Venting how do you cope with living with your family?

[nxdismycope]

its so fucking cancer. i moved back home 2 weeks ago and its so FUCKING cancer.
how do cope with having no privacy?
how do cope with annoying questions from family all day about your shitty life?

we have a pretty small house and its fucking nightmare. my and my brother clothes closet is in my room. which mean he just come in whatever the fuk he want without knocking and its so annoying because he's a piece of shit that do everything to annoy me and he always look at my screen. theres room for his closet in my mom room but he doesnt want to put it there just so he can enter my room.
last week he got mad i didnt opened the door for like 30 sec, and he just fucking threw the key away (couldnt find it.) my door lock is different than the rest of the doors in my house so i basicly have no key to lock it unless ill change the whole door or lock for 100$. my beta mom just didnt give a shit because she doesnt put any boundaries for him, but when i came to destroy him she stopped me and told me if i touch him she will call the police. just lmao.
next year im going to school (13 months from now) and then i will move out forgood but idk what to do. thinking about just moving out now but its will be really hard with money.
ragequited my job lately and because i have no degree and my experince in the field (software) is very unique to where i worked so i basicly cant get a job in this field anymore, just was lucky AF to get the first one and now i have to do a degree to get another (and ofcourse much better) job.


tldr
its over

 

[Mongolianwizard]

I don't. I have extremely violent thoughts regarding them.

 

[Futurecel2.0]

I want to move out but I'm broke. I don't think I can afford rent/food on top on my other bills to live comfortably. I can honestly but it will be in a bad neighborhood and I'll be scraping by and basically starving. I think living with my family is better than that. I'm 24.

 

[nxdismycope]

I want to move out but I'm broke. I don't think I can afford rent/food on top on my other bills to live comfortably. I can honestly but it will be in a bad neighborhood and I'll be scraping by and basically starving. I think living with my family is better than that. I'm 24.

how much money u saved? u work?

 

[Crustaciouse]

Its shit, we live in a one bedroom apartment and I sleep in the living room so the only time I get privacy is when they arent home.
usually I just keep quite and try to stop any fights

 

[CyborgIncel]

Families shouls be fucking abolished.

 

[nxdismycope]

Its shit, we live in a one bedroom apartment and I sleep in the living room so the only time I get privacy is when they arent home.
usually I just keep quite and try to stop any fights

wow wtf. how much people are you?

 

[Futurecel2.0]

how much money u saved? u work?

Around 5000. I don't think that is enough. Yes I do wagecuck. Wagecucking right now. Working a triple shift.

 

[jet112]

as long as i don't LDAR we can get along

 

[Crustaciouse]

wow wtf. how much people are you?

Just me and my parents.

 

[hermitcel]

my parents charge me 600 a month and yet they don't leave me the fuck alone. They have me do their fucking chores and have me hang out with them. I just wanna rot in my room you fucking dicks

 

[nxdismycope]

Around 5000. I don't think that is enough. Yes I do wagecuck. Wagecucking right now. Working a triple shift.

feels bad bro. but at least your working. doing what you need to move forward. goodluck.

 

[Futurecel2.0]

my parents charge me 600 a month and yet they don't leave me the fuck alone. They have me do their fucking chores and have me hang out with them. I just wanna rot in my room you fucking dicks

Damn 600 a month. My parents ask me for like 300 a month sometimes or they make me buy booze for them or dinner.

 

[IronMike]

No privacy? My room is on the other side of the house, upstairs. My parents just shout upstairs if they need me

 

[Gyros_Pretcel]

Some things I did over the years:

Steel his money buy a steel-reinforced door

Crazy and intimidatemaxx so they leave you alone.

Throw his clothes out. (Cupboard your property, don't touch).

Escalate / Sperg out maxx in general, but keep it legal or at least without proofs. Say you will never speak to your mother again, if she throws you out and threaten to kill yourself. Police can't do anything without proof. Only thing is if parehnts banish you from the property. (You could set up a contract as subleaser with passing and kitchen / bath use right with low rent beforehand to prevent this.) Leverageing against joints is extremely painful and shows no proofs (I am a judoka).

Tell them the truth, that you need to be left alone.

Pervert / IDGAF max (just start fapping in a way he or they can hear it.

 

[nxdismycope]

No privacy? My room is on the other side of the house, upstairs. My parents just shout upstairs if they need me

i wish i had something like that.

Some things I did over the years:

Steel his money buy a steel-reinforced door

Crazy and intimidatemaxx so they leave you alone.

Throw his clothes out. (Cupboard your property, don't touch).

