Female coworkers planned a "Fun" day out and want me there. But is it a normie trap?

[Esoteric7]

Two foids in my office have organised a work group day out a month from now. The plan is to go to some bar, play stupid games, and drink. I stayed quiet when the invitation was sent out, but they approached me in person while I was working to get my response.

My concern is that this is might be a trap.

For context, I am the quiet, socially awkward loner who has spoken to maybe one or two people in the several months I've been here. They probably all think I’m a quiet weirdo.

Trap 1: The Pity Invitation
Their insistent invitation is just a foid maternal, condescending impulse who feel a little bad for the weird quiet guy rotting in the corner. They want to "include" me to pat themselves on the back for being such good, inclusive people. I'll be their charity project for the day.

Trap 2: The Spectacle (Lab Rat)
They're curious. They've only seen me as a silent loner. Putting in a high-stimulus social environment with alcohol and games is like poking a caged animal with a stick. They want to see how I'll malfunction. My awkward silence will be the evening's entertainment?

Trap 3: The Partner Parade
I know for a fact many are bringing their boyfriends and girlfriends. I'll be the only single guy there, surrounded by happy, touching couples. It’ll be like buying a front-row ticket to watch everything I wish I had.

I tried an escape hatch by telling them I'm Muslim and don't drink, but they just pivoted and said, "We can find a place without alcohol! "

What am I even going to do if I go? I can't make small talk. I can't "network." I'll just be sitting there in silence, scrolling on my phone while everyone else bonds, reminding them all why they usually ignore me.

So, what should I do?

1. Go and endure it. Suffer through the torture for the sake of "keeping up appearances."
2. Refuse. Stick to the "religious reasons" excuse firmly.
3. Cowardly move: Call in sick that day. Cowardly, but effective.
4. Nuclear option: Quit my job to avoid 3 hours of discomfort. JFL

 

[endoftheskies]

Two foids in my office have organised a work group day out a month from now. The plan is to go to some bar, play stupid games, and drink. I stayed quiet when the invitation was sent out, but they approached me in person while I was working to get my response.

My concern is that this is might be a trap.

For context, I am the quiet, socially awkward loner who has spoken to maybe one or two people in the several months I've been here. They probably all think I’m a quiet weirdo.

Trap 1: The Pity Invitation
Their insistent invitation is just a foid maternal, condescending impulse who feel a little bad for the weird quiet guy rotting in the corner. They want to "include" me to pat themselves on the back for being such good, inclusive people. I'll be their charity project for the day.

Trap 2: The Spectacle (Lab Rat)
They're curious. They've only seen me as a silent lone. Putting in a high-stimulus social environment with alcohol and games is like poking a caged animal with a stick. They want to see how I'll malfunction. My awkward silence will be the evening's entertainment?

Trap 3: The Partner Parade
I know for a fact many are bringing their boyfriends and girlfriends. I'll be the only single guy there, surrounded by happy, touching couples. It’ll be like buying a front-row ticket to watch everything I wish I had.

I tried an escape hatch by telling them I'm Muslim and don't drink, but they just pivoted and said, "We can find a place without alcohol! "

What am I even going to do if I go? I can't make small talk. I can't "network." I'll just be sitting there in silence, scrolling on my phone while everyone else bonds, reminding them all why they usually ignore me.

So, what should I do?

1. Go and endure it. Suffer through the torture for the sake of "keeping up appearances."
2. Refuse. Stick to the "religious reasons" excuse firmly.
3. Cowardly move: Call in sick that day. Cowardly, but effective.
4. Nuclear option: Quit my job to avoid 3 hours of discomfort. JFL

3. Nothing for your face, lmaooo.

 

[Deleted member 8078]

Depends on your job but if it's skilled labor just go with option 2 or 3. Only go with option 1 if your job is all about upholding appearances. It's a complete humiliation ritual.

 

[Incedel]

Humiliation Ritual, same thing happened to be in college for welcome week many suns ago. They are going to us eyou for entertainment

 

[TooSomething]

Go but don'r drink.

 

[Vector2800]

3. Nothing wrong with being a coward. As Savvyguy said, “you can’t stay strong all the time. Sometimes you just need to bitch out.”

 

[Cuckoja]

Go and try to be normal. Youre overthinking it.

The place i work now, foids said "we will get to know our new colleague on the break" and when they invited me with them, i said no thanks im not tired. Now they know how weird i am.

 

[zd60]

2 or 3 seems like a trap to just humiliate you or something I wouldn't go

 

[Emba]

It's a scam

 

[readingcel]

You made it worse with the muslim lie imo. You should have just went with 2 from the get go without any lies and just being upfront. Although you can always tell them, again upfront, that you lied about being a muslim due to the sudden inquiry and that you do not wish to partake in whatever this is supposed to be. You could also, I guess, do what I said but without referencing the excuse. I doubt they give a rat's fuck about what religion you are of, so they prob wont bother making solutions up if you flat out say no.

 

[Esoteric7]

You made it worse with the muslim lie imo. You should have just went with 2 from the get go without any lies and just being upfront. Although you can always tell them, again upfront, that you lied about being a muslim due to the sudden inquiry and that you do not wish to partake in whatever this is supposed to be.

I didn’t make it worse because I used to be Muslim

 

[Extern]

Show up wasted
Or just call in sick

 

[readingcel]

I didn’t make it worse because I used to be Muslim

No its just that in social situations like this making up excuses that have theoretical solutions (which in this case caused the "we can go somewhere without drinks") has a chance of making them inquire again and again. A flat "no, I dont want to" without excuses skips this.

