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iiiTeMpeR
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iiiTeMpeR said:
ordinaryotaku said:I only went from incel to incel when I lost 75 pounds.
skinnyfat said:I know, but it's so hard, mainly when you're skinnyfat, what means you need to eat less and less than before
The cravings are so hard, you feel miserable, you feel like you lost your only pleasure, it's a vicious cycle, wonder if I'll ever have the force of will to actully do it
QuantumDummy said:Same.
I know what you mean. I've been going through it since I was 16. I reached 298 pounds and dropped down to 200, then fluctuated back and forth 30-40+ pounds.
Losing the weight does absolutely nothing for my looks and I'm treated exactly the same as when I'm obese. It's also pretty horrible that one by one the vices I used to use to cope are no longer an option.
Cigarettes, weed, binge eating, gaming. All gone save a little gaming here and there, but even that brings me no joy.
QuantumDummy said:Same.ordinaryotaku said:I only went from incel to incel when I lost 75 pounds.
I know what you mean. I've been going through it since I was 16. I reached 298 pounds and dropped down to 200, then fluctuated back and forth 30-40+ pounds.skinnyfat said:I know, but it's so hard, mainly when you're skinnyfat, what means you need to eat less and less than before
The cravings are so hard, you feel miserable, you feel like you lost your only pleasure, it's a vicious cycle, wonder if I'll ever have the force of will to actully do it
Losing the weight does absolutely nothing for my looks and I'm treated exactly the same as when I'm obese. It's also pretty horrible that one by one the vices I used to use to cope are no longer an option.
Cigarettes, weed, binge eating, gaming. All gone save a little gaming here and there, but even that brings me no joy.
GeneticFilth said:I'm starting to realize that only people with ugly faces get treated poorly. It's not the losing weight, so getting a better body makes people treat you better, it's the face gains. People would treat obese/anorexic people with attractive faces better than muscular guys with ugly faces.
truecel23 said:I mean Zyros is another example of improvements in aesthetics fat wise
torujo said:>tfw skinny and fat face
Wizard said:I'm pretty sure @Zyros argues that it was losing enough weight and bodyfat to make his face start to lose fat was what made him more attractive. I think I remember him making threads saying how the last few pounds transformed his face, but I think this should ping him for a reply.
Although I'll be posting some studies in my lookism thread around being fat too soon, that might help help some believe getting thin again will help.
I've always had trouble with weight too, just after I went to university I started gymceling and the leanest I got was when I used clenbuterol or ECA stacked. That made it easy but then my heart had palpitations and I had to stop. I was bluepilled then though and didn't think that getting super lean mattered, it was about feeling confidence in myself, getting stronger, and not giving off the "doesn't care about personal health" vibe - beliefs which stopped me focusing on being attractive because I was happy with myself. I didn't have the problem of being disgusted at myself in the mirror here some have, it's just other people call me ugly.
This time I am going for lean, maybe bulking up is only good if you have a small frame you need to offset? @kino - You look like a bear man, I look similar because of large frame. I think we have to resist gains in a way, like in those /fit/ montages where men have got huge but their faces are still chubby. Being a bear man is not what we need, if you don't enjoy lifting ( I never did ) then giving up the feeling of progression and being stronger isn't much of a sacrifice, it just becomes a chore. Someone else somewhere on this forum said that the point of the gym for us is to allow us to get thin enough to lower facial fat yet not look like we've just come out of a concentration camp.
I was completely disheartened when gymceling didn't work for me, from multiple angles because it was meaningless for my depression too. Facing the prospect of doing it all again, and then further, is unappealing. That's why I'm focusing on lookism, to provide belief that it might at least pay off this time. It might not make me attractive, but it might boost me beyond subhuman.
Zyros said:My major improvement I think that came from bone structure maturing towards my mid 20's, thats what got me out of inceldom. Face fat reduction was a nice bonus tho.
Wizard said:I'm pretty sure @Zyros argues that it was losing enough weight and bodyfat to make his face start to lose fat was what made him more attractive. I think I remember him making threads saying how the last few pounds transformed his face, but I think this should ping him for a reply.
Although I'll be posting some studies in my lookism thread around being fat too soon, that might help help some believe getting thin again will help.
