I've already made a similar thread about myself
incels.is
Both me and my mother heavily depend on others validation, but while I'm passive, avoidant, introverted, she is active, agressive, extroverted.
She is also very low iq, has anger issues, throws tantrums, is arrogant and overconfident and the ultimate display of the dunning kruger effect.
Some of her common behavior:
-She can't help but irrationally shift blame onto others. If she fucks up - it's your fault, if you fuck up - it's your fault, if something bad happens naturally - it's your fault. Most recent example: we have 2 toilets. 1 week ago her toilet started letting out water uncontrollably and she had to get it fixed, ok no problem. This morning, mine momentarily started doing that too and she immediately goes "why the fuck didn't you take better care of it" under her breath.
-She makes anything she does just a tiny bit more grandiose. Let's say she worked for 3 hours, she will say "I just worked for 4-5 hours". She always sneaks in the smallest amount of extra credit, not large enough for you to call her out.
-She adopts elitist opinions she can't comprehend to seem smart. This is the funniest one. I would say she's like 80iq. She parrots the most critically acclaimed opinions and shoves them down your throat acting like they're her own.
Few examples: She makes movie reviews and sometimes gets me to translate them to english so she can post them. She was once writing a review for some Kubrick movie and the review was 5 stars with some vague description like "transcendently beautiful masterpiece". Then I'll ask her what that even means and what she thinks the movie is about and she'll have no idea. She didn't grasp a single message the movie would try to convey she just knows smart people like his movies so she must like them too and she must be loud about it.
The most hilarious example: One time I'm chilling upstairs and she randomly yells out "You know, I think Magic Johnson is the greatest basketball player to ever touch the ball, he was really dominant back when I was younger." And I thought "Okay? I don't really care about basketball." Then 30mins later I go downstairs and I look at her monitor. She liked a tweet that said "MJ was the greatest player of all time". The tweet was about Michael Jordan. She thought it was about Magic Johnson and parroted it incorrectly.
-She falsely turns herself into a martyr, then expects a pat on the back for it. For an example, she had been going to work and home every day for like 10 years, never goes outside and says it's because her legs don't work properly. So I've been getting all groceries and other stuff done for those 10 years. Whenever she talks to someone, she finds a way to bring up her great pain! "I just can't because an illness causes my leg to hurt." And then she will farm your empathy. If you ever question the validity of that she would start screaming at you. Well recently she got health conscious because my raw meat eating got her to go down a rabbit hole of youtube doctor slop. And now she "loves walking!!"
-She constantly rewrites history and tells it to other people. She will force a conflict with you, you'll argue back and she will shut up, then you'll back out of the conflict because you feel bad and hate conflict. Then later on you'll hear her on a phone call retelling the story telling her coworkers, saying she put you in your place and how she had you shook and obedient.
-Tries to embarrass you for laughs. When I told her I ate raw meat she forced a weird judgemental look and said "I can't even tell people, that's so embarrassing". Few hours later I overhear her phone call, once again talking to her coworker "He eats raw meat, isn't he such a weirdo? *uncomfortable laughter* Tell your husband, see what he thinks about it."
-She has these irrational ideas she gets from mass media and will bother you until you fulfill them. She hates the serbian government and makes politics her whole identity kinda like republican/democrat boomers in the US. Then she will read on twitter that the president did something bad and she will sound the alarms. "HE FUCKED UP THE WHOLE COUNTRY, HE FUCKED UP THE ECONOMY. QUICKLY, CHANGE ALL OUR SERBIAN DINARS TO EUROS BEFORE THE VALUE IS DOWN, YOU NEED TO DO IT NOW". She likely doesn't even believe it, she is just trying to manifest our chud president fucking up so she can whine about it some more.
-She is a classic "Karen". I always found it a cringy, overused label but she literally harasses most people she pays to do any kind of service to her. There have been times where she will send me to buy something, they don't have it, she will ask me to put the worker on the phone, and then she will scream at them and cuss them out then hang up, leaving me to awkwardly apologize.
-She is aggressively picky. She will send me to buy very specific things, it has to be the exact brand, size and color that she asked for. She sometimes forces me to call from the store and describe what the items look like. If none look like the thing she wants it's a lose-lose situation. If I buy the slightly different (but functionally the exact same) item, she will yell at me for buying the "wrong thing". If I don't buy anything she will say "You should've bought something in its place".
She is literally King Lear.
Obviously I know my thoughts and feelings and I only see her facade of a persona so my thread about my own narcissistic behavior paints me as a paranoid, low self worth victim, while this thread paints her as a tyrant. But that's all she ever shows, so I will treat her as such.
