How to cope with lost years

[Deleted member 28708]

I'm very sad right now, thinking about the past, how do you cope with this shit?

 

[Deleted member 14218]

dont think about it all you are never gonna see those people or experience that shit ever in your life so no reason to think about it, as far as ur concerned they only exist in ur mind and you don't exist in theirs. That's right you aren't even a thought inside their head so why should they be a thought in yours?

 

[Deleted member 28708]

dont think about it all

It's no that easy.

 

[Deleted member 31122]

They aren't lost, you had no chances to have these years good

 

[AbsolutelyBrutal]

I'm in the same boat. It's really hard to cope, I don't know how to do it..

 

[Deleted member 14218]

It's no that easy.

i edited my shit read it again

 

[childhoodmemories]

You cannot cope with lost time and emotions, it's gone forever. It's over.

There's a good saying in Russia about eventually becoming wealthy: "If you didn't have a bicycle when you were a kid and now you drive a Bentley, it still means that when you were a little kid, you had NO BICYCLE"

 

[AbsolutelyBrutal]

You cannot cope with lost time and emotions, it's gone forever. It's over.

There's a good saying in Russia about eventually becoming wealthy: "If you didn't have a bicycle when you were a kid and now you drive a Bentley, it still means that when you were a little kid, you had NO BICYCLE"

That's brutal. I missed out on so much that getting it later in life will have diminishing returns. Even if I do ascend tomorrow, it's not even close to having ascended at 16-17...

 

[Deleted member 28708]

You cannot cope with lost time and emotions, it's gone forever. It's over.

There's a good saying in Russia about eventually becoming wealthy: "If you didn't have a bicycle when you were a kid and now you drive a Bentley, it still means that when you were a little kid, you had NO BICYCLE"

Even if I do ascend tomorrow, it's not even close to having ascended at 16-17...

This, growing up ,especially growing up as an incel is very brutal.

 

[Deleted member 33893]

You can't. I use them to fuel my hatred for women and normalfags. If I forget about the lost years I might forgive society and stop hating most people around me and that would be a major mistake.

 

[Copexodius Maximus]

I'm very sad right now, thinking about the past, how do you cope with this shit?

there's no cope for missed younger years. It's just over.

 

[Lebensmüder]

I'm very sad right now, thinking about the past, how do you cope with this shit?

For certain stuff there is almost no coping, just repression. This is why therapy/etc. is (marginally) useful for these aspects, it isn't a memory wipe, but it can only improve your capabilities to cope with these memories (whether it's worth the money is up to everyone to decide, it isn't a miracle cure like normalfags say but for some people it can make life more "tolerable" when the therapist is good enough). And one thing: Everyone copes and there is nothing wrong with coping when it benefits you and your life quality; sometimes comfortable lies are better than harsh truths for mental/physical health.

 

[Deleted member 28708]

For certain stuff there is almost no coping, just repression. This is why therapy/etc. is (marginally) useful for these aspects, it isn't a memory wipe, but it can only improve your capabilities to cope with these memories (whether it's worth the money is up to everyone to decide, it isn't a miracle cure like normalfags say but for some people it can make life more "tolerable" when the therapist is good enough). And one thing: Everyone copes and there is nothing wrong with coping when it benefits you and your life quality; sometimes comfortable lies are better than harsh truths for mental/physical health.

Looks like there are no other way around other then copemaxx.

 

[curryboy420]

It really does become diminishing returns the more time is lost. I am 23 now and even a sports car can't make me feel good. I smoked thousands of grams of weed. I took thousand of benzo pills. I spent entire days sleeping. Nothing has gotten better or more tolerable.

 

[Benj-amin]

You can't. I use them to fuel my hatred for women and normalfags. If I forget about the lost years I might forgive society and stop hating most people around me and that would be a major mistake.

I could never forget what these trash did to me. It would be a major mistake incel to accept being treated like a second-class citizen.

 

[Kamikaze]

By letting go.
In 2016 i had around 30 bitcoins, which I sold as i needed some quick liquid cash. Had i sold them today, I wouldve been a millionaire.

Now i can eat myself endlessly over this, or just move on with my life.

You cant go back in time. Whats done is done. What couldve happened otherwise is irrelevant.
Focus on things that are within your control, which is the present and the future.

Try to achieve the best possible outcome from your current situation. I know that letting go is not easy, and takes time. Its a process... but being shackled by the past is a cage in which life is nothing but misery.

 

[Deleted member 33853]

I can relate. When I was a kid I knew I was a bit of a loner who didn't really fit in, but I thought I'd just grow out of that and live a normal life but that didn't happen

I guess I should have put more effort into actually trying to change, rather than just waiting for it to happen to me.