Serious Oldcels, have any of you lost your desire for a gf/wife

[Despondent Dreamer]

As that's what has happened to me, and I'm by no measure particularly old at 27.

The best way that I can describe it is that it's similar to a game you heard about and initially wanted to play, only to have the game be delayed for years on end, and in the process of waiting you slowly lose all interest. Of course the reality is actually a lot worse than that, but it's the closest comparison which I can come up with.

After enough bad experiences, failures, and exposure to the blackpill, I've completely lost my desire for a gf. The sad thing is that a partner was for many years the main thing which I wanted from life, but I haven't found anything to replace that desire with. Instead I've become entirely disillusioned with what I previously wanted, and I have no idea what to do. Often I sit around just asking myself "what do I want to do", but I can't come up with many answers. Mostly I just want this shitty experience of life to be over tbh.

 

[FrothySolutions]

I never wanted a girlfriend or wife. I always wanted to slay. Slay within a social environment. Like a school.

 

[Lycan]

I never wanted a girlfriend or wife. I always wanted to slay. Slay within a social environment. Like a school.

for me it's the opposite. I want someone to hold me and love me and care for me and be there for me. I need that long term

 

[Restart80]

I never wanted a girlfriend or wife. I always wanted to slay. Slay within a social environment. Like a school.

Sounds like a real Boomer to me. Wanting to be like your peers, who were all slayers compared to today. I mean if you couldn't get one gf decades ago, you were an extreme fucking loser (outlier).

for me it's the opposite. I want someone to hold me and love me and care for me and be there for me. I need that long term

Sure you could also say that was my initial objective, that began in my teens. I'm too disillusioned with femoids to believe such a thing could be realistic anymore.

 

[Despondent Dreamer]

Sounds like a real Boomer to me. Wanting to be like your peers, who were all slayers compared to today.

He's among the oldest users here tbh, so it somewhat makes sense.

 

[Copexodius Maximus]

for me it's the opposite. I want someone to hold me and love me and care for me and be there for me. I need that long term

Same

 

[ConservativeCel]

I'm 35. I sometimes go for 2 weeks without having to commit the sin of Onan: and verily, these are productive days. I'd just want to live a life completely without sex drive. My "mental drive" to find a wife has vanished long ago.

 

[crestfallencel]

yes, there is no point anymore, i'm too conditioned to being alone

 

[Deleted member 39207]

I'm too disillusioned with femoids to believe such a thing could be realistic anymore.

In a just world, the bluepill would be true

 

[FuRed]

Sounds like a real Boomer to me. Wanting to be like your peers, who were all slayers compared to today. I mean if you couldn't get one gf decades ago, you were an extreme fucking loser (outlier).



Sure you could also say that was my initial objective, that began in my teens. I'm too disillusioned with femoids to believe such a thing could be realistic anymore.

Everything you post is erroneous bullshit, how come?

Also I thought you were an oldcel who was around 10 years ago

 

[tang ping]

I never wanted a girlfriend or wife. I always wanted to slay. Slay within a social environment. Like a school.

slayER

 

[Restart80]

Everything you post is erroneous bullshit, how come?

Also I thought you were an oldcel who was around 10 years ago

Coming from a guy who thinks Jews have nothing to do with our problems, I'll take that as a compliment.

Define "oldcel." Personally I'd consider that 30+, and many would be in agreement. I'm 28 though, so you could say I have been Incel for over 10 years.

In a just world, the bluepill would be true

Even the purplepill being true would have been great. Redpill too, though to a lesser extent.

Too bad it's all bull shit. You have and only. Mood dependent or otherwise. Reality is reality. Truth is truth.

 

[Selbsthass]

As that's what has happened to me, and I'm by no measure particularly old at 27.

peercel

The best way that I can describe it is that it's similar to a game you heard about and initially wanted to play, only to have the game be delayed for years on end, and in the process of waiting you slowly lose all interest. Of course the reality is actually a lot worse than that, but it's the closest comparison which I can come up with.

After enough bad experiences, failures, and exposure to the blackpill, I've completely lost my desire for a gf. The sad thing is that a partner was for many years the main thing which I wanted from life, but I haven't found anything to replace that desire with. Instead I've become entirely disillusioned with what I previously wanted, and I have no idea what to do. Often I sit around just asking myself "what do I want to do", but I can't come up with many answers. Mostly I just want this shitty experience of life to be over tbh.

