All day I dream about sex with another person
Allana Pratt Intimacy Expert understands that her, "biggest fear about being a virgin when I got married was that I was only going to be with one person my entire life."
Question: My biggest fear about being a virgin when I got married was that I was only going to be with one person my entire life. Fast forward 12 years later, I am happily married, I love my husband, he’s my best friend and I could not have a more fulfilling life… BUT…all day every day I daydream about having sex with another person. If I see an attractive man on the street or at the movies or on the TV, my mind wanders to how sex would be with that person. I’m fulfilled by my husband but the urge to cheat on him is incredibly strong. What should I do? Will this pass? Is it a phase? Did I make a horrible mistake?
Answer: My friend, your feelings are absolutely normal, healthy and justified. If you’ve never experienced sexuality with anyone other than your husband, of course you are curious.
I’ve coach several couples through various solutions that certainly aren’t traditional or even politically correct by most standards… But they worked for them and their marriages are now stronger. For example one couple chose an open marriage. Another chose a hall pass for the summer. Yet I must say these are risky propositions and if both people aren’t present and conscious. It can backfire in a big way. Feelings can get hurt beyond repair. I am sensing you also know the pain that an affair would cause… and I’m grateful you reached out to talk about this now.
I’ve been a relationship intimacy expert for almost 2 decades. Not only am I masterful at the results I provide for my clients, I am a perpetual student always growing and learning the latest in quantum psychology, brain science, quantum physics and divine energy. I’ve been trained in accelerated evolutionary processes where the brain doesn’t know the difference between whether you experience sex with another man for real… or with another man’s in your minds eye.
My whole hearted recommendation would be to register today for a discounted strategy session with me so we can get clear about the costs and benefits of each possibility… let’s get clear on your highest path of evolution. And should we choose, I will take you through a series of sessions where you could realize the fulfillment of other partners, without ever having sex with any of them.
After a few sessions I sense this urge to cheat on your husband would dissolve and you would also be fulfilled in your fantasies while being more present and fulfilled by your husband. Should you experience only relief and not complete fulfillment, then I would guide you on how to have a healthy, mature, conscious, honoring, respectful and honest conversation with your husband about what’s possible so that both of you could be best friends, wonderful marriage partners and fulfilled lovers.
To end this inner suffering, let’s connect in a non judgmental unconditionally loving space. I invite you to register today at
www.allanapratt.com/connect
I really want you to know how much I respect and admire you for reaching out to me. Many people would simply go have an affair and then the guilt would eat away at them for year. It might make them sick in their bodies or the shame would ultimately destroy the marriage anyways.
Well done brave women. I look forward to seeing you in my calendar, all my love, Allana
