Its just you deciding that it has to be murder to be immoral, I'm asserting that preventing that thing from becoming a "life" is also immoral, because under normal circumstances it would have been allowed to, you have to go out of your way and use unnatural measures to prevent it from "becoming a life", and you have to do so WITH INTENT. That isn't any less moral than directly ending the life in my book, one method is DIRECT and REACTIVE (Abortion), the other is INDIRECT and PREEMPTIVE (Contraception).
The end result is the same, you are really just arguing semantics and playing a dictionary definition game - "well it isn't "murder" because X isn't alive as a human yet, and I'M SAYING it would only be immoral if it was "murder", so because I SAID SO, that mean it isn't immoral"
That's not how this shit works, I'm saying its bad whether its murder or not, that's my point, I was never arguing it was murder, you are basically strawmanning the argument by inserting your specific restrictions on why its immoral and trying to frame my argument as though I was arguing on the basis of your restrictions, I never was, where in my post did I say it was murder.