Should I do this tomorrow?

[Deleted member 60]

So I'm thinking of doing something stupid as well. This is going to sound gay, but basically I want to confess my feelings to my oneitis. I've been talking on and off to this bitch for about a year now and I'm tired of this shit. It's been constant mixed signals I need to get over her already. She's shown signs of interest and we've hung out in the past, but I was too beta to escalate. I haven't seen her in a couple months. In our last convo I suggested meeting up and she responded positively, but I had to cancel. I was creeping her social media earlier and I noticed that she posted some gay quote ("I'm done trying. If you want me in your life, let me know") later that SAME day. It could be a coincidence but whatever.

So anyways, how can I tell her without sounding too beta? I don't want to ask her out again without making my intentions clear. Friendzone is for cucks. What can I say? Should I just send a dick pic?

@faceandlms @grotesque @sub8hate and any other normalfags pls help

 

[KyloRen]

If you haven't seen her in a while your first "date" should be disguised as a "catch-up" thing. Slowly escalate while on that date and tell her that you like her (nudge forward on the like, implying that you want more than friendship) and want to see her again for a second date.

 

[kodoku]

if you have to try u already failed

 

[MrRogers]

if you have to try u already failed

 

[Deleted member 60]

If you haven't seen her in a while your first "date" should be disguised as a "catch-up" thing. Slowly escalate while on that date and tell her that you like her (nudge forward on the like, implying that you want more than friendship) and want to see her again for a second date.

I appreciate the reply brocel. Unfortunately I did that in the past (minus the escalating part), so I'm reluctant to repeat it. Besides I don't think I have the balls to admit it in-person. Fuckk, idk what to do. I feel like I missed the window of opportunity

 

[Saleem]

So I'm thinking of doing something stupid as well. This is going to sound gay, but basically I want to confess my feelings to my oneitis. I've been talking on and off to this bitch for about a year now and I'm tired of this shit. It's been constant mixed signals I need to get over her already. She's shown signs of interest and we've hung out in the past, but I was too beta to escalate. I haven't seen her in a couple months. In our last convo I suggested meeting up and she responded positively, but I had to cancel. I was creeping her social media earlier and I noticed that she posted some gay quote ("I'm done trying. If you want me in your life, let me know") later that SAME day. It could be a coincidence but whatever.

So anyways, how can I tell her without sounding too beta? I don't want to ask her out again without making my intentions clear. Friendzone is for cucks. What can I say? Should I just send a dick pic?

Look of she continues to talk to and is not obligated that is a strong signal. Just tell her you find her attractive and you want to know do she feel the same. Their is no need to drag it out. If she find unattractive it will end the same rather you take dimensions not, so just cut to the chase

 

[KyloRen]

I appreciate the reply brocel. Unfortunately I did that in the past (minus the escalating part), so I'm reluctant to repeat it. Besides I don't think I have the balls to admit it in-person. Fuckk, idk what to do. I feel like I missed the window of opportunity

If you don't think that you'll be able to escalate if you meet, then straight up tell her that you like her in a message.

 

[a-virgin-nigger]

"i sent u my cock please respond"

 

[Deleted member 677]

You're volcel if you don't try.

But like I said before, PLEASE GO ALL OUT ON HER AND RECORD IT. I'M TALKING FLOWERS, CHOCOLATES, A CARD, A SERENADE, ASK HER TO BE YOUR VALENTINE.

If you're here, your dignity is already gone, so what do you have to lose?

 

[Deleted member 60]

If you don't think that you'll be able to escalate if you meet, then straight up tell her that you like her in a message.

any idea how I could word it?

But like I said before, PLEASE GO ALL OUT ON HER AND RECORD IT. I'M TALKING FLOWERS, CHOCOLATES, A CARD, A SERENADE, ASK HER TO BE YOUR VALENTINE.
If you're here, your dignity is already gone, so what do you have to lose?

fuck that shit

 

[Deleted member 677]

fuck that shit

You take the "in" out of incel.

