Wiz32BlackJiggaboo
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Skadish said:I'm pretty quiet about the fact I'm a transman usually, but holy shit I need to tell you about the culture shock I'm going through because it's blindsiding me.
There's a huge sense of social isolation that comes with being perceived as male, because now people are subconsciously treating me as a potential predator. All strangers, no matter their gender, keep their guard up around me.
Skadish said:It’s now blatantly clear to me that most cis men probably experience chronic emotional malnutrition. They’re deprived of social connection just enough for it to seriously fuck with their psyches, but not enough for them to realize that it’s happening and what’s causing it.
Skadish said:In the case of women: When I’m out in public and interact with women, all of them come off as incredibly aloof, cold, and mirthless. I have never experienced this before even though I know exactly what this composure is—the armor that keeps away creepy-ass men.
As someone who used to wear it myself, I know this armor is 100% impersonal. Nobody likes wearing it, and I can say with absolute certainty that women would dump the armor in favor of unconditional companionship with men if doing this didn’t run the risk of actual assault. ...
But I only have a complete understanding of this context because I’ve experienced female socialization. If I hadn’t, I would’ve thought this coldness was a conspiracy against me devised by roughly half of the human population. Even now, with all that I know about navigating the world as a woman, I’m failing to convince my monkey-brain that this armor isn’t social rejection.
Skadish said:And as for male socialization? Again, it seems taboo for a man to be platonically intimate with men for reasons I have yet to fully understand
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The human species looks so much colder standing from this side.
I don't like that Skadish apologizes for women here, insisting it's "100% impersonal" and "if doing this didn't run the risk of actual assault". But hey - if you're white-knighting for foids then you're well on your way to becoming an average SIMP orbiter betaguy, so congrats on the transition I guess?
Apologism aside it's nice to see someone acknowledge this, and they'll resist calling Skadish and incel since Skadish identifies as male, since they still view it as coming from a sister so it'd be misogynist to disagree.