How to have more confidence?

[bizarre]

I can't even look at people in the eye. Not even my parents, the longest eye contact I can hold is like 1~2 seconds, realistically less. And my social skills suck, I tried practicing talking in the mirror like some lonely bitch that I am but at the end of the day it doesn't work, I want to get rid of my awkwardness but this is too overwhelming

 

[AutistSupremacist]

If you're ugly, don't even bother. Your lack of confidence is a survival technique. Ignore everything and everyone and don't talk to anyone.

 

[Animecel2D]

Just be yourself

 

[bizarre]

If you're ugly, don't even bother. Your lack of confidence is a survival technique. Ignore everything and everyone and don't talk to anyone.

Of course I'm hard to look at.. if I wasn't I probably wouldn't even be registering on incel sites, but the thing is I've been living like this for almost a decade ever since i was young.. it's just Ropefuel everyday

 

[gracious sub5]

Have you ever tried being tall and handsome to become confident.

 

[mirrors]

You'll need another 7 inches of height for that

 

[Sir Silentium]

Social skills are mostly genetic - with most articles indicating around 80/20 genetic/environment split.

But after you have finished your primary developmental years, i'd say the split is around 95/5.

So whilst you can try - and it can make a difference - don't expect anything magical or get your hopes up thinking you can change your genetic cognitive abilities. I had to learn that the hard way after following courses and YT tutorials since the start of high school.

 

[andrej]

it's natural you can't get more confident unless you get comfortable with certain situations so I guess you have to force yourself and put yourself in brutal situations such as trying to talk to foids to get confidence in the long run but don't bother if you are ugly like most of us here because it will just be a humiliation ritual regardless of the confidence

 

[Peroz Shapur]

I wouldn't even try if you can't even look your own parents in the eye, it's genetic or a survival mechanism out of your control.

Normal people don't need to practice holding eye contact, they just do it

 

[Renegade#1]

Just be a fakecel like the ones going to escort toilets

 

[Sex-Starved Beast]

My incel hatred lessened my social anxiety. I don't care what impression I make on evil people who hate me regardless.

 

[DogTeeth]

You kind of have to just gaslight yourself into it. Any/or use some sort of drugs or medication for the anxiety. Then just fake it until you figure out how to at least pretend to be confident.

 

[LeFrenchCel]

Take a few cold showers
Then go outside, touch some grass and then women will start talking to you

 

[clearsmoke]

The closest thing to confidence an incel can get is apathy. Just don't care theory.

 

[Grodd]

If you're ugly, don't even bother. Your lack of confidence is a survival technique. Ignore everything and everyone and don't talk to anyone.

 

[ParasiteToSociety]

How to have more confidence? Be born tall, neurotypical and good looking.

(Neurotypical is optional if you’re born tall and good looking tbh due to the massive positive feedback loop that can reduce the sensory tax overload in good looking neurodivergent men)

 

[nihilum]

Take a few cold showers
Then go outside, touch some grass and then women will start talking to you

 

[kip7]

If you are ugly guy drink bottle of wine. Then you have confidence

 

[ParasiteToSociety]

If you are ugly guy drink bottle of wine. Then you have confidence

Only temporarily….

 

[kip7]

Only temporarily….

yes...

 

[Dolls & Gor]

social skills

You can be confident at things other than people-ing.

Most humans are shit, so why ache that you're not good at their game?

I spend A LOT of time working in the woods. I'm very confident hiking, running, backpacking, swimming, et cetera.