 

[C450_4matic]

So I'm thinking of doing something stupid as well. This is going to sound gay, but basically I want to confess my feelings to my oneitis. I've been talking on and off to this bitch for about a year now and I'm tired of this shit. It's been constant mixed signals I need to get over her already. She's shown signs of interest and we've hung out in the past, but I was too beta to escalate. I haven't seen her in a couple months. In our last convo I suggested meeting up and she responded positively, but I had to cancel. I was creeping her social media earlier and I noticed that she posted some gay quote ("I'm done trying. If you want me in your life, let me know") later that SAME day. It could be a coincidence but whatever.

So anyways, how can I tell her without sounding too beta? I don't want to ask her out again without making my intentions clear. Friendzone is for cucks. What can I say? Should I just send a dick pic?

No dick pics. Tried that out, got me into a lot of shit. If you have to confess, just be prepared to get rejected. Don't take it too hard. You did an incredibly brave thing. Many of us incels don't dare to confess their own feelings and that's why they remain in this shit hole. This could be your chance to leave this cancer site. Just don't expect her to feel the same way and be prepared to get rejected.

 

[KyloRen]

any idea how I could word it?

I guess it depends on how long you haven't talked. If it was recent you can be more blunt and tell her that you have feelings. If it's a long time (6 months+) than I guess you'll have to say that you've been checking her out on social media and remember the good times you've had together and want to meet-up again. Something like that, bro, I don't know. I'm just as fucked up as you are.

 

[theultimate341]

if you have to try u already failed

 

[blackcel]

How long do you think will she laugh at you after you confess?

 

[Deleted member 60]

No dick pics. Tried that out, got me into a lot of shit. If you have to confess, just be prepared to get rejected. Don't take it too hard. You did an incredibly brave thing. Many of us incels don't dare to confess their own feelings and that's why they remain in this shit hole. This could be your chance to leave this cancer site. Just don't expect her to feel the same way and be prepared to get rejected.

Well I was planning to do it drunk so I can numb the pain and backpedal if necessary.

You take the "in" out of incel.

that is very rude.

 

[Sub8Hate]

So I'm thinking of doing something stupid as well. This is going to sound gay, but basically I want to confess my feelings to my oneitis. I've been talking on and off to this bitch for about a year now and I'm tired of this shit. It's been constant mixed signals I need to get over her already. She's shown signs of interest and we've hung out in the past, but I was too beta to escalate. I haven't seen her in a couple months. In our last convo I suggested meeting up and she responded positively, but I had to cancel. I was creeping her social media earlier and I noticed that she posted some gay quote ("I'm done trying. If you want me in your life, let me know") later that SAME day. It could be a coincidence but whatever.

So anyways, how can I tell her without sounding too beta? I don't want to ask her out again without making my intentions clear. Friendzone is for cucks. What can I say? Should I just send a dick pic?

@faceandlms @grotesque @sub8hate and any other normalfags pls help

Say that you'd like to take her out on a date if you truly want to make your intentions clear. A better game plan is to try to kiss her. Go grab a couple drinks and then take her to a lake or reservoir or a similar place and kiss her there.

Delving into feelings and talking about it too much will kill your chances. 

Keep in mind that you've known her as a friend for a year... You may be friend zoned completely. Odds are you are, I won't bullshit you. The safest play is to hang out with her without explicitly calling it a date and following my preceding advice. The whole take you out on a date line is better for a foid you've just met. 

Under no circumstances tell her that you like her. Under no circumstances ask for a relationship. You gotta play it cool, Romeo.

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Oh shit I almost forgot DO NOT send a dick pic. You want her to send you nudes first, and I don't send a dick pic at all until after I've smashed.

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Oh yeah NO valentine's gifts. You only give a valentine's gift if you've been smashing for months. Only get a foid a gift on her birthday, valentine's, Christmas, your anniversary, and that's it. Don't buy her shit otherwise. No flowers, no candies, none of that BS.

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"just kiss her bro" lol I forgot that you may not have a strategy down for this. PM me if you need help with that.

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Last edit and I'm done, I promise. No offense to anyone, but the advice ITT so far is terrible. Kylo comes closest to good advice, but it's still bad. Never say your feelings, brocels, you need to make physical moves.

 

[Deleted member 60]

Say that you'd like to take her out on a date if you truly want to make your intentions clear. A better game plan is to try to kiss her. Go grab a couple drinks and then take her to a lake or reservoir or a similar place and kiss her there.

Delving into feelings and talking about it too much will kill your chances. 

