I think I'm too nice

[Stoopiding1]

I feel like I'm too nice. I feel like me being too nice has caused me to be a doormat.

I personally don't like being mean, I don't know why but I've never really been the type of person to be mean to strangers even over text I feel like I come off too passive, most of the time when I'm mean is mostly when I am talking to my sister and maybe my mom but that's mostly it.

But I feel like being too nice made me be seen as weak, especially in high school when people try to take advantage of me.
I feel like my mom has conditioned me to be a pushover, it's hard for me to say No, and even when I do say no, I feel slightly bad.

I want to be more assertive without being mean, each time I try to be more confident or try to stand up for myself, I feel like I come off as an asshole, I'm bad at communication and expressing my thoughts.

I'm not saying I'm the nicest person in the world, far from it, But I do think me being a little too nice has caused issues that could be more easily solved if I were more assertive.

 

[Subhuman Niceguy]

I can relate.

 

[Pancakecel]

Other people being not so nice to me various times IRL, has made be meaner, angrier and more bitter over time

 

[kay']

I can relate.

 

[IncelCream]

Damn I am the same

But when I'm angry I'm petty and mean, I can shout when needed

 

[Antifem Lord]

Kindness is a sign of weakness in this world

 

[gummybearcel]

Yes, the world caters to bullies. Coming from the foid's mouth - nobody likes nice guys.

 

[Stoopiding1]

Damn I am the same

But when I'm angry I'm petty and mean, I can shout when needed

Usually, when I'm angry, I yell on the inside.

 

[IncelCream]

Usually, when I'm angry, I yell on the inside.

 

[future&$]

No need to be mean. Just keep your boundaries. And don’t do favors without something in return, mostly. If you feel like you want to help someone for the sake of it just recognize that you are doing that, but don’t do it all the time for everybody.

Personally, I am polite since that’s the way I was raised essentially. But politeness is just reflex for me, and I don’t like being rude.

 

[Exhunter45]

I feel like I'm too nice. I feel like me being too nice has caused me to be a doormat.

I personally don't like being mean, I don't know why but I've never really been the type of person to be mean to strangers even over text I feel like I come off too passive, most of the time when I'm mean is mostly when I am talking to my sister and maybe my mom but that's mostly it.

But I feel like being too nice made me be seen as weak, especially in high school when people try to take advantage of me.
I feel like my mom has conditioned me to be a pushover, it's hard for me to say No, and even when I do say no, I feel slightly bad.

I want to be more assertive without being mean, each time I try to be more confident or try to stand up for myself, I feel like I come off as an asshole, I'm bad at communication and expressing my thoughts.

I'm not saying I'm the nicest person in the world, far from it, But I do think me being a little too nice has caused issues that could be more easily solved if I were more assertive.

Get more muscle so people can think twice

 

[Mainländer]

It took me years to really internalize the notion that you really don't have to be nice all the time to be good or moral. Not even Jesus was. I was raised in a house full of people will mental issues and fights and arguments would arise all the time for any minor thing someone said, so I was trained to be nice and walk on eggshells all the time.

Being nice is still something I generally try to do but as soon as I get the hint I'm dealing with someone who can't appreciate it and just sees it as weakness and as an opportunity to step on me, I stop.

Another thing is that you really don't need to do things you don't want to just to please people. Nice people tend to think that enormous, terrible consequences will come if they don't do it, but I tell you, I stopped doing it for good and the "terrible consequences" that came were actually me getting rid of a bunch of people my life is much better without.

If someone can't accept you as you, to hell with them. Anyone who really loves you even if minimally will still want to be around if you're honest with them about your desires, preferences, bondaries, etc.

 

[Caelus]

Yup. I think I need to strive to become an even vigger piece of shit otherwise I’m not long for this world. When you’re a trucel, EVERYONE will look for an opportunity to abuse you and there’s no getting your back at them so two options moving forward:

1. Continue being nice and / or neutral for everyone to fuck you straight in the asshole

2. Turn into a deplorable monster and witness every member of your family and the very few people who cared about you lose faith and abandon you

Neither of them are winning nor compelling. This is the TRUEST of all trucels fate. Make up your mind fast or there will be hell to pay, buddy boyoooooooo.