[Messy thread] Specific struggles as a narcissist
Living as an "avoidant"/"narcissist" is hell on earth. The paranoia and insecurities are too much to handle. Here are some of my very specific daily experiences: -Whenever my hair isn't perfect, I have mental breakdowns and avoid going to places with a lot of people, in case someone I know...
incels.is
Both me and my mother heavily depend on others validation, but while I'm passive, avoidant, introverted, she is active, agressive, extroverted.
She is also very low iq, has anger issues, throws tantrums, is arrogant and overconfident and the ultimate display of the dunning kruger effect.
Some of her common behavior:
-She can't help but irrationally shift blame onto others. If she fucks up - it's your fault, if you fuck up - it's your fault, if something bad happens naturally - it's your fault. Most recent example: we have 2 toilets. 1 week ago her toilet started letting out water uncontrollably and she had to get it fixed, ok no problem. This morning, mine momentarily started doing that too and she immediately goes "why the fuck didn't you take better care of it" under her breath.
-She makes anything she does just a tiny bit more grandiose. Let's say she worked for 3 hours, she will say "I just worked for 4-5 hours". She always sneaks in the smallest amount of extra credit, not large enough for you to call her out.
-She adopts elitist opinions she can't comprehend to seem smart. This is the funniest one. I would say she's like 80iq. She parrots the most critically acclaimed opinions and shoves them down your throat acting like they're her own.
Few examples: She makes movie reviews and sometimes gets me to translate them to english so she can post them. She was once writing a review for some Kubrick movie and the review was 5 stars with some vague description like "transcendently beautiful masterpiece". Then I'll ask her what that even means and what she thinks the movie is about and she'll have no idea. She didn't grasp a single message the movie would try to convey she just knows smart people like his movies so she must like them too and she must be loud about it.
The most hilarious example: One time I'm chilling upstairs and she randomly yells out "You know, I think Magic Johnson is the greatest basketball player to ever touch the ball, he was really dominant back when I was younger." And I thought "Okay? I don't really care about basketball." Then 30mins later I go downstairs and I look at her monitor. She liked a tweet that said "MJ was the greatest player of all time". The tweet was about Michael Jordan. She thought it was about Magic Johnson and parroted it incorrectly.
-She falsely turns herself into a martyr, then expects a pat on the back for it. For an example, she had been going to work and home every day for like 10 years, never goes outside and says it's because her legs don't work properly. So I've been getting all groceries and other stuff done for those 10 years. Whenever she talks to someone, she finds a way to bring up her great pain! "I just can't because an illness causes my leg to hurt." And then she will farm your empathy. If you ever question the validity of that she would start screaming at you. Well recently she got health conscious because my raw meat eating got her to go down a rabbit hole of youtube doctor slop. And now she "loves walking!!"
-She constantly rewrites history and tells it to other people. She will force a conflict with you, you'll argue back and she will shut up, then you'll back out of the conflict because you feel bad and hate conflict. Then later on you'll hear her on a phone call retelling the story telling her coworkers, saying she put you in your place and how she had you shook and obedient.
-Tries to embarrass you for laughs. When I told her I ate raw meat she forced a weird judgemental look and said "I can't even tell people, that's so embarrassing". Few hours later I overhear her phone call, once again talking to her coworker "He eats raw meat, isn't he such a weirdo? *uncomfortable laughter* Tell your husband, see what he thinks about it."
-She has these irrational ideas she gets from mass media and will bother you until you fulfill them. She hates the serbian government and makes politics her whole identity kinda like republican/democrat boomers in the US. Then she will read on twitter that the president did something bad and she will sound the alarms. "HE FUCKED UP THE WHOLE COUNTRY, HE FUCKED UP THE ECONOMY. QUICKLY, CHANGE ALL OUR SERBIAN DINARS TO EUROS BEFORE THE VALUE IS DOWN, YOU NEED TO DO IT NOW". She likely doesn't even believe it, she is just trying to manifest our chud president fucking up so she can whine about it some more.
-She is a classic "Karen". I always found it a cringy, overused label but she literally harasses most people she pays to do any kind of service to her. There have been times where she will send me to buy something, they don't have it, she will ask me to put the worker on the phone, and then she will scream at them and cuss them out then hang up, leaving me to awkwardly apologize.
-She is aggressively picky. She will send me to buy very specific things, it has to be the exact brand, size and color that she asked for. She sometimes forces me to call from the store and describe what the items look like. If none look like the thing she wants it's a lose-lose situation. If I buy the slightly different (but functionally the exact same) item, she will yell at me for buying the "wrong thing". If I don't buy anything she will say "You should've bought something in its place".
She is literally King Lear.
Obviously I know my thoughts and feelings and I only see her facade of a persona so my thread about my own narcissistic behavior paints me as a paranoid, low self worth victim, while this thread paints her as a tyrant. But that's all she ever shows, so I will treat her as such.
