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Your behaviour is bound to change depending on the day or your mood/circumstance.
People have differences and there will always be conflict and disagreement, those are just facts of life.
Looks are constant.
Behaviour is variable.
A relationship based on variables and not constants is inherently unstable in nature, and thus requires perpetual performance and labour to produce something which is not naturally ocurring (unlike Looks).
Looks and sexual attraction are a motivator to resolve conflict, but a relationship conditional on specific behaviour/performance is more comparable to employment or a business transaction, and it's coercive in nature and potentially exploitative.
A relationship like that can fail due to either failure to perform or resentment due to feeling forced to perform leading to the former.
Normies AGREE that "True Love" cannot be conditional (everything is conditional, the trick is never getting the conditions to change so you don't get blackpilled)
So it can only be based on constants and not variables , better said; the conditions for a relationship should be ones thst you do not expect to change.
That's why they say "Just be yourself", the problem is, as I've pointed out in the beginning, people are inherently conflicting (to varying degrees) and nonetheless conflict is inevitable.
A relationship based on how good the relationship itself is, is circular logic.
Other factors must support it, more constant factors. The more consistent and thus stable the basis of a relationship, the more stable the relationship. Duh.
People have differences and there will always be conflict and disagreement, those are just facts of life.
Looks are constant.
Behaviour is variable.
A relationship based on variables and not constants is inherently unstable in nature, and thus requires perpetual performance and labour to produce something which is not naturally ocurring (unlike Looks).
Looks and sexual attraction are a motivator to resolve conflict, but a relationship conditional on specific behaviour/performance is more comparable to employment or a business transaction, and it's coercive in nature and potentially exploitative.
A relationship like that can fail due to either failure to perform or resentment due to feeling forced to perform leading to the former.
Normies AGREE that "True Love" cannot be conditional (everything is conditional, the trick is never getting the conditions to change so you don't get blackpilled)
So it can only be based on constants and not variables , better said; the conditions for a relationship should be ones thst you do not expect to change.
That's why they say "Just be yourself", the problem is, as I've pointed out in the beginning, people are inherently conflicting (to varying degrees) and nonetheless conflict is inevitable.
A relationship based on how good the relationship itself is, is circular logic.
Other factors must support it, more constant factors. The more consistent and thus stable the basis of a relationship, the more stable the relationship. Duh.