TheNEET
mentally crippled by sleepoverless teen years
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- May 27, 2018
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I've been in uni, I attended non-mandatory classes, extra language classes, I attended language classes outside of uni, I tried going to church, I tried volunteering, it's impossible. People tolerate my presence among them, they even like me, like ask for help during classes or ask for homework, but nothing more. It seems to me that simply no one is looking for friends past like high school. My uni groups barely know each other, everyone lives in his own bubble and talks to friends they made years ago either in high school or thru some extracurricular activity. It's not enough to be nice and share interests, it's all in vain when no one's looking for friends and at 24 no one does. Probably the best bet is church, cos people come there when they're lonely and in bad situations, but I don't necessarily want to befriend degenerate single moms or alcoholics/drug-addicts, I'm not very picky, but I'm like a little child next to them, even if they're roughly my age, we don't share any experiences or even culture (I spend all my time on Engish-speaking internet, so Polish popular culture is alien to me).
I wish there was a place where you could come with the specific purpose of making friends. All these clubs don't work, cos people come there to learn or practice this or that and then go back to their lives. That one hour of being among people in a highly structured environment doesn't satisfy me. People don't look for friends, idk how to make them. No one in Poland uses these "friendship apps" like Bumble BFF. I thought about using this whole Ukrainian refugee situation and plaster messages "hey, you want to learn/practice Polish a bit? call me XYZ" around my city or Facebook (or maybe VKontakte? not sure what's popular among Ukrainians), but I'm also afraid I'll get completely random people I have nothing in common with. They should be at least around my age, have similar temperament (i. e. quite calm/quiet) and preferably share at least one interest (veganism is probably the most normie-friendly one, but that's still like 0.1% of people).
I wish there was a place where you could come with the specific purpose of making friends. All these clubs don't work, cos people come there to learn or practice this or that and then go back to their lives. That one hour of being among people in a highly structured environment doesn't satisfy me. People don't look for friends, idk how to make them. No one in Poland uses these "friendship apps" like Bumble BFF. I thought about using this whole Ukrainian refugee situation and plaster messages "hey, you want to learn/practice Polish a bit? call me XYZ" around my city or Facebook (or maybe VKontakte? not sure what's popular among Ukrainians), but I'm also afraid I'll get completely random people I have nothing in common with. They should be at least around my age, have similar temperament (i. e. quite calm/quiet) and preferably share at least one interest (veganism is probably the most normie-friendly one, but that's still like 0.1% of people).