Venting Reoccurring theme with Inceldom/No love reinforcement

[m3nt4Lbl0ck3d]

This ALWAYS happens to me - I'm trying to better my life for myself, cleaning up my habits, smoking weed was a BIG cope for me and has been for about half of my life. I still smoke cigarettes but I have cut down drastically and it's one of my only copes at this point.

For the last almost 3 months I have cleaned up my act, started eating properly, exercising/working out regularly, eating balanced and nutritionally, I only drink water after one coffee in the morning and than the rest of the day is regulated and properly following my daily hydration/water needs.

Everything has been going great but once again I have hit that wall, the wall of running out of motivation because it all starts to feel pointless, it all starts to feel like a waste effort because I'm never going to actually be truly happy (or at least that's what the brain convinces me).

I feel like this is common occurring theme among many of us here and our lives, we want to do so many things, but without companionship it just feels like a wasted effort. The last two days have been especially hard and I haven't done anything as far as excercise/working out goes which I really enjoy and relish tbh.
It's always up, up, up and than slowly down, down, down and back to square one.

This will be the third day so far I have broken my cycle of effort as far as working on my exercise/workout routines and it's mentally doing a number on me. I absolutely hate this SHIT.

I guess all I'm saying is, keep going, whatever it is you're doing just keep going - I just wish for the life of us ALL that we had some outside motivation and not just our own empty dried up barrels of hope and cope.

 

[luciolencerr]

its a common theme when it comes to coping with diet and exercise. micromanaging shit like diet is mentally draining, like tracking down nutrients, putting plates on a scale, writing it all down, it screws your mentals over and makes you enjoy food way less. imo you should only do it if you have a health condition that forces you to do those things. and if youre not obligated to exercise, like in military for example, only do it because you want and youll know itll make you feel better. ive stopped doing these things and sure i gained weight but im way more relaxed now

 

[m3nt4Lbl0ck3d]

its a common theme when it comes to coping with diet and exercise. micromanaging shit like diet is mentally draining, like tracking down nutrients, putting plates on a scale, writing it all down, it screws your mentals over and makes you enjoy food way less. imo you should only do it if you have a health condition that forces you to do those things. and if youre not obligated to exercise, like in military for example, only do it because you want and youll know itll make you feel better. ive stopped doing these things and sure i gained weight but im way more relaxed now

I'm thin and it's all for building and muscle gain, so the food intake, water, fats, low sugar and everything is easy enough.

It just sucks having that ever looming space in the back of your mind reminding you that everything is pointless anyway and you shouldn't bother and its "okay" to just stop because what have you got to lose anyway.

I struggle with maintaining any sense of motivation towards almost everything in my life at a certain point ALL the time because it all just feels so pointless in the grand scheme of my happiness. That and I think it goes without saying, none of us here are happy, neutral at best, but never happy.

Just wish it all meant something to someone else and not just myself.

 

[_meh]

It's always hard to do it on pure will-power.

The missing link is not having a gf or wife, it would motivate or give energy to any man to do something and provide.

 

[AntoCel]

Everything has been going great but once again I have hit that wall, the wall of running out of motivation because it all starts to feel pointless, it all starts to feel like a waste effort because I'm never going to actually be truly happy (or at least that's what the brain convinces me).

Had similiar experience. I was working out twice a day, i had perfect diet and perfecr sleep schedule. I would only drink or smoke once every two weeks, i tried everything and after year and a half it all broke.

No matter how hard i try i cant really outwork my bad traits.

To be completly honest i wqs much happier in my "red pill phase" than i am now or than i was when blupilled and unaware.

I kinda wanna go back to some of the good habits but without tying them up to expectations of my life actually improving. I suppose i'd like to do good stuff (for me) for the sake of doing good stuff and not expecting ascension and normal social life.

 

[m3nt4Lbl0ck3d]

It's always hard to do it on pure will-power.

