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in elementary school, many of the people i talked to were typically actual close friends but my teenage years? that was something different. there were so many people i would talk very often to at school but i never hung out after school. there were many people who i hung out with after school in elementary school but in my teen years i only hung out after school with like 5% of the many people i often talked to. i often considered them to be friends but most were just acquaintances that i regularly talked to in retrospect. i didn't ask to hang out (i did with a few in 11th/12th grade but they often reported being busy which happens more by age 16 and up). i usually didn't ask to hang out because i thought back then that hanging out at school was sufficient for a friendship (which i realize is BS) and i didn't realize hanging out after school a lot brings a closer connection. i also had trust issues after elementary school due to some chadriguez kid in 5th grade who i was initially best friends with, had a falling out with, and then later thought i became friends with again until i found out he was shittalking me behind my back. after that, i didn't ask people as often about hanging out because i trusted them but only 99% trusted them i still had a worry at the back of my mind they didn't wanna hang out after school even if i trusted them.
i feel like most wouldn't have been interested hanging out in free time. and i didn't get my license until 23 and a half years old. after HS, i hardly made any friends. i didn't have any real friends in 9th/10th grade. i had a few actual friends in my upperclassmen years. maybe a few of my acquintances were borderline casual friends because i hung out with them once or twice after school (and i wish i did so more) but i had a few close friends but except one person, i lost contact with everyone i used to see in high school.
i'm struggling to make friends in college. i made 1 actual friend and two somewhat casual friends who i see every now and then, everyone else in college is a brief acquiantance. there's one borderline casual friend i see once in a while but sadly i can only see him during break from college because he doesn't go to the same college as me (his college is not too far so maybe i could contact him if possible).
TLDR:
advice to youngcels, try making close friends and don't be the guy who has mostly friendly acquintances but little to no actual friends because once you're out of school you're socially isolated. its harder to make friends as you get older and if you finish high school or college without a social circle, you're fucked. everyone has formed their social circle by then and won't have time for new friends. and guys are not as likely to become friends with a guy as girls are to become friends with a girl.
i feel like most wouldn't have been interested hanging out in free time. and i didn't get my license until 23 and a half years old. after HS, i hardly made any friends. i didn't have any real friends in 9th/10th grade. i had a few actual friends in my upperclassmen years. maybe a few of my acquintances were borderline casual friends because i hung out with them once or twice after school (and i wish i did so more) but i had a few close friends but except one person, i lost contact with everyone i used to see in high school.
i'm struggling to make friends in college. i made 1 actual friend and two somewhat casual friends who i see every now and then, everyone else in college is a brief acquiantance. there's one borderline casual friend i see once in a while but sadly i can only see him during break from college because he doesn't go to the same college as me (his college is not too far so maybe i could contact him if possible).
TLDR:
advice to youngcels, try making close friends and don't be the guy who has mostly friendly acquintances but little to no actual friends because once you're out of school you're socially isolated. its harder to make friends as you get older and if you finish high school or college without a social circle, you're fucked. everyone has formed their social circle by then and won't have time for new friends. and guys are not as likely to become friends with a guy as girls are to become friends with a girl.
