This post is addressed to the mentalcels. I want them to get the fuck out of this forum asap so I give them advice on how to fix their inhib.
I personally went from 9/10 inhib to 3/10 inhib in a span of few years (despite being butt ugly) by adhering to certain principles I've gleaned from PUA books/blogs and independent thinking.
First off: "therapy" is a scam. "Exposure therapy" is a scam also, because it doesn't solve the problem at the root. Drugs are bad too, a harmful cope on the long run.
Shyness is an irrational fear of people. Fearing people because they are likely to harm you physically or ruin your reputation in a workplace is not shyness, is normal. What is not normal is being afraid of asking a waiter for sugar.
Shyness has genetic roots. Most personality traits have been shown to be at least half genetic. In my experience, about one third of white people are born shy. It's probably lower in blacks and higher in asians.
So you'll remain shy all your life. However you can minimize the symptoms of shyness so as to reach good levels of daily functioning.
#1 ego : having an ego aggravates shyness. Shyness and the ego are very linked. When you fear social rejections, failures or ridicule, you're actually fearing a drop in your ego and self-esteem. The solution is to have no ego and self-esteem. Something that is already at zero can't drop further. Obviously completely killing off your ego is something the best monks struggle with, but you can reduce it to 1 or 2%. All major philosophical and religious traditions can help you reach this goal.
#2 eye contact: if you have trouble maintaining eye contact, don't despair. Just watch the nose or brow of your interlocutor. Heinrich Himmler (a shy manlet) reportedly watched a small circle above the head of his subordinates when talking to them. After a while, you'll have become accustomed to this and you'll be able to gradually increase the amount of eye contact, first with the right or left eye, then with the two eyes. But please never look into the eyes of people more than 2 seconds at a time, that's creepy.
#3 masturbation and PE : there's something in masturbation that strongly decreases confidence over the long haul, perhaps it's lowered testosterone, perhaps not, but overall you should stop masturbating. Also, you should exercise. Don't underestimate the psychological impact of testosterone and muscles on confidence.
#4 rational pessimism: if you're an incel loser, your social interactions, on average, will tend to go badly or be disappointing. You should embrace it instead of fearing it. Learn to love failure and being rejected. Expect failure, always. That way when Stacy says "ew" you can't be disappointed or surprised. If she says something else it's a bonus. Things can only go up, never down, when you expect everyone to shit on you.
That's all. Obviously this can only work on actual mentalcels. Ugly truecels can benefit from this too, but their inhib will always hit a floor because there is a strong link between inhibition and feelings of physical unattractiveness in our reptilian brain.
I personally went from 9/10 inhib to 3/10 inhib in a span of few years (despite being butt ugly) by adhering to certain principles I've gleaned from PUA books/blogs and independent thinking.
First off: "therapy" is a scam. "Exposure therapy" is a scam also, because it doesn't solve the problem at the root. Drugs are bad too, a harmful cope on the long run.
Shyness is an irrational fear of people. Fearing people because they are likely to harm you physically or ruin your reputation in a workplace is not shyness, is normal. What is not normal is being afraid of asking a waiter for sugar.
Shyness has genetic roots. Most personality traits have been shown to be at least half genetic. In my experience, about one third of white people are born shy. It's probably lower in blacks and higher in asians.
So you'll remain shy all your life. However you can minimize the symptoms of shyness so as to reach good levels of daily functioning.
#1 ego : having an ego aggravates shyness. Shyness and the ego are very linked. When you fear social rejections, failures or ridicule, you're actually fearing a drop in your ego and self-esteem. The solution is to have no ego and self-esteem. Something that is already at zero can't drop further. Obviously completely killing off your ego is something the best monks struggle with, but you can reduce it to 1 or 2%. All major philosophical and religious traditions can help you reach this goal.
#2 eye contact: if you have trouble maintaining eye contact, don't despair. Just watch the nose or brow of your interlocutor. Heinrich Himmler (a shy manlet) reportedly watched a small circle above the head of his subordinates when talking to them. After a while, you'll have become accustomed to this and you'll be able to gradually increase the amount of eye contact, first with the right or left eye, then with the two eyes. But please never look into the eyes of people more than 2 seconds at a time, that's creepy.
#3 masturbation and PE : there's something in masturbation that strongly decreases confidence over the long haul, perhaps it's lowered testosterone, perhaps not, but overall you should stop masturbating. Also, you should exercise. Don't underestimate the psychological impact of testosterone and muscles on confidence.
#4 rational pessimism: if you're an incel loser, your social interactions, on average, will tend to go badly or be disappointing. You should embrace it instead of fearing it. Learn to love failure and being rejected. Expect failure, always. That way when Stacy says "ew" you can't be disappointed or surprised. If she says something else it's a bonus. Things can only go up, never down, when you expect everyone to shit on you.
That's all. Obviously this can only work on actual mentalcels. Ugly truecels can benefit from this too, but their inhib will always hit a floor because there is a strong link between inhibition and feelings of physical unattractiveness in our reptilian brain.
