I will try exposure therapy and then cbt, and if i exaust these options to no avail, i'll try no-fap as ridiculous as the whole no-fap ordeal sounds to me.
Good post
Cognitive behavioral therapy is a pretentious term for things like "when you are anxious at a party, tell yourself that others are too". I'm not kidding; just look it up on the internet, many therapists have published articles about it.
It's basically soothing yourself with certain mental images whenever you encounter adversity. It's not necessarily bad, but I feel like it's underpowered. And it clearly doesn't deserve $100/hour. Buy a self-help book.
But what if i was actually bullied and humilliated by my peers just because i'm ugly? there is no way could recover from that my brain will assume they laugh at me (which they do btw) every time i try to lower mi inhibition
As I've written, this advice is only for average to good looking mentalcels.
When you're ugly you can only do damage control. Your inhibition will stay high no matter what you do. However, by applying this advice you can easily go from "terrified by social contact" to "at ease in most formal social situations like asking a waiter for something".
Given that I am myself ugly, I still have troubles with my inhibition in certain areas. For instance, I am very at ease in formal and semi-formal interactions (eg at a shop, at work), or with older people, but I am still reluctant to approach large groups of unknown young people at a bar terrace for instance, given the potential for looks-based bullying.
Elon Musk totally embarrassed himself with that petty statement. Exposing your ego to that degree makes you look totally arrogant, especially if you have cause to think you are above others as he does (genius level IQ), it makes you look totally conceited and will decrease your popularity amongst normal people.
It’s interesting what you say about Aragorn, because I picked up on it too. I was however a little more sceptical, because I do not think suppressing your ego will lead you to material gain like the throne of Gondor. I believe that Boromir’s ambition would be the more advantageous in that particular pursuit, but would ultimately provide him with less happiness in the long run. Suppression of the ego will not help you succeed in life in the conventional sense, but it should make you content enough with what you have that you no longer need to seek out material gain, or the approval of others, which are ultimately ever fleeting desires which can never be comprehensively fulfilled. As much as I enjoyed Tolkein’s books, I’ve always considered his somewhat binary relationship to good and evil to be a little bit naïve. What we see in the real world is that bad and egotistical behaviour is often rewarded with superficial success (for all bar the ugly of course) but will not ultimately bring you emotional stability found in those who’s emotional state is not tied directly to their ego and self-image, which can be prone to lapses and set-backs even in the most stalwart narcissists (or moreso at times).
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I think, as you explained, the fear of one's own pride beeing hurt, the desire to prove yourself to others or to acquire status, raises your inhibition. But on the other hand beeing ashamed of yourself because you feel like you're a piece of shit also raises your inhibition to extreme levels. So in my opinion, the solution is to be at peace with yourself and to know your own worth and strengths, and at the same time accepting low status and beeing unfazed by people that are insulting or demeaning towards you.
Nice, do you also have other sources on how to reduce ego?
I don't really agree that you should have low self esteem though, if self esteem means beeing at peace with yourself and respecting yourself
I think, as you explained, the fear of one's own pride beeing hurt, the desire to prove yourself to others or to acquire status, raises your inhibition. But on the other hand beeing ashamed of yourself because you feel like you're a piece of shit also raises your inhibition to extreme levels. So in my opinion, the solution is to be at peace with yourself and to know your own worth and strengths, and at the same time accepting low status and beeing unfazed by people that are insulting or demeaning towards you.
Nice, do you also have other sources on how to reduce ego?
I've had a real ego death with high dose psychedelics.
It is not like you walk around town as per usual, rather, you are thrown into an entire different state of existence where the concept of a "town" has no utter meaning, and a minute can feel like 10,000 years. Take the "ego" out of "ego death" and just call it "death" as that's what it feels like to me.
It is not like you walk around town as per usual, rather, you are thrown into an entire different state of existence where the concept of a "town" has no utter meaning, and a minute can feel like 10,000 years. Take the "ego" out of "ego death" and just call it "death" as that's what it feels like to me.
Good post, I appreciate that you are trying to help. That being said, a while ago I had the same thoughts and I've done almost exactly what you advise, unfortunately it didn't help with the fact that I am a despicable abomination that deserves to die in a fire.
I'll try exposure through self-therapization first, i will force my self to speak up first, then i'll see about the rest of my options should this not work.
My skin is soft like a baby's, which makes me look like a bitch boy. But I've found the solution: Low protein. I'm serious, low protein is unhealthy and makes my skin less supple, making it look normal and more masculine. The results: I get treated like a human by other males. But I still have social anxiety, so I followed your advice today and it worked.
Now I'm gonna try no-fap for the 100th time. A foid sat beside me today on the subway while laughing with Chad and touching him, in other words indirect bullying. But my dick reacted to her smell. Then I saw foids in their summer dresses, thought about the sex they would be having and what subhuman trash I am. The only solution is to forget the existence of my useless dick.
Now I'm gonna try no-fap for the 100th time. A foid sat beside me today on the subway while laughing with Chad and touching him, in other words indirect bullying. But my dick reacted to her smell. Then I saw foids in their summer dresses, thought about the sex they would be having and what subhuman trash I am. The only solution is to forget the existence of my useless dick.
Trying to socialize is especially difficult in younger groups mixed with men and female.
Ho do you deal when someone in the social circle bullies you? Push you down, by his remarks? Or the group start ostracizing you?
You had me until the nofap meme.
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