The missing link is not having a gf or wife, it would motivate or give energy to any man to do something and provide.

Yep.

Had similiar experience. I was working out twice a day, i had perfect diet and perfecr sleep schedule. I would only drink or smoke once every two weeks, i tried everything and after year and a half it all broke.

No matter how hard i try i cant really outwork my bad traits.

To be completly honest i wqs much happier in my "red pill phase" than i am now or than i was when blupilled and unaware.

I kinda wanna go back to some of the good habits but without tying them up to expectations of my life actually improving. I suppose i'd like to do good stuff (for me) for the sake of doing good stuff and not expecting ascension and normal social life.

I try so hard to do it, I consider myself very much blackpilled too so it drives me nuts.

Just knowing that there is a clear missing link in my life whether I wanted it not just infests my mind like a parasite.

I truly hate our circumstances. It makes anything in life so much more brutally harder. I just wish I didn't desire anything sometimes. No matter how black pilled or disassociated you try and make yourself it's still a blistering constant afterthought.

It's knowledge that you can't erase, piled on with brutal life experiences that you didn't ask for or deserve.

I'm thankful I have like minded people to turn to here because anyone outside this site just has the same, unintelligent rewashed normie bullshit lines they try and instill over and over again. It insults your intelligence because they act like you aren't aware and it's your fault for missing some "prime important point" as to why your life isn't turning out the way you like.

WE FUCKING KNOW. We just can't do anything about accept TRY TRY TRY and hit the same proverbial brick wall.

I absolutely hate society and every idiot in it.

 

[AntoCel]

I'm thankful I have like minded people to turn to here because anyone outside this site just has the same, unintelligent rewashed normie bullshit lines they try and instill over and over again.

Same.

Im trying really hard to become whitepilled, accept defeat and move on, doing stuff i like for the sake of doing them and just that.

 

[m3nt4Lbl0ck3d]

Same.

Im trying really hard to become whitepilled, accept defeat and move on, doing stuff i like for the sake of doing them and just that.

I wish you the best on your journey, I'm going to get back on the horse tomorrow. I've conceded defeat the last 2 days and this one.

We might fall, but staying there is a choice, as much as infuriates me to accept it.

 

[Esoteric7]

I've been looking at listings of flats to consider moving into. But every time I look at pictures of the living spaces my mind defaults to imagining myself setting there by myself with my head in my hands thinking 'what's the point if I don't have a gf'

 

[m3nt4Lbl0ck3d]

I've been looking at listings of flats to consider moving into. But every time I look at pictures of the living spaces my mind defaults to imagining myself setting there by myself with my head in my hands thinking 'what's the point if I don't have a gf'

There is no point, only wasting expense that you probably can't afford to be doing. What is your current living condition?

 

[D. B. Gooner]

If you need motivation to do something you don't want to do it, listen to your body and stop causing it stress. Coffee is dehydrating, water, especially if it's tap water, doesn't properly hydrate so you probably overcompensate by drinking like 4l and piss all day, balanced diet meaning vegetables and bread included is not great either.

 

[m3nt4Lbl0ck3d]

If you need motivation to do something you don't want to do it, listen to your body and stop causing it stress. Coffee is dehydrating, water, especially if it's tap water, doesn't properly hydrate so you probably overcompensate by drinking like 4l and piss all day, balanced diet meaning vegetables and bread included is not great either.

Fuck by that logic that means I don't want to do anything, ever. I don't go crazy on the water, 3-4 tall glass throughout the day, only if active, as your body also absorbs water from most foods that you eat.

I don't balance my diet too excessively, just cutting out pretty much all junk slop, also cutting out sugar/high saturated fats. I'm also putting it down to changes in the brain chemistry as I've made ALOT of changes to my system in the last few months. The body is willing, the mind just isn't coping. Appreciate the input

 

[Esoteric7]

There is no point, only wasting expense that you probably can't afford to be doing. What is your current living condition?

I live by myself in a flat