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How did you realize you are an incel?

olikos

olikos

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Do you remember the first time this idea struck you? Was it all of a sudden or were you becoming more and more aware in a longer time period?
 
I got rejected and mistreated without any flaw on my side. Then it occured to me it could be due to something beyond my control.
 
As soon I was born I realized I was destined for a dreadful life as a permavirgin outcast
 
From a very young age, everyone treated me badly for no reason.
 
Ive subconcsiously known it's over as long as i can remeber, but got blackpilled hard in september 2024 when my growth plates officially closed making me 5'4-5'5 in a tallfag country. Ive known about incelosphere since like 2021-2022
 
The fuck do you mean, everyone knows they're a virgin unless you're one of those lying asshats and believe your own lies
 
The last bits of my delusion were shattered by surgeons shrugging their shoulders and saying how they cannot be "miracle workers"
 
In late grade 11, I realized I was incel quickly when I read the incel wiki.
 
When ugly bitches started avoiding me.
 
My entire childhood was a living hell, I was bullied relentlessly at school, every single day, girls laughed at me to make fun of me, and they always avoided me because they thought I was disgusting, nobody ever saw me as a human being, they all saw me as a clown they can make fun of for their own entertainment, the girls I tried to talk to either ignored me, insulted me, or laughed at me, I was born to lose and suffer, that is how I discovered I was an incel.
 
Do you remember the first time this idea struck you? Was it all of a sudden or were you becoming more and more aware in a longer time period?
It took time for me to realise it. I was so delusional back then.
 


olikos


Greycel
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Back in school when you were the only virgin in your friend group you kind of take a hint after that.
 
When i discovered ITV and FaceandBBC on YT serveral years ago. Everything made sense and it just confirmed my lookism theory i had
 
girl in school told me that I stink.
 
I realised a long time ago
 
Took a look in the mirror
 
Around 8 years old when I saw a photo of my face and I got overwhelmed by this sudden awareness of how ugly I was, and that I'm a failure of a human being. I punched the photo and been hating myself since then.
 
Nowadays i just know it. I have just to look at my body
In HS my physique was different but still bad, so it was many experiences with girls. Being humilliated, blocked from SM. And the fact that all conversations with them never went more than a school topic
 
The fact that no one considered me as a potential bf/sex partner
 
Around high school you start to realize how people treat each other differently because of their looks alone especially women since they are more honest when they are in their teenage years, I have always been an outcast so it's easier for me to notice as an outsider than someone who is already in the game that's where most people cope
 
denial for the longest time, thought university would change things cause everyone's gonna be a nerd and that. somehow uni was worse than school, as i had forced social time in school whereas in uni i was more of an outcast and people avoided me after class. that was the first tell. formally accepted myself as an incel when my roomate at the time (normie) fucked me over real bad
 
When I saw normfags with gfs and realized I was a lonely loser
 
From a very young age, everyone treated me badly for no reason.
Its our looks and autism

What’s happening is that we give off uncanny valley vibes, something that looks human, dresses human, but something is “off” about us

There is absolutely nothing we can do to control

Normies are born with this inherent hate for anything different, hence why we were ostracized at such a young age

If this was the animal kingdom, we would have been killed for the betterment of the tribe

I speculate it might be because autism during hunter-gatherer times might have accidentally attracted predators to the tribe by the autistics due to them not naturally understanding the right time to be quiet if danger was around like the NTs naturally could

Us and NTs definitely have a different kind of brain. BUT autism is a spectrum, there are autistic normies(primarily women, gigachads, and geniuses)

And then there is mine, the autism where one is aware they are defective, and can comprehend that sex and love exist, but can’t do anything about it do to limitation

That is the worst form of autism imo
 
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it’s corny but the mirror kept breaking by itself every time i came near it without even so much as the intention to look into it
 
I realized it when every single form of self-improvement I attempted failed.
 
Getting called ugly
 
Harassment, fake friends(acquaintances for short), being used as entertainment(I regret jestermaxxing), getting jumped multiple times, asking out many foids (through cold approaching and having "friends" who had foid friends)

I almost went ER at one point; had I had an AR at that time, I would have held the world record for most kills.

I was an extreme redpill enthusiast, hated incels, and thought that incels were just entitled brats who never tried for the longest time. Then, one day, as I was scrolling through YouTube, I noticed a particular video made by Rehab Room. I started watching him a lot, and now I'm the person I once hated. I realized that it was truly over for me, or, better yet, it had never even begun.
 
I did not look like the boys girls were interested in and girls did not look at me how they looked at them. I understood early that I was not sexually attractive to girls.

Thankfully I also understood that simping/orbiting was futile so I have been ignoring women all my life and don't have any humiliating experiences to haunt my memories.
 
I realised around 11 or 12 that I was ugly which would make getting a gf difficult. Before that, I thought I was average or even handsome (I believed the whole "you're gonna break hearts" type stuff that boomer women say to all boys). I coped by saying "I'll probably just be a late bloomer, maybe marry a stereotypical cat lady spinster because they're desperate, right?" as I could not imagine that I would be single forever.

When I was 16, ER did his thing which was when I first heard of incels. At the time, I had a "that's not me, they're just sex-obsessed weirdos" attitude which lasted maybe 5 years before I slowly but surely swallowed the blackpill and gave up dating as I wasn't getting anywhere. I started seeing myself as an incel from this point on but due to the stigma, I've only ever used that word to describe myself to one other person irl.
 
I knew even when I was in the womb that it was over
 
Ive subconcsiously knew it's over as long as i can remember, but got blackpilled hard in 2022 when i was in highschool i discovered the blackpill on tiktok and then i knew it was really over for me and i m an incel
 
I looked in the mirror
 
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Looked in the mirror
 
I searched "how to get a girlfriend" one day on youtube and got recommended a wheat waffles video after watching cope redpill stuff. I still remember the video was the one where he explained the three different pills. I thought that the red pill was the right one back then, this was late 2021. Once 2022 began, i found org and joined, thats when i truly went into the rabbit hole and now I'm here. Crazy that it's been that long, time doesn't feel like it's gone by that fast sometimes; makes me depressed.
 
Do you remember the first time this idea struck you? Was it all of a sudden or were you becoming more and more aware in a longer time period?
When I realised normies around me getting gfs and me not even tho i try hard.

so probably since I was 8 years old or something
 
Constantly rejected by society and anyone around my age
 
social anxiety + not having girls talk to me or even show interest in me all throughout school
 
The amount of bitches you can pull = your smv. 0 bitches = 0 smv. simple as
 
When my dopamine and adrenaline level after survival of mental hell started to drop so low, that i begun to see how bad i'm actually treated by almost everyone.
 
When I was in my late teens and early 20s because women online and irl kept calling me creepy got blocked by them alot and on the cherry on the top a shitty app and community outcastes me and got banned on an app called Talklife, even their Discord server and normie friends out casted me
 
Very suddenly. Foids seeing me and looking like they were about to vomit, then running in the opposite direction made the situation very clear.
 

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