If you're unsure whether you're an incel or not, try this experiment: Stop chasing women: stop approaching them, stop trying to get them into bed, stop paying for them, stop offering free favors, stop giving gifts, stop flaunting your resources or willingness to "invest in a relationship." Just observe how random women react to you. If even one of them sincerely and selflessly offers to have sex with you, or at least takes the initiative to get you into bed, then you’re definitely not an incel. But let’s be real: you already know how unlikely that is.
In other words, if you’re dating a woman who "grants you access" to her body because you take her to restaurants, beg for her attention, debase yourself, cater to her like she’s helpless, entertain her on your dime, do favors for her, or shower her with gifts, then you’re just as much of an incel as the guy who’s accepted that women aren’t attracted to him and doesn’t even bother trying. The only difference is that you’re paying for sex, whether through money, attention, servitude, or gifts, to override her instinctive lack of desire for you. Getting a "yes" after relentless pursuit doesn’t make you not an incel. It just means you bought her compliance, compensating for her natural aversion with resources, simping, and labor.
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