Imagine someone actually giving a shit about you
When you’re a man, especially a low value one, no one does. And going to others when your skies are dark and stormy is weakness. Women find it utterly repulsive when a man isn’t stoic and hardass manly, men find it hilarious and pathetic when a man is depressed or sad about anything. Men have to be strong, deal with their issues like a man, and suffer in silence.
I actually had a blackpill dropped on me while watching the anime Demon Slayer. In one scene in an early episode, Tanjiro, who’s training to become a Demon Slayer in an attempt to save his little sister that was turned into a demon and avenge his slain family, must destroy a boulder using only the katana given to him as his final test before he can go on to Final Selection to officially become a Demon Slayer. He obviously struggles with this because who the fuck can break a boulder in half with a sword. While he’s getting all frustrated and angry about not being able to break this thing, a mysterious boy (who turns out to be the ghost of his sensei’s dead pupils) comes out of nowhere and challenges him to a fight. He beats the shit out of Tanjiro with a wooden sword. While berating him. One of the things he said stuck out to me:
”Whatever the suffering, bear it in silence; if you’re a man. Or are you still a little boy?”
And that really got me thinking. How are you supposed to be a man if you’re just gonna cry and bitch about your problems. It sucks that life is like this, but no one gives a shit about suffering men. If you’re a real man, you suck it up and just do it. Only boys cry. Men do not.
People can call this “toxic masculinity” all they want but until people become fine with men suffering or being weak, until we keep maintaining these gender roles with women dating these men and these men being the most powerful and respected men around, shit won’t change. We either change who we are completely, or we should teach our sons to be men. I am a weakling, I am sad and moody often, but no one gives a fuck. Because I am a man. I wish I was taught to be a man but I never had a masculine father figure in my life. As much as I love my dad he did poorly in teaching me how to be a man. And now I feel like I am suffering the consequences because I don’t know how to crawl my way out.
I would even advise not shedding a single tear around women in the event of something big, like the death of a close friend or family member. Your bros will be there, but women will find it disgusting. Because a weak man is a bitch. And a woman doesn’t want another bitch in a relationship.
tl;dr it’s better to be a tough fucker than a bitch