Theory I'm not convinced that having a gf is enough to build much happiness on its own

[Hoppipolla]

OK so let's say I found a great gf today.

I live in a houseshare now so I guess I'd leave at some point and we'd move into an apartment.

- she could leave me at some point and then I'm cooped up by myself

- even if she doesn't... I'm pretty extroverted and living with just one person still feels kind of cooped up especially without a community around us (community is rare these days at least where I am)

so... it's just not THAT great is it?

In a perfect world where these costs didn't exist and it was only the benefits then yeah it would be amazing.

 

[Hoppipolla]

I bet a lot of this comes down to the perception of your life.

Socially this idea is pushed that these things are good (at least for guys) and if you don't have them then you're very bad:

- a stable relationship
- a tidy living environment
- lots of friends

Like... I just wonder if the social pressure to have these things or be labelled a loser is actually worse for your QoL than not having them.

 

[xxectrapieces]

Plus women are annoying AS FUCK.

And I'd imagine being around one - even if you "love" her, could get annoying

I dont even want a foid anymore (like I had a choice anyway, jfl) it just sounds tiring

 

[Chadrick Star]

this is some hardcore coping

 

[BasedGoyslopReviews]

this is some hardcore coping

plus most unmarried gf/bf only spend a few hours together per week while they are young. half the time u spend together should be fucking. u dont need anything except good genetics for that

 

[Hoppipolla]

this is some hardcore coping

Thanks!

lol

I like to pride myself on my high level of coping. It takes years to master it to this level.

 

[SociallyStunted]

I actually agree with you Op. i dont think having a gf is actually as good as people say it is and probably wont make most people happy

 

[SupremeFroggy]

In addition:

I'd probably have severe anxiety and stress spikes during the relationship that'd prevent me from being smooth and authentic in my love

Every non-Chad must walk on fucking eggshells anyway.

 

[Cuckoja]

For me its definition of happiness, but that brings tons of other issues, as my happiness is totally depended on the love of another person which can suffocate that other person and leave me in misery. But still, better to love and feel both joy and sadness than being alone and not feel anything.

 

[Leon98]

Hoppipollas me

 

[Uncle Death]

It wouldn't solve any of my problem, if not having gf is the only thing makes you unhappy, I am jealous of you. I have myriads of other problem and reason for my unhappiness due to stuff that happens in my life and my mental health issue (personality disorder) making me personally prefer being alone. I mean I have been alone for five years, no friends and minimal social contact and every time I am around people expecting connection even when it goes well... I am only left with emptiness, boredom and hatred which lead for urge to kill.

I prefer being in my fantasy world like Fernando Pessoa.

 

[RuudVanNistelrooy]

There is a difference between a "great" girlfriend (that would much improve life), and just any girlfriend.

 

[Uncle Death]

Hard to love a woman when you know their true nature, I am not longer a lust induce cringemaxxer and probably go pump and dump route.

 

[Uncle Death]

View: https://youtu.be/zAQCe-VzJoc?si=zjFlw8WEnqg0GSap

 

[Punished Watcher]

I actually agree with you Op. i dont think having a gf is actually as good as people say it is and probably wont make most people happy

Normies ceaselessly complain about relationships, so I'd imagine this is the proper take.

 

[turbocuckcel_7000]

you could not pay me to live with housemates... and you prefer it to living with your female partner?


View: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=07KuQcnu71c

 

[Hoppipolla]

you could not pay me to live with housemates... and you prefer it to living with your female partner?


View: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=07KuQcnu71c

Erm... I'm very extroverted and I feel like let's say I was way out in the country with just a gf... my goodness. I would feel really cut off from the world! ONE person is not enough to satisfy my extroversion lol

 

[Hoppipolla]

View: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=suAhGfVr_4U