Keep in mind that you've known her as a friend for a year... You may be friend zoned completely. Odds are you are, I won't bullshit you. The safest play is to hang out with her without explicitly calling it a date and following my preceding advice. The whole take you out on a date line is better for a foid you've just met. 

Under no circumstances tell her that you like her. Under no circumstances ask for a relationship. You gotta play it cool, Romeo.

shit, I'm stressing just reading this. I would go with your first suggestion, but she doesn't drink.  :'(

The safest play is to hang out with her without explicitly calling it a date and following my preceding advice.

that's what I did in the past, but I failed to escalate. FML, it's probably too late. I just want closure at this point, even if it hurts like a bitch. I was hoping there was some way to tell her without getting all sentimental because I know that's beta af

Also, I wasn't srs about the dick pics, lol

Anyway, thanks man. I need to think on this

 

[Grotesque]

So I'm thinking of doing something stupid as well. This is going to sound gay, but basically I want to confess my feelings to my oneitis. I've been talking on and off to this bitch for about a year now and I'm tired of this shit. It's been constant mixed signals I need to get over her already. She's shown signs of interest and we've hung out in the past, but I was too beta to escalate. I haven't seen her in a couple months. In our last convo I suggested meeting up and she responded positively, but I had to cancel. I was creeping her social media earlier and I noticed that she posted some gay quote ("I'm done trying. If you want me in your life, let me know") later that SAME day. It could be a coincidence but whatever.

So anyways, how can I tell her without sounding too beta? I don't want to ask her out again without making my intentions clear. Friendzone is for cucks. What can I say? Should I just send a dick pic?

@faceandlms @grotesque @sub8hate and any other normalfags pls help

Get her alone and be physical. Warning that there's a 99.9% probability that will go terribly. 

You can't wait a year. You can't wait a month. For a female to wait this long for someone, you need to be Chad territory, and you're not.

I can't sugarcoat it, prepare for pain.

 

[Minjaze]

rip op

 

[Sadist]

Just try bro, if she is sending mix signals its better know what she meant than live a life of regret. Im speaking from experience, I had a similar experience as you in high school and never escalated the situation and regret it to this day. Maybe we would have had a future together maybe not the thing is i'll never know and who knows if things had gone good I might not have come to this site. Anyways bro just try and I hope things go well for you.

 

[not_here_4_points]

This sounded so hopeful until I realized it's valentine's tomorrow and she'd have a much greater onus to do something like this. Chances are she's talking indirectly to someone, are you a member of the social media she uses?

Either way, you have to try on this. Less pressure because holiday tomorrow too.

 

[AngelOfDisease]

So I'm thinking of doing something stupid as well. This is going to sound gay, but basically I want to confess my feelings to my oneitis. I've been talking on and off to this bitch for about a year now and I'm tired of this shit. It's been constant mixed signals I need to get over her already. She's shown signs of interest and we've hung out in the past, but I was too beta to escalate. I haven't seen her in a couple months. In our last convo I suggested meeting up and she responded positively, but I had to cancel. I was creeping her social media earlier and I noticed that she posted some gay quote ("I'm done trying. If you want me in your life, let me know") later that SAME day. It could be a coincidence but whatever.

So anyways, how can I tell her without sounding too beta? I don't want to ask her out again without making my intentions clear. Friendzone is for cucks. What can I say? Should I just send a dick pic?

@faceandlms @grotesque @sub8hate and any other normalfags pls help

Reading the thread and based on your replies, I would recommend you to tell her via a message. If her reply is negative, you at least do not have to look her in the eyes and deal with the awkwardness.

And please, tell me the dick pic idea was a joke.

 

[Sub8Hate]

shit, I'm stressing just reading this. I would go with your first suggestion, but she doesn't drink.  :'(


that's what I did in the past, but I failed to escalate. FML, it's probably too late. I just want closure at this point, even if it hurts like a bitch. I was hoping there was some way to tell her without getting all sentimental because I know that's beta af

Also, I wasn't srs about the dick pics, lol

Anyway, thanks man. I need to think on this

Does she smoke weed? Cigarettes? Either can also be used to your advantage.

Yeah, it's tough, but that's the game. Them are the breaks, kid. 