 

[sub5ricemale]

:

Two foids in my office have organised a work group day out a month from now. The plan is to go to some bar, play stupid games, and drink. I stayed quiet when the invitation was sent out, but they approached me in person while I was working to get my response.

My concern is that this is might be a trap.

For context, I am the quiet, socially awkward loner who has spoken to maybe one or two people in the several months I've been here. They probably all think I’m a quiet weirdo.

Trap 1: The Pity Invitation
Their insistent invitation is just a foid maternal, condescending impulse who feel a little bad for the weird quiet guy rotting in the corner. They want to "include" me to pat themselves on the back for being such good, inclusive people. I'll be their charity project for the day.

Trap 2: The Spectacle (Lab Rat)
They're curious. They've only seen me as a silent loner. Putting in a high-stimulus social environment with alcohol and games is like poking a caged animal with a stick. They want to see how I'll malfunction. My awkward silence will be the evening's entertainment?

Trap 3: The Partner Parade
I know for a fact many are bringing their boyfriends and girlfriends. I'll be the only single guy there, surrounded by happy, touching couples. It’ll be like buying a front-row ticket to watch everything I wish I had.

I tried an escape hatch by telling them I'm Muslim and don't drink, but they just pivoted and said, "We can find a place without alcohol! "

What am I even going to do if I go? I can't make small talk. I can't "network." I'll just be sitting there in silence, scrolling on my phone while everyone else bonds, reminding them all why they usually ignore me.

So, what should I do?

1. Go and endure it. Suffer through the torture for the sake of "keeping up appearances."
2. Refuse. Stick to the "religious reasons" excuse firmly.
3. Cowardly move: Call in sick that day. Cowardly, but effective.
4. Nuclear option: Quit my job to avoid 3 hours of discomfort. JFL

"no thanks, I'm good"

 

[sub5ricemale]

If you get intoxicated, there's a chance you won't be able to control your dick.

 

[AutismHaver]

make some work/family related excuse so it seems like you wanna come but cant

 

[ColderManTruce]

1,2 are effective if you want to keep your job, you can give them excuses anyway cuz it won't matter at the end of the day as a sub5cel

3 is also a viable option if you want to change jobs

 

[Runt171]

Nuclear option: KILL THEM ALL

 

[Pancakecel]

Go but don'r drink.

I'd say he should drink if he bothers going, it will make it less awkward and somewhat bareable at least.

 

[Dead End]

I wouldn't go if I were you, primarily because their "fun" day out sounds uncomfortable to me, and because they likely don't want you there.

I believe it's most likely that they invited you out of courtesy but don't actually want you to attend (similar to option 1, but distinct in that they don't genuinely pity you).

From their perspective: if they sent out invitations to everyone but you, you may interpret that as them excluding you, which could potentially lead to awkwardness/social friction. They likely invited you to avoid this friction, not out of pity or because they genuinely want you to go.

 

[superpsycho]

shouldve just said no to begin with.

 

[Balding Subhuman]

Tell them you're busy wtf

 

[endoftheskies]

3. Nothing wrong with being a coward. As Savvyguy said, “you can’t stay strong all the time. Sometimes you just need to bitch out.”

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HAIL SATAN!!!!!!

 

[BlackPilledNormi]

Go there, but dont drink alcohol. Answer when your asked something and hope that someone opens a conversation with you. I would recommend you to say before that you have some family gathering or smth like that so you can quite early if its gettin to worse.

 

[idkwtfamdoing]

Two foids in my office have organised a work group day out a month from now. The plan is to go to some bar, play stupid games, and drink. I stayed quiet when the invitation was sent out, but they approached me in person while I was working to get my response.

My concern is that this is might be a trap.

For context, I am the quiet, socially awkward loner who has spoken to maybe one or two people in the several months I've been here. They probably all think I’m a quiet weirdo.

Trap 1: The Pity Invitation
Their insistent invitation is just a foid maternal, condescending impulse who feel a little bad for the weird quiet guy rotting in the corner. They want to "include" me to pat themselves on the back for being such good, inclusive people. I'll be their charity project for the day.

Trap 2: The Spectacle (Lab Rat)
They're curious. They've only seen me as a silent loner. Putting in a high-stimulus social environment with alcohol and games is like poking a caged animal with a stick. They want to see how I'll malfunction. My awkward silence will be the evening's entertainment?

Trap 3: The Partner Parade
I know for a fact many are bringing their boyfriends and girlfriends. I'll be the only single guy there, surrounded by happy, touching couples. It’ll be like buying a front-row ticket to watch everything I wish I had.

I tried an escape hatch by telling them I'm Muslim and don't drink, but they just pivoted and said, "We can find a place without alcohol! "

What am I even going to do if I go? I can't make small talk. I can't "network." I'll just be sitting there in silence, scrolling on my phone while everyone else bonds, reminding them all why they usually ignore me.

So, what should I do?

1. Go and endure it. Suffer through the torture for the sake of "keeping up appearances."
2. Refuse. Stick to the "religious reasons" excuse firmly.
3. Cowardly move: Call in sick that day. Cowardly, but effective.
4. Nuclear option: Quit my job to avoid 3 hours of discomfort. JFL

theyre likely mossad agents, don't bother