Hypocrisy looks aside, i don't believe in "projecting confidence"

[jet112]

i think the world will always have a set way of looking at you. if people percieve you to be fun, you will try to play on that even more
if you come off as an intellectual to people, you will play the "brainy" card
if people perceive you to be "macho", then you gonna play off that card.

basically, you can only play your hand and that's it. you don't choose what image you want to project. or what kind of person you want to be today.
to society, you are the same person everyday.

 

[SadRealistcel]

pretty much, people dont really want to know you but they want to know you by something

 

[WarriorSkull]

It's basic behaviorism. If you're rewarded for certain behaviors and punished for others, you will adopt the behaviors that acquire reward and avoid punishment. None of this shit is conscious either. Also, among the most powerful of rewards is validation from other people, in particular your peers and foids. Again, this is all subconscious and there really is no way of freeing yourself from it without enlightened monk tier consciousness hacks.

This is why all self-help shit is basically "fake it untill you make it" and it's success rate is so low. For a small percentage of people, they will adopt some new persona and the behaviors that embodies it and only if they receive sufficient positive validation from others will it ever get integrated more deeply as part of their new identity. For unattractive people, you can understand why the odds of this happening regardless of the behaviors would be so astronomically low.

 

[jet112]

It's basic behaviorism. If you're rewarded for certain behaviors and punished for others, you will adopt the behaviors that acquire reward and avoid punishment. None of this shit is conscious either. Also, among the most powerful of rewards is validation from other people, in particular your peers and foids. Again, this is all subconscious and there really is no way of freeing yourself from it without enlightened monk tier consciousness hacks.

This is why all self-help shit is basically "fake it untill you make it" and it's success rate is so low. For a small percentage of people, they will adopt some new persona and the behaviors that embodies it and only if they receive sufficient positive validation from others will it ever get integrated more deeply as part of their new identity. For unattractive people, you can understand why the odds of this happening regardless of the behaviors would be so astronomically low.

now i think about all of these videos about "billionaire advice" and "billionaires wake up at 5am" and all that stuff
also same about "what do girls think about X or Y guy behaviors. and its the same thing basically.
some people actually think that woman are locks and there is a secret combination to unlock them all. there is no combination that could possibly open the lock. same as there is no daily routine that will make you rich.

 

[PhenomSkillz]

Confidence = be a chad