Please don't tell her in a message or over the phone, it never works. I have never once hooked up in that way. You watch the office? Remember the part where Jim leaves that lady a message asking her out and Kelly turned around saying "you just asked a girl out on the phone?!" It just doesn't work.

 

[Reddit_is_for_cucks]

She has probably been getting dicked by chad and Tyrone throughout the time you were talking to her.

Just fuck her and leave her, slits don’t deserve relationships. Use her for as much as sex you can get out of her

 

[Deleted member 60]

Reading the thread and based on your replies, I would recommend you to tell her via a message. If her reply is negative, you at least do not have to look her in the eyes and deal with the awkwardness.

And please, tell me the dick pic idea was a joke.

yes, it was a joke. Any idea what I could say?

 

[KyloRen]

Did you do it?

 

[Deleted member 60]

This sounded so hopeful until I realized it's valentine's tomorrow and she'd have a much greater onus to do something like this. Chances are she's talking indirectly to someone, are you a member of the social media she uses?

yeah. She posted it a while ago though, not yesterday. It's very possible she has eyes for someone else

 

[Weed]

Just fart in her face m8.


but srs..

Are you introverted? Do you sound too beta? Drugs or alcohol. You can't change your personality overnight unless you use substance.

 

[Larrysellers]

Few things, I'm no longer incel but still bad with girls.
1. Telling her you like her or trying may be the only way to get over her
2. It's weird af to girls if you've secretly liked them
3. I think you're gonna have to meet up with her and then in some way indicate your interest. Texting her that you've liked her for a while Ian probably a really bad idea

 

[Deleted member 60]

Did you do it?

not yet. Talking to her now through text

 

[dr-problematic]

if she wanted u, she'd let u know stop acting like horny teenager

 

[KyloRen]

not yet. Talking to her now through text

Goosebumps.

 

[Deleted member 60]

Goosebumps.

this bitch is talking about the shooting. Now I gotta pretend to be outraged, lel

 

[KyloRen]

this bitch is talking about the shooting. Now I gotta pretend to be outraged, lel

kek

 

[Deleted member 60]

it's over.

 

[universallyabhorred]

Another fakecel, guess I am going to have to remove you from my buddy's list.

 

[Deleted member 60]

Another fakecel, guess I am going to have to remove you from my buddy's list.

PM sent

if she wanted u, she'd let u know stop acting like horny teenager

yeah. I feel like dying right now tbh.

 

[KyloRen]

PM sent


yeah. I feel like dying right now tbh.

:'(

 

[FACEandLMS]

So I'm thinking of doing something stupid as well. This is going to sound gay, but basically I want to confess my feelings to my oneitis. I've been talking on and off to this bitch for about a year now and I'm tired of this shit. It's been constant mixed signals I need to get over her already. She's shown signs of interest and we've hung out in the past, but I was too beta to escalate. I haven't seen her in a couple months. In our last convo I suggested meeting up and she responded positively, but I had to cancel. I was creeping her social media earlier and I noticed that she posted some gay quote ("I'm done trying. If you want me in your life, let me know") later that SAME day. It could be a coincidence but whatever.

So anyways, how can I tell her without sounding too beta? I don't want to ask her out again without making my intentions clear. Friendzone is for cucks. What can I say? Should I just send a dick pic?

@faceandlms @grotesque @sub8hate and any other normalfags pls help

The best thing you can do is invite her out again, if she responds positively then that might be your chance to confess your feelings BUT...

having said that, from your op, I get the impression that you are socially inept, will come across and clingy and cringy (you said "confess your feelings" - way too invested!), and would be suicidal if you got rejected. If I had some indication from your posts that you were NT, I would maybe suggest asking her out but in your case, I think you should just give it a miss. Your chances were probably higher the last time, but you chickened out, right?

 

[ImDying]

So I'm thinking of doing something stupid as well. This is going to sound gay, but basically I want to confess my feelings to my oneitis. I've been talking on and off to this bitch for about a year now and I'm tired of this shit. It's been constant mixed signals I need to get over her already. She's shown signs of interest and we've hung out in the past, but I was too beta to escalate. I haven't seen her in a couple months. In our last convo I suggested meeting up and she responded positively, but I had to cancel. I was creeping her social media earlier and I noticed that she posted some gay quote ("I'm done trying. If you want me in your life, let me know") later that SAME day. It could be a coincidence but whatever.

