Porn is coping. The proclaimed danger is, that it prevents you from putting more effort in "real" dates, finding real spouses etc.
The gap between the easiness and satisfaction through porn and the availability of "real" dates / sex contacts couldn't be farther.
With porn you can create a equilibrium to feel quiet okay and not being urged too much by sexual needs.
The truth is, that you behave much more secure in real life dating, if you are not needy / horny.
The normal, socially accepted way is to put half a million coins in a house and car and thousand other services to attract and keep a spouse.
You build a Cowshed to have a glass of milk from time to time so to speak.
That makes society happy but not necessarily you. Look at the normy males. Do they look happy or satisfied in general?
They take out their perverse whims on the Incels, which they’re not allowed to act out on their wives — or which may even arise from their wifes.
And for casual dating you need to be a chad. They indeed look happy and satisfied. But it's a really small group.
From time to time I try to use dating sites, forums or other ways to try, if there is a middle way to get spouse in a more socially accepted way.
But it's a really painful experience. It's increasing my sadness to an almost unbearable amount.
It reminds me that I'm out: I'm too old, too bad and too weird.
I carry on. Because after a while the sadness transforms into an incredible hate.
It at least eases the sadness, even if not the pain.
For the young folks. They should try everything possible to get active and date in real life. It is not getting easier with age.
That is one of the big lies from the PUA scene (that it would get better with age. or women prefer older man.). The old guys that are successful where successful young guys.