This thought occurred to me the other day and I thought I'd share it.
Whenever I feel miserable about the fact that I can't have a gf or can never obtain one I usually just cope and get angry about it.
But sometimes, I'll try to focus on other areas in my life and not even think about it; I do genuinely feel a bit more at peace when I'm distracted like that (think school for example).
One thing that occurred to me is that there are certain things in my life that I value more than having a girlfriend. It sounds cucked and ridiclious, but hear me out.
For example I'd rather keep my eyesight (not be blind) than have a girlfriend. That's a limit for me. Obviously in real life no such trade exists. But there certain things in life I value more than foids. Plus even if I did get a girlfriend, that's not a guarantee she'd be loyal to me for long enough where the relationship is even remotely valueable.
Another trade that would maybe be more realistic for example is; how much money are you willing to give up for sex? i.e. prositution. For me escorts are a non-negotiable, the quality of the service is too low for how much I'd have to pay. It was only valueable the first time I did it, so I no longer do it. I'd rather spend my money on other things.
Sure it'd be nice to have a girlfriend etc. and whilst I can never obtain one, I realised that the value of having one would not be limitless. And for me at least that perspective helps me cope a little bit easier sometimes.
Another perspective exercise is the quality of a relationship; At what point would being single be preferable to having a shit quality relationship and how shit would that hypothetical relationship have to be for it to be a turning point.
Even though our singleness is involuntary, and we would never be in any relationship, atleast we're not in those terrible ones.
I know this sounds cucked and like massive reddit-tier cope. But Idk it's just something that occurred to me.
Whenever I feel miserable about the fact that I can't have a gf or can never obtain one I usually just cope and get angry about it.
But sometimes, I'll try to focus on other areas in my life and not even think about it; I do genuinely feel a bit more at peace when I'm distracted like that (think school for example).
One thing that occurred to me is that there are certain things in my life that I value more than having a girlfriend. It sounds cucked and ridiclious, but hear me out.
For example I'd rather keep my eyesight (not be blind) than have a girlfriend. That's a limit for me. Obviously in real life no such trade exists. But there certain things in life I value more than foids. Plus even if I did get a girlfriend, that's not a guarantee she'd be loyal to me for long enough where the relationship is even remotely valueable.
Another trade that would maybe be more realistic for example is; how much money are you willing to give up for sex? i.e. prositution. For me escorts are a non-negotiable, the quality of the service is too low for how much I'd have to pay. It was only valueable the first time I did it, so I no longer do it. I'd rather spend my money on other things.
Sure it'd be nice to have a girlfriend etc. and whilst I can never obtain one, I realised that the value of having one would not be limitless. And for me at least that perspective helps me cope a little bit easier sometimes.
Another perspective exercise is the quality of a relationship; At what point would being single be preferable to having a shit quality relationship and how shit would that hypothetical relationship have to be for it to be a turning point.
Even though our singleness is involuntary, and we would never be in any relationship, atleast we're not in those terrible ones.
I know this sounds cucked and like massive reddit-tier cope. But Idk it's just something that occurred to me.