Escalate / Sperg out maxx in general, but keep it legal or at least without proofs. Say you will never speak to your mother again, if she throws you out and threaten to kill yourself. Police can't do anything without proof. Only thing is if parehnts banish you from the property. (You could set up a contract as subleaser with passing and kitchen / bath use right with low rent beforehand to prevent this.) Leverageing against joints is extremely painful and shows no proofs (I am a judoka).

Tell them the truth, that you need to be left alone.

Pervert / IDGAF max (just start fapping in a way he or they can hear it.

if i will do even 10% of this i will get kicked out or/and get the police coming at me.

my parents charge me 600 a month and yet they don't leave me the fuck alone. They have me do their fucking chores and have me hang out with them. I just wanna rot in my room you fucking dicks

600$? where do you live? you can probaly rent a studio for that price.

 

[Brahcel]

its so fucking cancer. i moved back home 2 weeks ago and its so FUCKING cancer.
how do cope with having no privacy?
how do cope with annoying questions from family all day about your shitty life?

we have a pretty small house and its fucking nightmare. my and my brother clothes closet is in my room. which mean he just come in whatever the fuk he want without knocking and its so annoying because he's a piece of shit that do everything to annoy me and he always look at my screen. theres room for his closet in my mom room but he doesnt want to put it there just so he can enter my room.
last week he got mad i didnt opened the door for like 30 sec, and he just fucking threw the key away (couldnt find it.) my door lock is different than the rest of the doors in my house so i basicly have no key to lock it unless ill change the whole door or lock for 100$. my beta mom just didnt give a shit because she doesnt put any boundaries for him, but when i came to destroy him she stopped me and told me if i touch him she will call the police. just lmao.
next year im going to school (13 months from now) and then i will move out forgood but idk what to do. thinking about just moving out now but its will be really hard with money.
ragequited my job lately and because i have no degree and my experince in the field (software) is very unique to where i worked so i basicly cant get a job in this field anymore, just was lucky AF to get the first one and now i have to do a degree to get another (and ofcourse much better) job.


tldr
its over

Damn brah. Start developing blockchains. Fuck a degree. Dm me and i can guide u or find a job for u

How old r u and just change the lock for $50 or scare ur bro. How old is he

 

[nxdismycope]

Damn brah. Start developing blockchains. Fuck a degree. Dm me and i can guide u or find a job for u

How old r u and just change the lock for $50 or scare ur bro. How old is he

no man i want a degree so at least my carrer will be secure. with a b.a in computer science you can easily move out to new country if you want to and thats what i want.
about the brother it doesnt really relevant anymore. we had a huge fight 1 hour ago and i decided im moving out. fuck this shit.

 

[Brahcel]

no man i want a degree so at least my carrer will be secure. with a b.a in computer science you can easily move out to new country if you want to and thats what i want.
about the brother it doesnt really relevant anymore. we had a huge fight 1 hour ago and i decided im moving out. fuck this shit.

U have a degree. What country and i thought u had to stay there. Move in with 3-4 roommates.

 

[nxdismycope]

U have a degree. What country and i thought u had to stay there. Move in with 3-4 roommates.

i cant understand you bro lol
i dont have a Bachelor. i want to get one because its very easy to relocate with it. i want to work in thailand for a year, fuck 100+ whores and then just rot in australia untill my patethic life will finally end.
and no way i just need privacy. i will rent a small studio.

 

[Deleted member 3291]

I rent an apartment near my uni. But when I have to go home it’s annoying with my mom and dad constantly annoying me have no free time. I just want to rot in my bed all day.

 

[Gyros_Pretcel]

if i will do even 10% of this i will get kicked out or/and get the police coming at me.

Not one thing that could help you? Not even some real talk familiy intervention meeting?


Why is your brother entitlet to your closet, wtf? Can you use some cardboardboxes for your stuff and just give him your closet or is his room to stuffed for a own one or to small?
In this case you could
a) just stuff your room and cupboard as well
b) get a curtain or roomdividers and put the closet next to the door
c) put the closet elsewhere (corridor, cellar, whatever) or
d) swap rooms. (most reasonable)
I suppose he has shame "problems" or something with his mom so he does not want to go in her room.

After fixing this he has no reason to go into your room anymore and if he still unreasonable annoys you with it throw him out. Research some police techniques how to control people physically without hurting them and use a chair to block your door afterwards.

Maybe you can get some small closets from goodwill or online ads like craigslist?


About IDGAF maxxing, how is it your fault when he sees you doing "stuff" if he doesn't accept your privacy? I would 100% degeneratemaxx and I assure you he will stop it or are your parents ultraconservative lunatics and would disown you?

