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Writing this for future reference:
1. Setting the stage
Choose an appropriate setting where you and your wife can have an uninterrupted conversation.
Find a time when both of you are relaxed and open to discourse.
Ask your wife if she has a few minutes to talk about something you consider important.
2. Start with Familiarity
Begin the conversation by referring to a specific instance where your wife displayed some form of submissiveness that you found enjoyable.
For example, you can mention a time when you took charge in the bedroom.
Express your appreciation for her submissiveness and communicate your interest in exploring it moving forward.
3. Gradual Disclosure
Avoid overwhelming your partner with all the details of your BDSM fantasies in your first conversation.
Instead, introduce the topic gradually by discussing lighter elements such as light bondage, spanking and acts of service.
Gauge her reaction and listen attentively to her responses.
Be prepared to answer any questions she may have while maintaining a calm and open demeanor.
If she asks you why she should allow you to give her pain, explain to her the analogy of the hiker climbing the mountain:
Imagine a hiker embarking on a challenging journey to reach the summit of a mountain.
Along the way, she encounters discomforts such as sunburns, insect bites, and scratches from brambles. As she ascends, her muscles ache, and her joints become sore.
However, when she finally reach the summit, she is rewarded with a breathtaking view and a profound sense of accomplishment that brings her immense pleasure.
The pain she endured during the climb becomes a part of her overall experience, enhancing her overall satisfaction and gratification.
4. Space and Time
Allow your wife space and time to process the fact you want to hit her when she misbehaves.
Pressuring her for an immediate decision can make her feel uncomfortable and may hinder progress.
Patience and understanding are key at this stage.
5. Follow-Up
Eventually, schedule a follow-up conversation with your wife to discuss her feelings and thoughts about your revelation.
Use the opportunity to reiterate your desires to consensually engage in BDSM acts while being attentive to her perspective.
Avoid closed-ended questions, instead ask open-ended questions about things like her general level of interest to foster dialogue.
6. Gain Consent
If all goes well and she agrees to participate in BDSM acts with you (where you can consensually hit her), consider signing a BDSM contract.
A BDSM contract is a written document that outlines the consensual agreement between the dominant and submissive partners.
It establishes boundaries, limits, and expectations for the BDSM activities involved.
You can find free BDSM contract templates online to use as a starting point but remember to customize it to reflect your specific desires and boundaries.
1. Setting the stage
Choose an appropriate setting where you and your wife can have an uninterrupted conversation.
Find a time when both of you are relaxed and open to discourse.
Ask your wife if she has a few minutes to talk about something you consider important.
2. Start with Familiarity
Begin the conversation by referring to a specific instance where your wife displayed some form of submissiveness that you found enjoyable.
For example, you can mention a time when you took charge in the bedroom.
Express your appreciation for her submissiveness and communicate your interest in exploring it moving forward.
3. Gradual Disclosure
Avoid overwhelming your partner with all the details of your BDSM fantasies in your first conversation.
Instead, introduce the topic gradually by discussing lighter elements such as light bondage, spanking and acts of service.
Gauge her reaction and listen attentively to her responses.
Be prepared to answer any questions she may have while maintaining a calm and open demeanor.
If she asks you why she should allow you to give her pain, explain to her the analogy of the hiker climbing the mountain:
Imagine a hiker embarking on a challenging journey to reach the summit of a mountain.
Along the way, she encounters discomforts such as sunburns, insect bites, and scratches from brambles. As she ascends, her muscles ache, and her joints become sore.
However, when she finally reach the summit, she is rewarded with a breathtaking view and a profound sense of accomplishment that brings her immense pleasure.
The pain she endured during the climb becomes a part of her overall experience, enhancing her overall satisfaction and gratification.
4. Space and Time
Allow your wife space and time to process the fact you want to hit her when she misbehaves.
Pressuring her for an immediate decision can make her feel uncomfortable and may hinder progress.
Patience and understanding are key at this stage.
5. Follow-Up
Eventually, schedule a follow-up conversation with your wife to discuss her feelings and thoughts about your revelation.
Use the opportunity to reiterate your desires to consensually engage in BDSM acts while being attentive to her perspective.
Avoid closed-ended questions, instead ask open-ended questions about things like her general level of interest to foster dialogue.
6. Gain Consent
If all goes well and she agrees to participate in BDSM acts with you (where you can consensually hit her), consider signing a BDSM contract.
A BDSM contract is a written document that outlines the consensual agreement between the dominant and submissive partners.
It establishes boundaries, limits, and expectations for the BDSM activities involved.
You can find free BDSM contract templates online to use as a starting point but remember to customize it to reflect your specific desires and boundaries.
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