and he tells you that he's crying out in pain and that he needs help, you simply tell him that the reason why he feels intense pain is because of his attitude. you dismiss the actual cause of his reaction (bullet in the knee), and make him feel guilty for reacting in the first place. you tell him it's obnoxious and rude to cry for help as it is a disturbance to others around him, and that maybe his attitude and reaction to the situation is why he is in pain.
you ignore the actual root of the pain,
you blame the reaction to the pain as being the cause of it,
and that's how you help.
"the reason why you're lonely is because you're bitter"
you ignore the actual root of the pain,
you blame the reaction to the pain as being the cause of it,
and that's how you help.
"the reason why you're lonely is because you're bitter"
