well one thing that I realized is that women mostly facilitate their own abuse. Many even enjoy it, as evidenced by consistent pattern of bdsm and rape fantasy media they consume. Though this may seem paradoxical from a male perspective, women actively participate in creating the drama of their own life, and then complain about it. Man, who has to take drama very seriously as his life and livelihood are always at stake, does not even factor in that women could be creating their own misery while not being miserable in actuality. From a mans viewpoint, this would be so fucking masochistic, its impossible. However, he simply underestimates how easy the womans life is and how little consequences she suffers for her actions.
Women get into abusive relationships on purpose, they select men that fuck them up on purpose. They enjoy experiencing pain and thus also causing it to others, through projection. In the same manner that men project pain-avoidance onto others, women project pain-demand, its very interesting actually.
Once I realized this, I just stopped giving a shit. Women create their own suffering and then act as if they are victims. The mistake here is to assume that women actually suffer. Yes they may experience pain, but suffering and pain is not the same. When a woman gets fucked up, never go "told you so" as if she didnt enjoy the experience on some level, they usually do. They love the victim status, the attention etc. Thats why women are in hospital or go to doctor for every little shit. They love being sick, they love the entire woe is me act.
This is why you cant "enjoy their pain" - nigga they are not in pain, they are not suffering. Any pain they experience they can just get out of in 2s by calling upon armies of simps, the police or other women to help them. Always recall that while both men and women experience the same rates of abuse in relationships, 70-90% of the funding goes to women. There is always a way out for a foid, hence almost none of them are homeless. So never assume they are actually suffering, never glory in their suffering stories, ever ever ever. By default, assume they have not suffered based on the statistics we have where men are much more likely to experience actual abuse.
If you openly glory in their pain, you empower them, they want that, they want their victim fantasy. The only way is not to play the game, ignore the fuck out of them and move on. For a woman, any attention is good attention. It does not matter if you hate or love women, any attention pointed at women is gynocentrism.