Discussion It's up to you whether you are confident about yourself and what you're doing in life or not

[Hoppipolla]

It's all about perception, right?

It doesn't really matter who you are or what you are doing in life, with regards to confidence. It just matters how YOU see it all.

This is just something I've been thinking about recently so I wanted to share it here in case it helps anyone

 

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[Pancakecel]

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[Deleted member 37146]

Well it only works if you are drugged up or low IQ. For me, I just can't fool myself into thinking I'm some hot shit. I just overthink everything and will always think I'm worse than everyone else in every aspect of life.
So no, confidence is either a sign of low IQ (don't even realise you are bad ) or a chad trait.
Confidence comes from reality afterall, and each time you go out there you will be confronted with the reality that your confidence is unfounded, and unless you are low IQ like I said, you'll just see right through the lies you've been force feeding yourself and break down like the rest of depressed low self esteem incels.

 

[Deleted member 19858]

are u fucking retarded

 

[iamsubhuman]

are you an infiltrator

 

[Hoppipolla]

I think we've all seen these people though who have very little in their lives either in terms of who they are as a person or what they're doing in life... and yet they think they're amazing, lol. And they think that everything they do is amazing too.

I think... you can get stuck in the opposite mindset too where you just think you're awful and everything you do is bad or a waste of time or... whatever.

And everything in between.

What I'm saying is that how you feel about yourself and your life seems to be more about your own perception than it is about reality.

 

[Deleted member 38426]

i think there is some truth to it tbh. like some people are homeless yet they can maintain eye contact and talk normally while i am here can't even talk to the phone normally.

 

[Deleted member 36342]

i think there is some truth to it tbh. like some people are homeless yet they can maintain eye contact and talk normally while i am here can't even talk to the phone normally.

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[Hoppipolla]

i think there is some truth to it tbh. like some people are homeless yet they can maintain eye contact and talk normally while i am here can't even talk to the phone normally.

Yeah you can be confident without even having a home or timid while being a successful businessman!

Another thing I was thinking is that... I often notice that when people are trying to have a go at others, they don't just criticise them as an individual, but also the things they do in their lives. Even if they're fine or better than the person criticising, they'll frame things in such a way as to make you and the things in your life look bad.

Sometimes of course the person is trying to offer constructive criticism, but sometimes they're doing this because they know that your confidence in what you're doing in your life is almost as important as your confidence in yourself.

EDIT -- And... maybe also other things like your opinions and stuff?

I dunno, it's complicated. But it's definitely multifaceted ^^

 

[Restart80]

Well it only works if you are drugged up or low IQ. For me, I just can't fool myself into thinking I'm some hot shit. I just overthink everything and will always think I'm worse than everyone else in every aspect of life.
So no, confidence is either a sign of low IQ (don't even realise you are bad ) or a chad trait.
Confidence comes from reality afterall, and each time you go out there you will be confronted with the reality that your confidence is unfounded, and unless you are low IQ like I said, you'll just see right through the lies you've been force feeding yourself and break down like the rest of depressed low self esteem incels.

Unironically high IQ.

 

[mNFwTJ3wz9]

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[OwlGod]

arbitrium liberum fallax est imago

 

[mNFwTJ3wz9]

Confidence comes from reality

 

[OwlGod]

I cursed myself to insanity, how ingenuous of me to not see the inevitable collision.

 

[Hoppipolla]

For the record I'm not really saying to deny reality. I'm saying that for many people their sense of worth in themselves and their lives is ALREADY incorrect.

You can see yourself or your life as better or worse than it actually is.

I mean... it's starting to sound a bit obvious because it becomes akin to "Low self-esteem is a bad thing", which is pretty well established!

But I guess I'm tacking on to that that one can have low... life-esteem, I guess!

 

[MACHETE]

 

[Deleted member 38426]

Yeah you can be confident without even having a home or timid while being a successful businessman!

Another thing I was thinking is that... I often notice that when people are trying to have a go at others, they don't just criticise them as an individual, but also the things they do in their lives. Even if they're fine or better than the person criticising, they'll frame things in such a way as to make you and the things in your life look bad.

Sometimes of course the person is trying to offer constructive criticism, but sometimes they're doing this because they know that your confidence in what you're doing in your life is almost as important as your confidence in yourself.

EDIT -- And... maybe also other things like your opinions and stuff?

I dunno, it's complicated. But it's definitely multifaceted ^^

yeah, it' odd tbh. sometimes i think if confidence is just a product of early childhood development or something else because i feel guilty about my confidence despite others who have it worse than me in terms of looks who are more confident.

 

[Julaybib]

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coooooooooooope

 

[Hoppipolla]

yeah, it' odd tbh. sometimes i think if confidence is just a product of early childhood development or something else because i feel guilty about my confidence despite others who have it worse than me in terms of looks who are more confident.

Yeah for sure. Like... I was criticised a lot when I was younger and I think that has a big impact.

I actually have a lot of kind of self-confidence but yeah I don't have much confidence in my actions in the real world. Which is why I was thinking about the stuff in this thread recently.

I do understand why some of the guys here are saying it's cope because I get that you can take it too far. But I also think you can see your life and actions as far worse than they really are and basically not give yourself enough credit for what you do in life.

 

[SIR ETHNICCEL]

I think we've all seen these people though who have very little in their lives either in terms of who they are as a person or what they're doing in life... and yet they think they're amazing, lol. And they think that everything they do is amazing too.

I think... you can get stuck in the opposite mindset too where you just think you're awful and everything you do is bad or a waste of time or... whatever.

And everything in between.

What I'm saying is that how you feel about yourself and your life seems to be more about your own perception than it is about reality.

It is true. One needs to think of themselves as amazing.

I know a tiny curry manlet who got a young blonde girlfriend. I am short but this curry dude is shorter than me and really skinny, got pimples on his face and he is about 5'25 but he is charismatic and has alot of friends.

He has been with his girlfriend now for 3 years.

The dude thinks he is it and really believes it. So I agree with confidence in one self. I wish I had more of it.

 

[BrazilianLambda]

Just be delusional theory.

 

[Hoppipolla]

It is true. One needs to think of themselves as amazing.

I know a tiny curry manlet who got a young blonde girlfriend. I am short but this curry dude is shorter than me and really skinny, got pimples on his face and he is about 5'25 but he is charismatic and has alot of friends.

He has been with his girlfriend now for 3 years.

The dude thinks he is it and really believes it. So I agree with confidence in one self. I wish I had more of it.

It does definitely help a lot. It is true though that the world might throw a fair bit at you particularly if you have flaws that they can criticise. That has done me a lot of harm over the years because I'm not the most resilient to that kind of thing. Over time that has lowered my confidence quite a bit.

I'm somewhat envious of the people who are more resilient but... we all have our own strengths and weaknesses I think

 

[Hikikomori_cel]

This gotta be The most pathetic cope ever jfl

Well it only works if you are drugged up or low IQ. For me, I just can't fool myself into thinking I'm some hot shit. I just overthink everything and will always think I'm worse than everyone else in every aspect of life.
So no, confidence is either a sign of low IQ (don't even realise you are bad ) or a chad trait.
Confidence comes from reality afterall, and each time you go out there you will be confronted with the reality that your confidence is unfounded, and unless you are low IQ like I said, you'll just see right through the lies you've been force feeding yourself and break down like the rest of depressed low self esteem incels.

This

 

[AmIjustDreaming]

just pop a xanax bro