Similar experience, just realized that my desire for relationship is of a platonic type. Often before falling asleep I would imagine the scenario in which I would ascend with a girl that would pretty much be free of the typical foid behavior, share my passions, be kind and affectionate. This was pretty much how I would imagine teenage/early-20s relationship. In the past months I abandoned this habit as I realized it was only getting me more depressed. As I'm now in my late twenties and people more than 10 years younger than me are experiencing something that in my life was completely alien and unimaginable not only does it make me feel old as shit, but also makes me realize how empty this existence is. And I'm not even talking my life in particular, but to know that the attraction is just a result of chemical processes in your brain, based on what you observe in an individual fills me with contempt for normies, soyciety and life in general. Don't know what I'm looking for now, I just realize on short-term copes like gymcelling, vidya, learning languages. Not sure about roping, because I'm an indecisive faggot and I guess SI in me is too strong at the moment.

 

[Despondent Dreamer]

As I'm now in my late twenties and people more than 10 years younger than me are experiencing something that in my life was completely alien and unimaginable not only does it make me feel old as shit, but also makes me realize how empty this existence is. And I'm not even talking my life in particular, but to know that the attraction is just a result of chemical processes in your brain, based on what you observe in an individual fills me with contempt for normies, soyciety and life in general.

This is mostly how I feel as well. I look at this and other aspects of life and I feel nothing but revulsion. I eventually came to realize that most of the things I thought that I wanted were really idealized versions which don't exist outside of my own mind.

My only remaining desire for women comes in the form of my desire for sex, but honestly my libido is so destroyed that this really isn't significant.

 

[SlayerSlayer]

As that's what has happened to me, and I'm by no measure particularly old at 27.

The best way that I can describe it is that it's similar to a game you heard about and initially wanted to play, only to have the game be delayed for years on end, and in the process of waiting you slowly lose all interest. Of course the reality is actually a lot worse than that, but it's the closest comparison which I can come up with.

After enough bad experiences, failures, and exposure to the blackpill, I've completely lost my desire for a gf. The sad thing is that a partner was for many years the main thing which I wanted from life, but I haven't found anything to replace that desire with. Instead I've become entirely disillusioned with what I previously wanted, and I have no idea what to do. Often I sit around just asking myself "what do I want to do", but I can't come up with many answers. Mostly I just want this shitty experience of life to be over tbh.

of course not. Though I desire to be a sex addict who plows thru hoes way more

 

[Emba]

I never wanted a girlfriend or wife. I always wanted to slay. Slay within a social environment. Like a school.

Goddamned motherfucking Santa with your sleigh!

 

[Alone75]

I wish I had.

 

[Meus]

[x] yes
[ ] no

 

[Gamblord]

I can confirm this is a thing. As you age you produce less testosterone and you lose sex drive and thirst for sex and companionship.

 

[Emba]

No

 

[Caesercel]

I still desire a woman. But they mean nothing to me more than sex objects and decorations for social standing. I am in no way romantic or interested in any of the mating bullshit.

 

[Sheogorath]

As that's what has happened to me, and I'm by no measure particularly old at 27.

The best way that I can describe it is that it's similar to a game you heard about and initially wanted to play, only to have the game be delayed for years on end, and in the process of waiting you slowly lose all interest.

interest ebbs a lot of the time but I don't think it ever completely fades, you just learn how to ignore it so often you begin to do it automatically

just wait though it will come back occasionally, your wants to share love bro

I never wanted a girlfriend or wife. I always wanted to slay.

I think this is likely a cope because you don't want to admit (even to yourself) about feeling vulnerable about wanting to love and be loved, ngl.

You've hardened your heart but it still beats.

 

[Deleted member 35171]

I can confirm this is a thing. As you age you produce less testosterone and you lose sex drive and thirst for sex and companionship.

Just TRTmaxx
No reason not to after 30

 

[icantstanditanymore]

I still want it exactly as much as I did when my digits were reversed, but there is now sick indescribable horror (for real) at what is absolutely lost forever.

 

[IncelWithHate]

Younger me wished for more of an emotional, long term attachment but even then I knew the pitfalls of legal marriage and a single parent home with rotating partners taught me how weak the bonds between people could be.

Current me has a massive distrust of women and no longer has dreams of the white picket fence. The frustration is more sexual, though I still LDAR from depression sporadically when I inevitably dwell on the fact I am unwanted, undesired. Usually sparked by seeing a foid that catches my fancy and how she interacts with non-subhuman men. Something I will never get to experience.

 

[BaffleTrot]

34cel here. I still go through fits and starts of wanting to put myself out there, but frankly, even if it were possible for me to ascend (it's not), I wouldn't even know what to do with it. Like, the idea that I would suddenly have to turn into some decent partner (I wouldn't half-ass it) fills me with a deep anxiety. I am so completely alone in life that I don't think I could ever exist in any other state. I think just the stress of knowing that I'm constantly resting on the knife edge of a highly contingent love I don't deserve would really make me go, like, fucking nuts after a month, max.

So, in a purely abstract sense, do I want a girlfriend? Yes, fuck yes. If some genie popped out and promised to make me normal, I wouldn't even think twice on it. But, in the concrete sense... me being what I am, who I am, there's just no point in even trying anymore.