If I understand correctly, you haven't yet seen a hooker, right?
When I see guys talk about how they don't think a hooker will give them what they want because reason XYZ, I always wonder if the underlying reason isn't just fear and anxiety. Just try it, than you won't have to wonder about "is this really what I want?". Simple epistemological question you can answer with one experiment, but can't answer with years of thinking about it.
Other than that, I think having a goal you honestly care about helps. If you wake up thinking about something other than how lonely you are and spend your day working on something that keeps you engaged, it limits the time you are free to feel miserable about yourself.
Since you seem not stupid, I ask you to consider what I said in my threat about sex bots.
Instead of not working - why aren't more incels going into fields that relate to making sex bots a reality.
Electrical engineering, mechanical engineering, computer systems engineering, just anything in the general direction of AI, robotiks, whomever is in charge of optimising the right materials for the "skin&flesh". Lawyers for future legal battles over what is and isn't allowed, what is regulated how.
Tech in the form of dating apps made the sex market into living nightmare for most men. I'm not big on most of the leftist thinkers, much less communists, but it would be a classically marxist analysis to suggest the ultimate reason why slavery was abolished wansn't over moral progress, but technological progress creating more demanding jobs, which required workers with some amount of both eduction and autonomy.
Men are born poor on the sexual market, but once sex bots become a reality this might switch. What men want is easier to simulate - already men are falling in love with bodyless chat bots. Purity, subservience, affection, feeling desired, loved, respected. Loyality. Sex. "Men are easy, just be nice to them."
Once sex bots are real, the playing field is more equal - men no longer have to play the dance monkey to motivate women to an exchange where what women give up they had from birth, while what men bring to the table (for all those not born beautiful or rich) is a lifetime of slaving away just to be maybe married once the women has stopped looking attractive and still getting cucked anyways by someone who never found you physically attractive for one second.
Worst case, both women and men prefer sex bots over human partners. So it's still more equal than it is now. Best case, men have an easier time with the non-human replacement, and women get to experience what it's like being undesirable and unable to compete without any way to clear the impossibly high expectations.
Tech has fucked us, but it could also be a realistic way out of our misery. If your country bans them, as long as one single country in the world doesn't, the choice seems obvious to me.
This seems esp true because there are a bunch of aspies on here. Amongst those autists with higher IQs, surely some could be motivated to find one of the related fields to get into. This also provides your life with a clear mission, something that plays to your strenght and has a realistic chance of being working out and most importantly something that should feel like something you want to achieve without needing outside motivation.
At least this is clear in the path to success, while anything political seems like a pipedream with no clear steps that could be completed and end in victory.
Other than that, I think what helps a lot is thinking about how you don't feel that great about not starving to death right now and reasoning from that to how normal, sexually active people won't be in the same heaven all the time that you would be in were you to switch places with them. They never new how bad it could be, they can't appreciate how good they have it. Obviously their life is better, much better, but not as good as you imgine it to be from your perspective.
If you were starving, you would imagine what it would be like to life in a first world country, all the things you would do, how you would never be unhappy if you always had food.
But you always have food and you know that while having no food makes you miserable, having all the food in the world is not enough to make you happy.
Being happy is a reward evolution hands out to get you to do things. It does not "want" you to be happy permanently, because than you would stop chasing happyness and it would no longer work as a motivator. So even chads and women will to some extent get used to their privilege and take it for granted.
Again, not suggesting they don't have it way better, just noting that when we imagine ourselfs in their shoes, we have the perspective of what it's like at the bottom, they don't and they can't easily think themselfs into it, just like you can't be happy just because you have food. For that to work you would have to know what it's like to starve, or even better, be starving right now.
