Essentially, people instantly and instinctively spot that you're not "normal", through subtle body language cues
Emphasis on "subtle". For example, micro-eye movements, micro-variations of facial expression, posture, gait and voice, etc.
When (non-autistic) people look at an autistic person they don't know, their brain will instantly process the (dozens of) subtle body language cues from this person. It's not a conscious reasoning, it happens in a split second. And the brain concludes "this person is not like me / not normal" => "I don't like them".
They don't consciously, themselves, know why they dislike us. All they know is that they felt an instant dislike out of nowhere for us. So they'll try to explain it, by saying we give off a "bad vibe". Or they'll later retroactively justify it by using any specific behavior we have and they don't like (eg. infodumping, interrupting people, etc).
But the truth is that they didn't like you even before you started infodumping, they disliked you even before hearing you talk or knowing your name or anything about you, just seeing you was literally enough.
Even masking autistics can't escape it. Masking can hide the more obvious autism signs (ie. "resting bitch face", rocking back and forth on a chair, hand flapping, etc), because the person is actually aware they do it.
But controlling, changing, hiding subtle body language cues is near-impossible, because you're not even aware you do it, it's literally as automatic and unconscious as breathing.
Emphasis on "subtle". For example, micro-eye movements, micro-variations of facial expression, posture, gait and voice, etc.
When (non-autistic) people look at an autistic person they don't know, their brain will instantly process the (dozens of) subtle body language cues from this person. It's not a conscious reasoning, it happens in a split second. And the brain concludes "this person is not like me / not normal" => "I don't like them".
They don't consciously, themselves, know why they dislike us. All they know is that they felt an instant dislike out of nowhere for us. So they'll try to explain it, by saying we give off a "bad vibe". Or they'll later retroactively justify it by using any specific behavior we have and they don't like (eg. infodumping, interrupting people, etc).
But the truth is that they didn't like you even before you started infodumping, they disliked you even before hearing you talk or knowing your name or anything about you, just seeing you was literally enough.
Even masking autistics can't escape it. Masking can hide the more obvious autism signs (ie. "resting bitch face", rocking back and forth on a chair, hand flapping, etc), because the person is actually aware they do it.
But controlling, changing, hiding subtle body language cues is near-impossible, because you're not even aware you do it, it's literally as automatic and unconscious as breathing.
