I've always liked "hebephilia" better, but since people understand "ephebephilia" as liking older teens, it sounds less extreme.
I don't most people understand much about them, I think many might take using "ephebo-" instead of "hebe-" as some kind of code-speak for the same thing, couched in an extra syllable
But since neither is accepted anyway nowadays, it doesn't matter a lot. I'll go with "hebephilia" from now on.
I actually prefer to avoid the -philia suffixes altogether since I don't embrace the idea that I have a consistent long-term preference to any particular age group.
Can't be a pedophile if you occasionally prefer mid-pubescent girls.
Can't be a hebephile if you occasionally prefer pre-pubescent girls.
Can't be EITHER if you occasionally occur post-pubescent girls.
I guess for some people, they find just one group so overwhelmingly is "perfect" for them that they fix on it for 6+ months without wavering, but I've never felt that way. It's hard for me to "favorite" anything. Age, race, species, height, personality, virginity, muscle, fat, etc... blah
This type of fixation is probably more prevalent with "just 1 waifu for me" monoamorous personality types. I tend to go for the entire harem of every single show I watch. My mindset is too inclusive and too polygynous to have a preference.
Personally, I'd be super patient with my hypothetical young wife/bride/gf about it. No hurry at all to penetrate, I'd do just fine with other practices until she could do it comfortably.
I'm still a virgin, because I've only had condom prostitute sex and never even climaxed inside a girl.
Did you climax inside the condom while it was inside the prostitute?