A few months ago, I was a pretty big incel. Part of the reason why was that I felt bitter and angry for being a kissless virgin, and wanted a scapegoat to blame for my issues. It was so much easier to blame my issues on women than to think about them in any other light. I even on some logical level thought that women actually were as bad as incels claimed they were. I have lived two decades on this earth and I couldn’t remember one woman being kind to me, outside my mother of course.
I felt my worst in that community. I was avoiding the true cause of my shitty life for so long, and this looked like a perfect opportunity to extend my seemingly perpetual avoidance of responsibility even further, but it didn’t make me feel better. It made me feel worse.
When I started to have my doubts about this ‘support group’, I found this sub, and it certainly helped me on my decision to leave that wretched hive. I started to browse some of the perspectives here, and it made me feel like such an idiot for allowing my emotions to drive me to prescribe myself such horseshit for so long.
Sure, I’m still a kissless virgin with no social life or hobbies, but I’m better than the person I was yesterday because I’m not a kissless virgin with no social life or hobbies that hates and blames women. Perhaps, in time, I can overcome the rest.
Thank you all.