You have no dad, uncle or granddad you can talk to?

Your brother sounds like a spoiled brat tbh.

 

[hermitcel]

i wish i had something like that.

if i will do even 10% of this i will get kicked out or/and get the police coming at me.

600$? where do you live? you can probaly rent a studio for that price.

canada. I could move out and rent a room for the same or even a bit lower but my dad isn't letting me and he's alpha as fuck

 

[nxdismycope]

Not one thing that could help you? Not even some real talk familiy intervention meeting?


Why is your brother entitlet to your closet, wtf? Can you use some cardboardboxes for your stuff and just give him your closet or is his room to stuffed for a own one or to small?
In this case you could
a) just stuff your room and cupboard as well
b) get a curtain or roomdividers and put the closet next to the door
c) put the closet elsewhere (corridor, cellar, whatever) or
d) swap rooms. (most reasonable)
I suppose he has shame "problems" or something with his mom so he does not want to go in her room.

After fixing this he has no reason to go into your room anymore and if he still unreasonable annoys you with it throw him out. Research some police techniques how to control people physically without hurting them and use a chair to block your door afterwards.

Maybe you can get some small closets from goodwill or online ads like craigslist?


About IDGAF maxxing, how is it your fault when he sees you doing "stuff" if he doesn't accept your privacy? I would 100% degeneratemaxx and I assure you he will stop it or are your parents ultraconservative lunatics and would disown you?

You have no dad, uncle or granddad you can talk to?

Your brother sounds like a spoiled brat tbh.

hes the little brother (2-3 years younger then me, i dont even sure lmao) he act like a entilted piece of shit and for all of our life he got very special treament from my mother.
thats why a. he's a failure in life (and he look okay with good height) and b. me and my sisters hate him.
and my mom always get so mad that we hate him like its not her fault. he's 20-21 and he cry to her about anything, and everytime they talk they talks like retards like its funny. i cant even explain how insane it is. both of them are also toxic and racist AF and i cant stand it.
i love my mom because i know how hard it was for her to take care of all of us alone, but about him idc. for all i care he could die tomorrow if my mom wouldnt kill herself after.
all the things you said cant help me because the clothes isnt the issue. theres many solutions but because the "power" my mom give him in the house he need to agree to one of them and he wont because he doesnt want to give up the right to bother me whenver he want.
in a normal family my mom would just tell him to just stfu and take his clothes to her room (he stay there 50% of the day anyway) because he doesnt have any reason not to, but she wont.
divorced parents, went NC on dad years ago.

 

[fOreVER]

It is unbearable when they are bluepill and obsessed with useless colonial educational garbage.

 

[nxdismycope]

It is unbearable when they are bluepill and obsessed with useless colonial educational garbage.

yep my family is maxbluepill. i just ignore the BS they say

 

[Deleted member 4159]

I can certainly relate OP. Living with my parents (until I was 22) was a fucking nightmare. My parents are hardcore christians. My mom is very neurotic and controlling, and my dad is passive in regards to her, yet obsessed with the bible. And I had an autistic brother who'd rage autistically every day, like he'd literally go REEEEEEEEE. I wasn't even allowed to watch R rated movies or M rated games. All 3 of them will talk about the bible nonstop, and would get on my case if I didn't agree with them. Had a 10PM curfew, even though I was succeeding in Uni. Mom would freak out if I left even the tiniest mess in the house (like some water droplets by the sink). She'd restrict when I'd be able to cook, because she didn't want me to mess up the kitchen. She's so neurotic, she wouldn't even let me clean up afterwards. Would force me to eat food i didn't want, all because she cooked it, and didnt want it to go to waste. Wouldn't let me shower past 10pm. She also would store stuff in my closet (because she has too much junk in hers), and would barge in to get stuff. Would also vacuum my room and change my bedsheets, even when it was inconvenient for me. Due to the curfew, strict rules (yet ensuing chaos), living at home was like living in prison. Thank God I don't live there anymore. My current houseshare isn't ideal, but I may be moving and getting a house with one of my friends.

As for your situation OP, your brother needs to keep his stuff in his room. Like the poster above mentioned, there's no reason why he can't store his stuff in boxes. Also, he can get a clothes rack to hang clothes on. He can also buy a wardrobe to store clothes in.

