Think about the baseline requirements for a man to even have a chance of getting into a relationship; there’s a threshold for looks, social circle, status (employment etc), wealth, race, personality, cultural compatibility, etc - obviously some areas can overshadow others (i.e. a model-tier guy can be unemployed and get his) but in essence, it’s a TON of hard work.
As if this wasn’t bad enough, then you have to face the reality that as a man, you’re in constant competition with every single guy in your gf’s environment; every co-worker, every uni student, every neighbor, every ‘male friend’ (lol) and so on.
In the face of this reality of being under constant threat of getting cheated on if you slip up or don’t measure up for even a second, I ask the following - is it even worth it to try and become desirable? Me personally, I’ve let myself go in most areas of life, but ultimately I can’t get motivated to try and reach an ‘acceptable’ standard because there’s no way I can compete with men who have decades of social grooming and upwards mobility; I’d get cheated on in a heartbeat.
Anyone else on the same boat?
As if this wasn’t bad enough, then you have to face the reality that as a man, you’re in constant competition with every single guy in your gf’s environment; every co-worker, every uni student, every neighbor, every ‘male friend’ (lol) and so on.
In the face of this reality of being under constant threat of getting cheated on if you slip up or don’t measure up for even a second, I ask the following - is it even worth it to try and become desirable? Me personally, I’ve let myself go in most areas of life, but ultimately I can’t get motivated to try and reach an ‘acceptable’ standard because there’s no way I can compete with men who have decades of social grooming and upwards mobility; I’d get cheated on in a heartbeat.
Anyone else on the same boat?
