Serious How do you make new friendships in your mid 30's. Is it even fucking possible? Am I forced to LDAR for life.

[bluecollarCEL]

In high school I had perhaps a handful of friends. Other incel guys like me. Never went to 1 party, no prom. Graduated in 2001. Wasn't so bad as I had a small group of guys to do nerdy shit with. Use to hang out at each others houses and play videogames and what not.

In College I went to Community first, then University. I made absolutely 0 friends at both.

I have never had ANY social media what so ever in my life Myspace/Fb/Instagram. Nothing. And also I have never owned a cellular telephone as I have 0 friends and it would never get used. I have a unactivated phone just so I can call 911 in case of an emergency.

So for say the past 17 years I have been living this LDAR lifestyle. And I really want to turn it around but I think it might be impossible to do.



Some ideas I had was going to Meetup.com and trying to get into some sort of club. Another idea was going back to College and involving myself in campus activities by pretending to be in my early 20's. I know if I did the college shit whether it be campus clubs or some gym class I would have to lie about my age. If I told them I was 35 it would be fucking Game Over. As for the Meetups I live with my grandmother and work a shitty low pay job so I am afraid I would just come off like a total fucking loser as these people have relationships and kids and good jobs and I have none of that. I am afraid that if I tried to involve myself into these Meetups I would get the "STINK" on me. Initially the people would be friendly but once they found out that I was a single dude with no family/friends working a shitty job the "STINK" would be placed upon me and they wouldn't want me around.

Maybe I can join a book club in my city, take some gym/yoga classes, do some volunteer work?

Any thoughts?

 

[mylifeistrash]

play league basketball or at least pickup basketball at some college gym

easiest way to make instant friends who aren't pussies

also men don't care what your job is or who you live with, lol.

 

[TheRealChincel]

It never began, you’re the only guy on here who has a comparable story to me from what I’ve seen but a little older. Time to start hanging around parks or something.

 

[Grotesque]

By being attractive.

 

[bluecollarCEL]

play league basketball or at least pickup basketball at some college gym

easiest way to make instant friends who aren't pussies

also men don't care what your job is or who you live with, lol.

I don't think that's a good idea. I absolutely SUCK at sports and I was always picked last throughout school. I would just fuck up and they would hate me.

 

[Crustaciouse]

play league basketball or at least pickup basketball at some college gym

easiest way to make instant friends who aren't pussies

also men don't care what your job is or who you live with, lol.

It's over for non sportcels.

 

[mylifeistrash]

I don't think that's a good idea. I absolutely SUCK at sports and I was always picked last throughout school. I would just fuck up and they would hate me.

well that severely limits your options

being good at sports can make you and instant hero to guys in the area

i think all the non-retard meetups are centered around some sport or game, like smash bros

 

[Mik_TFL]

In high school I had perhaps a handful of friends. Other incel guys like me. Never went to 1 party, no prom. Graduated in 2001. Wasn't so bad as I had a small group of guys to do nerdy shit with. Use to hang out at each others houses and play videogames and what not.

In College I went to Community first, then University. I made absolutely 0 friends at both.

I have never had ANY social media what so ever in my life Myspace/Fb/Instagram. Nothing. And also I have never owned a cellular telephone as I have 0 friends and it would never get used. I have a unactivated phone just so I can call 911 in case of an emergency.

So for say the past 17 years I have been living this LDAR lifestyle. And I really want to turn it around but I think it might be impossible to do.



Some ideas I had was going to Meetup.com and trying to get into some sort of club. Another idea was going back to College and involving myself in campus activities by pretending to be in my early 20's. I know if I did the college shit whether it be campus clubs or some gym class I would have to lie about my age. If I told them I was 35 it would be fucking Game Over. As for the Meetups I live with my grandmother and work a shitty low pay job so I am afraid I would just come off like a total fucking loser as these people have relationships and kids and good jobs and I have none of that. I am afraid that if I tried to involve myself into these Meetups I would get the "STINK" on me. Initially the people would be friendly but once they found out that I was a single dude with no family/friends working a shitty job the "STINK" would be placed upon me and they wouldn't want me around.

Maybe I can join a book club in my city, take some gym/yoga classes, do some volunteer work?

Any thoughts?

Volunteer work would be a very productive way of achieving this, as are church groups (if you are religious).
At your age all new social interactions will have to be activity/club based. I made a bunch of new friends by joining my local hackerspace, sometimes I just go there to chill and help random people with their electronics projects.

 

[CopingManletcel]

the only way for your life to turn around and escape inceldom/LDAR is to suddently wake up as chad.
Sorry boyo

 

[Vorbei]

"Just join a language class bro" is the social equivalent of taking a shower or getting a haircut. If you have the stink (I know exactly what you're talking about), any socialising with you is going to be out of politeness and it is over.

Consider running dog game.

 

[Russocel]

Go to a bar

 

[Phaoni]

Work somewhere with other people, find friends your age.