So anyways, how can I tell her without sounding too beta? I don't want to ask her out again without making my intentions clear. Friendzone is for cucks. What can I say? Should I just send a dick pic?

@faceandlms @grotesque @sub8hate and any other normalfags pls help

lol whatever you do don't send her a dick pic. Just ask her to catch up and tell her in person.

 

[uglylifematters]

it's over.

she said no?

 

[ArtoriasWolf]

If I could go back in time I would have avoided as much as possible don't make your life worse.

 

[a-virgin-nigger]

How did it go?

 

[Tellem--T]

How did it go?

 

[Deleted member 60]

The best thing you can do is invite her out again, if she responds positively then that might be your chance to confess your feelings BUT...

having said that, from your op, I get the impression that you are socially inept, will come across and clingy and cringy (you said "confess your feelings" - way too invested!), and would be suicidal if you got rejected. If I had some indication from your posts that you were NT, I would maybe suggest asking her out but in your case, I think you should just give it a miss. Your chances were probably higher the last time, but you chickened out, right?

My social skills are decent, but I'm too high inhib to escalate or make my intentions clear (especially in person). I normally wouldn't consider something like this because I know it's cringy af, which is why I asked how I could word it. I just wanted closure on this, I'm tired of the BS. I can't be friends with females, it's fucking torture. I wish you were online earlier. Maybe you could have helped me.

Anyway, here's the update:

• we made small talk for a while, thought it was going well
• I eventually asked her what she's up to today
• she told me that she doesn't have any plans, just chilling at home
• I suggested we meet up
  
• "ah unfortunately I'm sick so I can't tonight. Sorry! I totally would have too! We need to chill soon though"

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"i sent u my cock please respond"

I should've just listened to you.

 

[FACEandLMS]

My social skills are decent, but I'm too high inhib to escalate or make my intentions clear (especially in person). I normally wouldn't consider something like this because I know it's cringy af, which is why I asked how I could word it. I just wanted closure on this, I'm tired of the BS. I can't be friends with females, it's fucking torture
I wish you were online earlier. Maybe you could have helped me.

Anyway, here's the update:

• we made small talk for a while
• I eventually asked her what she's up to today
• she told me that she doesn't have any plans, just chilling at home
• I suggested we meet up
• "ah unfortunately I'm sick so I can't tonight. Sorry! I totally would have too! We need to chill soon though"

Well that wasn't a harsh blowout but she didn't suggest another time which is concerning. Consider this on its deathbed, likely over. If she had just left it at "I'm sick so I can't" then I would have said it's 100% over, but the way she said: "We need to chill soon" means there is a glimmer of hope. If you had normal inhibition levels, and came onto her like A YEAR AGO, your chances would probably be better than now.

LAST CHANCE SALOON NOW: I would go no contact for a while, like a week. Then next Thursday (not  Feb 15th), ask her if she wants to go do X with you at the weekend. That is enough time for her to plan ahead. Now, if she rejects you again, DELETE HER NUMBER and FORGET SHE EXISTS. Then you will have your answer.

But methinks you will fuck this up even if you did get a date with her because of your inhibition levels.

 

[a-virgin-nigger]

My social skills are decent, but I'm too high inhib to escalate or make my intentions clear (especially in person). I normally wouldn't consider something like this because I know it's cringy af, which is why I asked how I could word it. I just wanted closure on this, I'm tired of the BS. I can't be friends with females, it's fucking torture. I wish you were online earlier. Maybe you could have helped me.

Anyway, here's the update:

• we made small talk for a while, thought it was going well
• I eventually asked her what she's up to today
• she told me that she doesn't have any plans, just chilling at home
• I suggested we meet up
  
• "ah unfortunately I'm sick so I can't tonight. Sorry! I totally would have too! We need to chill soon though"

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I should've just listened to you.

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It was GOAT advice

 

[not_here_4_points]

yeah. She posted it a while ago though, not yesterday. It's very possible she has eyes for someone else

Sorry I misunderstood that.

And unfortunate it didn't work but good for you making the effort.

 

[Incelibate anarchist]

You should try one more time before giving up, if she's texing you then you might have a shot.