Probably worried you’re self harming