 

[bluecollarCEL]

Volunteer work would be a very productive way of achieving this, as are church groups (if you are religious).
At your age all new social interactions will have to be activity/club based. I made a bunch of new friends by joining my local hackerspace, sometimes I just go there to chill and help random people with their electronics projects.

Thanks for the advice. Never thought of something like that.

 

[Existentialcel]

In high school I had perhaps a handful of friends. Other incel guys like me. Never went to 1 party, no prom. Graduated in 2001. Wasn't so bad as I had a small group of guys to do nerdy shit with. Use to hang out at each others houses and play videogames and what not.

In College I went to Community first, then University. I made absolutely 0 friends at both.

I have never had ANY social media what so ever in my life Myspace/Fb/Instagram. Nothing. And also I have never owned a cellular telephone as I have 0 friends and it would never get used. I have a unactivated phone just so I can call 911 in case of an emergency.

So for say the past 17 years I have been living this LDAR lifestyle. And I really want to turn it around but I think it might be impossible to do.



Some ideas I had was going to Meetup.com and trying to get into some sort of club. Another idea was going back to College and involving myself in campus activities by pretending to be in my early 20's. I know if I did the college shit whether it be campus clubs or some gym class I would have to lie about my age. If I told them I was 35 it would be fucking Game Over. As for the Meetups I live with my grandmother and work a shitty low pay job so I am afraid I would just come off like a total fucking loser as these people have relationships and kids and good jobs and I have none of that. I am afraid that if I tried to involve myself into these Meetups I would get the "STINK" on me. Initially the people would be friendly but once they found out that I was a single dude with no family/friends working a shitty job the "STINK" would be placed upon me and they wouldn't want me around.

Maybe I can join a book club in my city, take some gym/yoga classes, do some volunteer work?

Any thoughts?

Maybe try AA (alcoholic anonymous) meetings. I had to do it when I was younger and it's preachy and lame but you meet a lot of people and pair off to have a buddy to hangout and be sober with. There is also plenty of older people who wouldn't judge you due to the fact they are in similar situations

 

[monkeyman]

Meh. Close friendships are almost impossible to maintain after high school.Once you're grown, it's all about competition for social status. If you're not living a life that makes others envious, you're not going to attract a lot of friends.

Personally, I'm okay with that. I can count on one hand the number of times I've been called to socialize as an adult, and every time I was more focused on the future than enjoying that moment.

One thing I like about the social media revolution is that it makes all but the most attractive and wealthy feel insecure. Nobody really has a good time when they go out. They're too worried about how they measure up to others, which is how I've always felt as a guy with mild "social anxiety."

 

[Rice Cel]

Only friends you'll make then are people you have an ulterior motive to become friends with or vice versa

 

[Ritalincel]

LDAR lifestyle

 

[KV-]

By being attractive.

If you are ugly and old you can still make friends by being useful, or having others be in your debt, but those really aren't real friends.

 

[NEETAndTidy]

 

[The End]

I'm not too dissimilar. I'm perfectly fine being alone though - I just want girls to fuck.

 

[PleaseKillMeLoseSkin]

Join terrorist groups like antifa or the jews.

 

[incel scum]

In high school I had perhaps a handful of friends. Other incel guys like me. Never went to 1 party, no prom. Graduated in 2001. Wasn't so bad as I had a small group of guys to do nerdy shit with. Use to hang out at each others houses and play videogames and what not.

In College I went to Community first, then University. I made absolutely 0 friends at both.

I have never had ANY social media what so ever in my life Myspace/Fb/Instagram. Nothing. And also I have never owned a cellular telephone as I have 0 friends and it would never get used. I have a unactivated phone just so I can call 911 in case of an emergency.

So for say the past 17 years I have been living this LDAR lifestyle. And I really want to turn it around but I think it might be impossible to do.



Some ideas I had was going to Meetup.com and trying to get into some sort of club. Another idea was going back to College and involving myself in campus activities by pretending to be in my early 20's. I know if I did the college shit whether it be campus clubs or some gym class I would have to lie about my age. If I told them I was 35 it would be fucking Game Over. As for the Meetups I live with my grandmother and work a shitty low pay job so I am afraid I would just come off like a total fucking loser as these people have relationships and kids and good jobs and I have none of that. I am afraid that if I tried to involve myself into these Meetups I would get the "STINK" on me. Initially the people would be friendly but once they found out that I was a single dude with no family/friends working a shitty job the "STINK" would be placed upon me and they wouldn't want me around.

Maybe I can join a book club in my city, take some gym/yoga classes, do some volunteer work?

Any thoughts?

your problem is that you are trying to follow the normie life-route despite being a hardcore subhuman
someone in your position should:

1. go after hardcore fat and ugly goblin women
2. fuck trannies/gays (bonus if they have AIDS)
3. try to move to a foreign country like Thailand

I dont think you really have any other real options.