When I was almost friendless, I used to force myself into doing stuff on my own. Doing skateboard, going to the cinema, to the library, the parc, the restaurant, etc...
You can enjoy yourself, sometimes meet and talk to strangers you cross even, since you'll be more open to encounters than if you were accompanied.
But it can feel suifuel too.
I think my best coping way is Philosophy, it really helps to cope with loneliness and depression, helps relativizing.
Problem is after few years doing it you'll be extremely lonely in your activities and resent that when seeing others doing these activities in groups/couples, like seeing chad riding along with many pretty foids on a bicycle, movie? lots of couples and friend there, parcs are full of lovers, restaurants are full of friends.
I know for a fact that these activities would cause me more pain and make me more depressed than if I stayed the whole day at home LDAR.
will other people stare if you go to a bar alone? Whats the point of going to a bar alone? you won't talk to anyone anyway and watch other people have fun.
Indeed, went many times to bars / clubs alone, was always lonely, watching people having fun, guys cuddling and kissing foids, while nobody pay attention to you, and rejects you when try to approach is suicide-fuel. Was harassed and bullied a few times, went crazy to the point getting physical harm done to me.
Nope because 80% of the people do it. the point of going to the bar alone so ur surrounded by people (energy) . I guarantee someone will approach u & talk to u . (keep dreaming it won't be a Stacey thats for sure) . It beats sitting alone inside imo.
Energy with a lot of deception, sadness and jealousy to see people actually having friends, kissing foids, laughing all around you, while you're the only one alone, may some jerk come from time to time to bully you, is that sadomasochism?
Loneliness is not good, everyone of us should work to just have a few real friends.
Something that makes loneliness far worse if you feel like you don't live according to your values.
I've found I feel far less lonely now that I try to live and act to my values and my true personality. Before I was really worried about losing what's left of friends and social circle, so I would try to please people and not act according to my values. This made me feel like shit and feel a lot more lonely. Like I decided to stop drinking, cause it caused me only a lot of regret in my life. I thought about it, who do I drink for, sometimes it was just social convention with my group of friends. Then I just stopped.
Use loneliness to really feel who you are and what's important and then act based on it. It will make you feel much better about yourself and feel less lonely.
Thank you for these wise words, but how should you actually work to have some real friends?
Tried to for almost three decades, met more than a thousand of people last year alone, without success.
Please, give us some advise.
