I was reading this book "The Stranger", found it quite interesting and the concept of the "hedonic treadmill" as well.
First of all a lot of people here will agree that due to the "free market" in dating even if you somehow found a relationship, it will most likely be an unequal relationship, this is a situation where one person has all the leverage and options whereas you will have to compromise a lot to continue that relationship, would that be better than your current situation, who knows? I think a lot of people here might agree on this but this is a minor issue as most people would rather have that experience than nothingness at least once.
My main argument is related to the idea of "Hedonic Treadmill", ever wonder how people who coast through their life and have unlimited riches end up depressed or behave in weird ways. The hedonic treadmill (or hedonic adaptation) is the idea that after positive or negative life changes, people tend to return to a relatively stable baseline of happiness. You get a raise, a new house, or a romantic partner and after the initial high, your emotional baseline reasserts itself.
The belief that a romantic partner will fundamentally improve life quality is, a misunderstanding of the human condition. It’s the same error as thinking a dream job, wealth, or fame will solve the “problem” of life’s absurdity. The relationship might bring joy and intimacy but it will not abolish boredom, mortality, or the need to create your own meaning. It's the same reason rich faggots, foids and even chads are always chasing a new high, if you get down to it, you will find majority of the people are not truly satisfied with their lives, especially due to the fact that this is a hyperconnected world and you can get mogged/insulted by a person sitting at the other end of the world. I know the argument would be I would rather be chad, but the same problem happens again, if you only get positive experiences since childhood you will most likely lose the high which incels think you might feel with a new relationship or a hookup. If you do get into a relationship you might initially get a high as an incel but eventually you will lose interest, I think that's one of the reason chads are blackpilled about women. Look at the divorce rates in the modern world, if relationships were such a foolproof way of happiness this definitely would not be the case. You can get a completely different response from a person about their happiness just by priming or asking them different questions beforehand, which kind of disproves the idea that there is a sure shot way to happiness or our brain even knows what it is exactly.
I hope all of us do get to experience some form of love/relationship, but don't really expect it to magically make you happy or fix your life.
First of all a lot of people here will agree that due to the "free market" in dating even if you somehow found a relationship, it will most likely be an unequal relationship, this is a situation where one person has all the leverage and options whereas you will have to compromise a lot to continue that relationship, would that be better than your current situation, who knows? I think a lot of people here might agree on this but this is a minor issue as most people would rather have that experience than nothingness at least once.
My main argument is related to the idea of "Hedonic Treadmill", ever wonder how people who coast through their life and have unlimited riches end up depressed or behave in weird ways. The hedonic treadmill (or hedonic adaptation) is the idea that after positive or negative life changes, people tend to return to a relatively stable baseline of happiness. You get a raise, a new house, or a romantic partner and after the initial high, your emotional baseline reasserts itself.
The belief that a romantic partner will fundamentally improve life quality is, a misunderstanding of the human condition. It’s the same error as thinking a dream job, wealth, or fame will solve the “problem” of life’s absurdity. The relationship might bring joy and intimacy but it will not abolish boredom, mortality, or the need to create your own meaning. It's the same reason rich faggots, foids and even chads are always chasing a new high, if you get down to it, you will find majority of the people are not truly satisfied with their lives, especially due to the fact that this is a hyperconnected world and you can get mogged/insulted by a person sitting at the other end of the world. I know the argument would be I would rather be chad, but the same problem happens again, if you only get positive experiences since childhood you will most likely lose the high which incels think you might feel with a new relationship or a hookup. If you do get into a relationship you might initially get a high as an incel but eventually you will lose interest, I think that's one of the reason chads are blackpilled about women. Look at the divorce rates in the modern world, if relationships were such a foolproof way of happiness this definitely would not be the case. You can get a completely different response from a person about their happiness just by priming or asking them different questions beforehand, which kind of disproves the idea that there is a sure shot way to happiness or our brain even knows what it is exactly.
I hope all of us do get to experience some form of love/relationship, but don't really expect it to magically make you happy or fix your life.
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