It's Over My goal and hope isn't a gf, but to one day be content with knowing I'll never have one and with how people treat me

[The Wolf]

I never really believed I will or can get a girlfriend. When I was around 17-20 years old, I thought it will happen some day. But I never took "steps" towards it. I never asked a girl out, not once in my life. And there were times, let's call them delusional episodes, in the past, where I thought I can work out, get fillers and a tan, and get a girlfriend like that. I was of course coping. I knew that, more or less deep down. That is also why I never regularly worked out.
Also sad that in any instance, she won't be pretty.

But over the past months, my goal and wish changed. Of course I still deeply desire one, but I'm realistic. Very ugly, 5'4", autistic, 29 years old and never dated. I do not know how to socially interact, or "socialise".

It just wasn't meant to be.

 

[Ambatukam Alone]

29 years old and never dated

Right behind you, a brutal reality.

 

[SewerGoat]

I never really believed I will or can get a girlfriend. When I was around 17-20 years old, I thought it will happen some day. But I never took "steps" towards it. I never asked a girl out, not once in my life. And there were times, let's call them delusional episodes, in the past, where I thought I can work out, get fillers and a tan, and get a girlfriend like that. I was of course coping. I knew that, more or less deep down. That is also why I never regularly worked out.

But over the past months, my goal and wish changed. Of course I still deeply desire one, but I'm realistic. Very ugly, 5'4", autistic, 29 years old and never dated. I do not know how to socially interact, or "socialise".

It just wasn't meant to be.

Agreed. I gave up on the idea of finding a partner. After having learned about foid nature - why the fuck woud i even want to.

 

[pisser]

Agreed. I gave up on the idea of finding a partner. After having learned about foid nature - why the fuck woud i even want to.

Being in a true relationship in this gen is pure cuckery, they’ll always leave for the better guy unless ur chad with good income

 

[fastnbulbous]

I get this. The most painful feeling if you are an incel is hope. I think the worst part about inceldom is still having a semblance of hope for normalcy and a loving gf, when you just know deep inside it's simpy not happening and you will die alone. I still can't entirely get rid of hopeless thoughts like actually having a girl like me, or live like a normie, or get to experience unpaid sex, my brain is still in denial and it's the worst.

 

[Coyote Cooch]

Right behind you, a brutal reality.

same, but at 34 years old..

 

[Coyote Cooch]

Being in a true relationship in this gen is pure cuckery, they’ll always leave for the better guy unless ur chad with good income

even then, they will cheat on you relentless, and maybe leave you still. there will always be other chads, and foids are delusional even if they have the most idealic life. they always want something else.

 

[pisser]

even then, they will cheat on you relentless, and maybe leave you still. there will always be other chads, and foids are delusional even if they have the most idealic life. they always want something else.

agreed

 

[ihatelife2]

Same, getting a gf isn't going to happen, the most we can hope for is to stop wanting one, then we'd feel better

 

[The Wolf]

Same, getting a gf isn't going to happen, the most we can hope for is to stop wanting one, then we'd feel better

Absolutely. But how? I still have the desire, even more so than when I was 17-19, strangely enough. Even if I know she will probably cheat, I still want one. But it's more likely I will win millions in the lottery, these odds are better, trust me.

 

[sirlancelot]

Same, getting a gf isn't going to happen, the most we can hope for is to stop wanting one, then we'd feel better

 

[ihatelife2]

Absolutely. But how? I still have the desire, even more so than when I was 17-19, strangely enough. Even if I know she will probably cheat, I still want one. But it's more likely I will win millions in the lottery, these odds are better, trust me.

I don't know either I'm late 30s, unfortunately I don't think it'll go away because people on here that are older than me have said it doesn't get better

 

[The Wolf]

I get this. The most painful feeling if you are an incel is hope. I think the worst part about inceldom is still having a semblance of hope for normalcy and a loving gf, when you just know deep inside it's simpy not happening and you will die alone. I still can't entirely get rid of hopeless thoughts like actually having a girl like me, or live like a normie, or get to experience unpaid sex, my brain is still in denial and it's the worst.

Exactly. But how should someone who's 5'4" and deformed and androgenic looking and autistic and who does not know how to talk to people, ever get one? I've overheard people say I look like a monster due to my deformities. I do not want some Thai or other SEA girl who only wants me for the money, or any girl who only wants me for the "money" or European passport (I'm not rich, but for them I am).

 

[The Wolf]

Agreed. I gave up on the idea of finding a partner. After having learned about foid nature - why the fuck woud i even want to.

I get what you mean. Against all that logic, I still desire one. Even if I know about cheating and other problems. And even more illogically, I desire a (slightly) pretty one. I just can't help it, I saw that girl on insta and I want her.

 

[t3mcel]

I do not know how to socially interact, or "socialise".

people don't talk about this enough when they demean us. when you have no positive reinforcement and don't get any experience, it becomes increasingly difficult to talk to girls. the "just be confident" shit is annoying because even if we we're mtn-htn or something that social barrier is really hard to overcome.

 

[The Wolf]

people don't talk about this enough when they demean us. when you have no positive reinforcement and don't get any experience, it becomes increasingly difficult to talk to girls. the "just be confident" shit is annoying because even if we we're mtn-htn or something that social barrier is really hard to overcome.

exactly this! for over 15 years now, I did not have a single IRL friend. I always got negative social feedback, both in school and in the "outside world." so I talked less and less, withdrew more and more. I also developed a speech impediment. however, it is obviously much better to be shy and a HTN instead of shy and a LTN.

 

[t3mcel]

it is obviously much better to be shy and a HTN instead of shy and a LTN.

obvi. ive thought about speech classes or something but i feel like would it actually change anything? i feel like atp its just who i am

 

[The Wolf]

obvi. ive thought about speech classes or something but i feel like would it actually change anything? i feel like atp its just who i am

Good point, it might. Depends on so many factors. I'm too old, I have a job now so even less time to work out, but it wouldn't matter anyway. Worse than my speech, other than my looks, is that I can't socialize. But my looks are the biggest dealbreaker.

 

[Giracel]

For me I hardly fantasize about cute sincere relationship things as I once did, all I care about currently is the sexual drive aspect. Maybe I could sexpat somewhere if I had more money/independence. But many of the prime countries for that are so saturated as it is.

 

[Pancakecel]

I'd like that for myself too, then I can just focus fully on copes, for the rest of my days.

 

[Onlywaifusareforme]

29 years old and never dated.

I very much fear I'm approaching your level too. Unless I can somehow, someway get even a chance at dating by some miracle before I finish Compsci, I'll be the same as you in the future. I'm kind of half stuck between a state of thinking there is hope and it's over rn