 

[nxdismycope]

I can certainly relate OP. Living with my parents (until I was 22) was a fucking nightmare. My parents are hardcore christians. My mom is very neurotic and controlling, and my dad is passive in regards to her, yet obsessed with the bible. And I had an autistic brother who'd rage autistically every day, like he'd literally go REEEEEEEEE. I wasn't even allowed to watch R rated movies or M rated games. All 3 of them will talk about the bible nonstop, and would get on my case if I didn't agree with them. Had a 10PM curfew, even though I was succeeding in Uni. Mom would freak out if I left even the tiniest mess in the house (like some water droplets by the sink). She'd restrict when I'd be able to cook, because she didn't want me to mess up the kitchen. She's so neurotic, she wouldn't even let me clean up afterwards. Would force me to eat food i didn't want, all because she cooked it, and didnt want it to go to waste. Wouldn't let me shower past 10pm. She also would store stuff in my closet (because she has too much junk in hers), and would barge in to get stuff. Would also vacuum my room and change my bedsheets, even when it was inconvenient for me. Due to the curfew, strict rules (yet ensuing chaos), living at home was like living in prison. Thank God I don't live there anymore. My current houseshare isn't ideal, but I may be moving and getting a house with one of my friends.

As for your situation OP, your brother needs to keep his stuff in his room. Like the poster above mentioned, there's no reason why he can't store his stuff in boxes. Also, he can get a clothes rack to hang clothes on. He can also buy a wardrobe to store clothes in.

feels bad man. what do you work now and who do you live with if may i ask?
and about the solutions u offered ill just copy paste what i said to the poster above:
all the things you said cant help me because the clothes isnt the issue. theres many solutions but because the "power" my mom give him in the house he need to agree to one of them and he wont because he doesnt want to give up the right to bother me whenver he want.
in a normal family my mom would just tell him to just stfu and take his clothes to her room (he stay there 50% of the day anyway) because he doesnt have any reason not to, but she wont.

 

[Cuyen]

I don't cope

 

[Deleted member 4159]

feels bad man. what do you work now and who do you live with if may i ask?
and about the solutions u offered ill just copy paste what i said to the poster above:
all the things you said cant help me because the clothes isnt the issue. theres many solutions but because the "power" my mom give him in the house he need to agree to one of them and he wont because he doesnt want to give up the right to bother me whenver he want.
in a normal family my mom would just tell him to just stfu and take his clothes to her room (he stay there 50% of the day anyway) because he doesnt have any reason not to, but she wont.

Forgive me, I'm tired, and read through the post quick.

As for my situation now, it's complicated, and not normal. At the end of Uni, i gained weight (depression from inceldom), and unkowingly developed severe sleep apnea. This made me unable and unmotivated to work. Due to my irritability, and me being NEET, my family and I started fighting more than usual. I then lost it and attacked my brother, and because he's disabled, they kicked me out. They paid for my rent in a couple houseshares (with the expectation that i'd get a job), but I got kicked out of both of them (housemates hated me for being NEET, and not bowing to their unreasonable demands). I moved back in with my parents, and my brother started making up lies about me to get me kicked out again. I raged at him again, and was thrown out a 2nd time. I now rent the master bedroom (with private bath) in my cousin's house (he doesn't live here). My roommates are a married couple, and a fag. The fag, husband, and I get along, but the wife is a fucking cunt. Is super anal and will fight over anything. I pretty much turned my room into a studio apartment. Got a minifridge, microwave, and a plug in 2 burner stovetop. Because I have my own bathroom, i can do dishes in there. I don't interact with that bitch anymore, but it still feels very uncomfortable being here. I finally ended up being diagnosed with sleep apnea, and my parents and I made up. I've been receiving treatment, and taking steps to get better. It isn't easy to lose weight when you wake up automatically exhausted. Once I am better, I have no intentions of staying NEET, as I want to go to grad school to become a therapist (partly influenced by my experience with inceldom). But as I said in my previous post, my friend and I may be getting a 2 bedroom house together.

 

[Kirishima]

how do cope with having no privacy?
how do cope with annoying questions from family all day about your shitty life?

You don’t.

 

[Deleted member 2119]

I cannot cope with this situation. All I can do is waiting until I am able to move out

 

[jerrycan dan]

Once I am better, I have no intentions of staying NEET, as I want to go to grad school to become a therapist (partly influenced by my experience with inceldom).

This sounds like it wouldn't work as well in reality as you think it would, honestly.

 

[Indari]

my parents charge me 600 a month and yet they don't leave me the fuck alone. They have me do their fucking chores and have me hang out with them. I just wanna rot in my room you fucking dicks

parents that charge their kids landlordjew price rent should be shot. my mother charges me 300 a month just to cover my car insurance which is 100 and I guess my monthly "expenses".