NotTheElliot
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This might at first seem odd to some, but I think once I explain it, it'll make perfect sense. And it may also sound like a cope at first, but hear me out.
On the one hand, there may be plenty of people who have full sexlives, though there is something still missing, or they are miserable for some other reason. Think of all the men who went through the nasty divorce for example, or end up killing their wives and/ or kids. I'm sure Chris Watts got laid plenty, including with his mistress, though he was still deeply angry about something (killed his wife and daughters). And that doesn't even begin to touch on men like Robert Hanssen, famous traitor who had a wife, 6 kids and a mistress, but still felt a deep sense of inadequacy due to his father. He also felt his colleagues in the FBI didn't respect him enough (that's a whole other story, though it does tie into my conclusion).
On the other, some people never have a desire for sex, or otherwise remain virgins for many years past the "average", but still don't fall into depression or resentment.
The answer: It's BELONGING and a sense of VALUE that people want. Sex can play heavily into it, and for many (esp during certain years of our life) can be the chief element, but it's not the only.
I'm sure some will disagree, and I'm open to discussion. But currently people view many in this community as sex-obsessed predators who must be avoided. If their mental paradigm shifts, they may at least view all members here as human.
TLDR: It's not necessarily sex, but a sense of belonging and value that people need the most
On the one hand, there may be plenty of people who have full sexlives, though there is something still missing, or they are miserable for some other reason. Think of all the men who went through the nasty divorce for example, or end up killing their wives and/ or kids. I'm sure Chris Watts got laid plenty, including with his mistress, though he was still deeply angry about something (killed his wife and daughters). And that doesn't even begin to touch on men like Robert Hanssen, famous traitor who had a wife, 6 kids and a mistress, but still felt a deep sense of inadequacy due to his father. He also felt his colleagues in the FBI didn't respect him enough (that's a whole other story, though it does tie into my conclusion).
On the other, some people never have a desire for sex, or otherwise remain virgins for many years past the "average", but still don't fall into depression or resentment.
The answer: It's BELONGING and a sense of VALUE that people want. Sex can play heavily into it, and for many (esp during certain years of our life) can be the chief element, but it's not the only.
I'm sure some will disagree, and I'm open to discussion. But currently people view many in this community as sex-obsessed predators who must be avoided. If their mental paradigm shifts, they may at least view all members here as human.
TLDR: It's not necessarily sex, but a sense of belonging and value that people need the most