I am currently in my mid 20s and i am already struggling hard to cope every day, its way harder then it was as teenage guy.
How do u guys in your 30s or 40s even cope?
How do u guys in your 30s or 40s even cope?
No, it gets worse
It always gets worse
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barely cope
i am still in my early 20s but I think as you grow older not being able to leave your genetic vessel into this world must feel horrible, loneliness in 40+ age range is tragic
If truly Accept the blackpill It should be easy
M
you havent even entered the shit yet at 25
Somehow both
This is correct. You come to accept it. At the same time, it gets more depressing. But you also have copes that you know work. But then again, the copes don't work as well.
Eventually, I suspect you reach your 60s and blow your brains out. No point in living into your 60s all alone in an elderly home lol
Yup.
It gets easier in the sense that you learn to accept your lot in life. You just accept that this is the way things are going to be.
It gets worse in almost every other aspect though. Declining health, less energy, slower reaction times, you're not as mentally sharp, poorer memory, less (and eventually non-existent) social opportunities, you don't enjoy your copes like you used to when you were young, eventually you realize the world you grew up in is long gone and you become increasingly out of touch...
Aging is brutal regardless of inceldom. Also just as a heads up, the decline starts much earlier than a lot of people realize. Some people think you become an adult, then stay the same for decades and just wake up an old man when you're 60. But the decline starts way earlier. You'll start feeling the effects of aging before your 20s are up. Good genetics and a healthy lifestyle can delay it a little, but ultimately father time remains undefeated.
My plan is suicide the day before my 60th birthday.
Also, agreed. Although, I'd say overall it's easier simply because you care less and just feel weltschmerz.
I guess you feel less of the pain, you just accept it.
I cannot imagine living past 60. It would be too hard imo. Better just to finish it then to die slow in a nursing home. I know a few 60+ incels, however. So maybe things change. Maybe AI will provide us robo lolis.
I'm early 20s, knowing that it gets worse is quite scary. Honestly makes me wanna rope knowing I have 60 years more of this
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I am almost 45.
It gets easier in the sense that your sex drive goes down.
So, not getting sex is a little less frustrating.
But…..just a tiny bit less.
It gets harder in the way that many years of life with never having a girlfriend has driven you completely insane.
It gets easier in the sense that your sex drive goes down.
So, not getting sex is a little less frustrating.
But…..just a tiny bit less.
It gets harder in the way that many years of life with never having a girlfriend has driven you completely insane.
It got worse for me
Not a chance make id it to 35.
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this.
in my case, i as i get older, health issues start to pile up. and you're on your own for all of it.
M
Bro, pain, bad eyesight, yes, it gets worse
I'm 48, in my case it has gotten easier, the main reasons being that my sex drive has decreased and also reading redpill theory some years ago (specifically Rollo Tomassi, it's not PUA stuff) helped me to understand why I never had what women want.
Understanding all of that pulled me out of my state of confusion about how things worked in life, so to speak, and that was a big relief for me. For some reason even if reality is depressing, understanding why it is that way helps me.
My copes are the usual, porn, videogames, but I also like art to an extent (comics and music mainly), and it's true that with time they kind of stop being as effective as before, but they're still nice.
I think in my case what helped me to endure my 20s and 30s is that I was still living with my parents so in a way I had a refuge from the world (even though I still had conflicts with my parents, being an only son failure and all of that), and back then my copes were very effective.
Between 38 and 47 I moved out of my parents house and shared rented flats with younger normies in a last-ditch effort to normalize, but it didn't work out, the social interactions caused me so much pain and anxiety that I ended up a bit mentally broken for a while, to the point that I had to abandon my line of work (software development) cause it was adding to the anxiety. I had suicidal thoughts for a while around this time and also a health crisis during which I almost deliberately didn't go to the hospital (I went at the last minute), so in a sense I almost tried to kill myself.
However during that time both my parents died and now I've moved back to the family house, so the good thing is that I can isolate myself and I only interact whenever I choose or when I need money. Also my expenses have reduced a lot since I'm not paying rent, I lucked out in this regard.
I think I'll probably reach 60 in this state, after that I don't really care.
Understanding all of that pulled me out of my state of confusion about how things worked in life, so to speak, and that was a big relief for me. For some reason even if reality is depressing, understanding why it is that way helps me.
My copes are the usual, porn, videogames, but I also like art to an extent (comics and music mainly), and it's true that with time they kind of stop being as effective as before, but they're still nice.
I think in my case what helped me to endure my 20s and 30s is that I was still living with my parents so in a way I had a refuge from the world (even though I still had conflicts with my parents, being an only son failure and all of that), and back then my copes were very effective.
Between 38 and 47 I moved out of my parents house and shared rented flats with younger normies in a last-ditch effort to normalize, but it didn't work out, the social interactions caused me so much pain and anxiety that I ended up a bit mentally broken for a while, to the point that I had to abandon my line of work (software development) cause it was adding to the anxiety. I had suicidal thoughts for a while around this time and also a health crisis during which I almost deliberately didn't go to the hospital (I went at the last minute), so in a sense I almost tried to kill myself.
However during that time both my parents died and now I've moved back to the family house, so the good thing is that I can isolate myself and I only interact whenever I choose or when I need money. Also my expenses have reduced a lot since I'm not paying rent, I lucked out in this regard.
I think I'll probably reach 60 in this state, after that I don't really care.
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when did your guys sex drive go down? mine is still crazy high, same level as it was when i was 12
I'd say roughly once I entered my 40s the intrusive thoughts became somewhat less frequent. There could be other factors, for example I'm very fat which probably tends to decrease it.
I average 2-3 faps per day, although some of those happen because of boredom.
However I also think that in my case the previous suffering came more from unsatisfied life expectations and not understanding why I had always been rejected, once that changed I became a bit more content with my life and the moral pain was considerably lessened.
Who knows, maybe the physical sexual impulse was never that strong in me, I've had years to go to whores and I still didn't do it.
Must be brutal to see your loved ones die
You get lots of knowledge, experience and are finally able to completely accept some harsh truths most people have to digest for a long time before finally accepting. On the other hand, life gets objectively worse the older you get in terms of physical fitness, looks and expectations from society. After a certain age as a man, you basically have 0 leeway unless you force it through sheer power.
I'm in my 30s and it's impossible to not stand out as most people nowadays are settled, have kids or if they are single, regularly date. There really isn't any excuse if nobody has ever seen you with a gf at my age. When I was 23 people assumed you just had casual sex or dated without anything serious but that isn't plausible anymore. I have a few other incel friends and we've bonded more over this trauma and it isn't really shameful anymore I guess. We all used to LARP and lie about having a dating life when younger now we just laugh about how over it is together, and that's pretty nice. So I feel less insecure about it but it's also a permanent market that will lose you social respect among family, colleague etc. I definitely come off as a "weirdo" for this.
Looking back at my youth and thinking about all the shit I missed out on and all the experiences I could have had drives me insane. There's no advantage to getting older. Expectations get higher for jobs, your body and mind start to deteriorate, women have higher expectations for you, your family judges you more. Getting older sucks from my experience. Maybe you get more freedom/independence depending on where you are or who you are? I don't know. It just sucks having people look at you everyday and think "why doesn't he have his shit together? If I was in his shoes I'd-" without knowing anything about you or how it feels to be trapped inside your rotten body.
You stop caring about this nonsense.
It's nothing more than fornication anyway, and therefore completely worthless.
Indifferent if you neet , if you put in effort however and are aware of the bullshit then yea . Good Luck on not Imploding ( if your aware )
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