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Is anyone else disturbed by the idea of a woman actually being attracted to you?

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Greycel
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I hate when I shower or get a haircut then look in the mirror and think "I don't actually look half bad", because the thoughts start creeping in, "what if women are attracted to you somehow?". I'd say I'm a solid 5, I look about as average as it gets but I have kind of a unique face. I always neurotically analyze my features to try and reassure myself I don't have "it", nothing about my looks signal "sex", just "friend". I'm not an autist, I've seen how women act around men they're attracted to, and it's never remotely happened to me (besides an elderly homeless black woman). Still, there's this irrational fear that some women might be attracted to me and I hate that I can't really know for sure. The idea of a foid mentally raping me in her mind is disturbing, especially if it's some ugly landwhale or something.
 
No because zero foids have been attracted to me and none ever will.
 
I don't know anything about that you sound like you have OCD or some shit.
 
I don't know anything about that you sound like you have OCD or some shit.
I do, I didn't know it was that obvious. I consider myself more of a mentalcel/volcel, because I don't see any reason why I couldn't betabux myself into ascension with some landwhale, but then again I've never remotely tried, I don't know what "rejection" feels like because it's never happened to me, I've never "approached" or "jestermaxxed" or anything like that. My interactions with women don't go beyond brief, concise responses. I often have a blank expression, because it reflects how I feel. Faking a smile like normalfags do feels so forced and uncomfortable, so my expression reflects my internal emotions. Bluepilled cucks will say "oh it's because you have such an unapproachable expression" but I know that's not true. When Chad does it he's "dark and mysterious", when I do it it's "school shooter vibes", whatever that means. I often wonder if I was a social butterfly like everyone else, would I still be a virgin? Maybe I'll never know.
 
I do, I didn't know it was that obvious. I consider myself more of a mentalcel/volcel, because I don't see any reason why I couldn't betabux myself into ascension with some landwhale, but then again I've never remotely tried, I don't know what "rejection" feels like because it's never happened to me, I've never "approached" or "jestermaxxed" or anything like that. My interactions with women don't go beyond brief, concise responses. I often have a blank expression, because it reflects how I feel. Faking a smile like normalfags do feels so forced and uncomfortable, so my expression reflects my internal emotions. Bluepilled cucks will say "oh it's because you have such an unapproachable expression" but I know that's not true. When Chad does it he's "dark and mysterious", when I do it it's "school shooter vibes", whatever that means. I often wonder if I was a social butterfly like everyone else, would I still be a virgin? Maybe I'll never know.
It's all good man no judgement here. I don't have it but I can relate as probably many can here, never been social due to early bad experiences which later made me vigilant enough to rationally not bother and people have told me to my face my neutral expression looks "depressed" or "that I want to kill myself". I knew a guy who was quieter than even me during school and people assumed the best about him because he was tall and good looking but thought me a weirdo. A lot of people here could be considered "volcel" since anyone can pay for sex or work enough so that a woman may siphon off him with the false promise of love but the broader scope of being an "incel" IMO is to be a disenfranchised male discriminated against for his looks and status.
 
It's all good man no judgement here. I don't have it but I can relate as probably many can here, never been social due to early bad experiences which later made me vigilant enough to rationally not bother and people have told me to my face my neutral expression looks "depressed" or "that I want to kill myself". I knew a guy who was quieter than even me during school and people assumed the best about him because he was tall and good looking but thought me a weirdo. A lot of people here could be considered "volcel" since anyone can pay for sex or work enough so that a woman may siphon off him with the false promise of love but the broader scope of being an "incel" IMO is to be a disenfranchised male discriminated against for his looks and status.
They suspected I had autism as a kid, later it was ADHD (which doesn't really fit either) and now I realize it was OCD all along. I'm trying the "gold standard" treatment for it, ERP, and it's fucking brutal. Apparently OCD is a chronic condition, it can never really be cured, only managed. In a lot of ways, it feels similarly ND to autism or ADHD, and it's not all bad (for example I have an ungodly amount of knowledge on random topics, or I'm very meticulous when it comes to getting every detail right, etc.)
Anyway, even when I'm not actively focused on it, it's like an automatic background process that just runs in my head. Normalfags often take offense to a "blank expression", but it's not because I hate you Stacy (although I kind of do anyway), it's because the mental energy that OCD demands is quite taxing, I'm too focused on it to pick an advanced dialogue option or force a smile.
 
They suspected I had autism as a kid, later it was ADHD (which doesn't really fit either) and now I realize it was OCD all along. I'm trying the "gold standard" treatment for it, ERP, and it's fucking brutal. Apparently OCD is a chronic condition, it can never really be cured, only managed. In a lot of ways, it feels similarly ND to autism or ADHD, and it's not all bad (for example I have an ungodly amount of knowledge on random topics, or I'm very meticulous when it comes to getting every detail right, etc.)
Anyway, even when I'm not actively focused on it, it's like an automatic background process that just runs in my head. Normalfags often take offense to a "blank expression", but it's not because I hate you Stacy (although I kind of do anyway), it's because the mental energy that OCD demands is quite taxing, I'm too focused on it to pick an advanced dialogue option or force a smile.
Any strange tendencies I had as a kid got ignored and I think I could have something that is more than just standard maladjusted behavior from a poor upbringing. I avoid people a great deal and talk to myself pacing around for hours which I can only barely realize is insanely unhealthy but I can't help it. I don't even care about sex outside of a few moments of vulnerability which is also why I can say I "never tried" but obviously the idea of "never trying" is irrational as a regular thinking person would have nothing to lose FROM trying so despite the fact that I know it is ridiculous to avoid people I can't help but have (not feel, HAVE) this firm standard in my thoughts that I must because its too deep. I don't believe I should avoid people I know I should but I also know that it is a strange behavior to think that way but in knowing it the thought doesn't matter because its always going on anyway.
 
The thought never occurs in me tbh
 
@weaselbomber is worried a woman might be attracted to xim because xe only wants “women” that have a bigger shlong then xer.(it’s not not a very high bar)
 
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