I've always had trouble with weight too, just after I went to university I started gymceling and the leanest I got was when I used clenbuterol or ECA stacked. That made it easy but then my heart had palpitations and I had to stop. I was bluepilled then though and didn't think that getting super lean mattered, it was about feeling confidence in myself, getting stronger, and not giving off the "doesn't care about personal health" vibe - beliefs which stopped me focusing on being attractive because I was happy with myself. I didn't have the problem of being disgusted at myself in the mirror here some have, it's just other people call me ugly.
This time I am going for lean, maybe bulking up is only good if you have a small frame you need to offset? @kino - You look like a bear man, I look similar because of large frame. I think we have to resist gains in a way, like in those /fit/ montages where men have got huge but their faces are still chubby. Being a bear man is not what we need, if you don't enjoy lifting ( I never did ) then giving up the feeling of progression and being stronger isn't much of a sacrifice, it just becomes a chore. Someone else somewhere on this forum said that the point of the gym for us is to allow us to get thin enough to lower facial fat yet not look like we've just come out of a concentration camp.
I was completely disheartened when gymceling didn't work for me, from multiple angles because it was meaningless for my depression too. Facing the prospect of doing it all again, and then further, is unappealing. That's why I'm focusing on lookism, to provide belief that it might at least pay off this time. It might not make me attractive, but it might boost me beyond subhuman.
Wizard said:I'm pretty sure @Zyros argues that it was losing enough weight and bodyfat to make his face start to lose fat was what made him more attractive. I think I remember him making threads saying how the last few pounds transformed his face, but I think this should ping him for a reply.
Wizard said:Someone else somewhere on this forum said that the point of the gym for us is to allow us to get thin enough to lower facial fat yet not look like we've just come out of a concentration camp.
skinnyfat said:The cravings are so hard, you feel miserable, you feel like you lost your only pleasure, it's a vicious cycle, wonder if I'll ever have the force of will to actully do it
anon_899 said:Yes, this is the hardest part, eating healthy and exercising is easy if you stick to a routine, but once you get the cravings for a candy or mcdonalds, it's suffering for at least a dayskinnyfat said:The cravings are so hard, you feel miserable, you feel like you lost your only pleasure, it's a vicious cycle, wonder if I'll ever have the force of will to actully do it
I've been managing to lose some weight, but it's fucking hard when you're lonely, no one to help you keep motivated and distracted. Another reason why fat women are lazy cunts, they have everyone cheering them but don't make a move to change.
skinnyfat said:The cravings are so hard, you feel miserable, you feel like you lost your only pleasure, it's a vicious cycle, wonder if I'll ever have the force of will to actully do it
Well it was awesome, it stuck in my head and it's how I see it now. Thanks.CopingGymcel said:That was me
Wizard said:What I'm doing this time is trying to turn losing weight in to an act, it's a bit hard because there's a bias towards thinking you have to be consciously doing something for it to be "you doing something". Losing weight is largely a waiting game, I think exercise becomes a bit of a representational activity that makes people think their actions are losing them the weight when they're waiting for their body to consume the calories, that's not all it is of course.skinnyfat said:The cravings are so hard, you feel miserable, you feel like you lost your only pleasure, it's a vicious cycle, wonder if I'll ever have the force of will to actully do it
If you're legitimately suffering from depression/loneliness/etc then giving up pleasure is stupidly hard, your body is craving it not only as pleasure but also to be "enthralled by impressions" as an escape from thinking. I remember losing control to my body plenty of times when it NEEDED pleasure and knew it was there. You need a belief that things will pay off, willpower is an aggregate of multiple different drives.
Since losing weight is just a waiting game I've started to pay attention to the hunger and say "My body is consuming calories. I am consuming calories". It stops you thinking of the moment as resisting the hunger pains, thinking of it as doing nothing while you resist the hunger and craving for pleasure. Your body is your action, just because it does it automatically does not mean it's not an action of your existence. "I am consuming calories. My body is consuming calories". Then every moment feels active, like you're working towards a goal, if you believe it will honestly be better. The suffering becomes internal and active, instead of an external pressure on you that you're resisting. This probably wouldn't have worked for me a few years ago, so if it doesn't work for you don't worry too much. Other things changed between then and now for me and it might just be a temporary thought that never works.
Well it was awesome, it stuck in my head and it's how I see it now. Thanks.CopingGymcel said:That was me
skinnyfat said:Are you running anorexia game?
I'd say 13 percent, up to where your abs are pretty much visible with your shirt off, and you can see your jaw or lack of jaw.As a general rule what is a good body fat to be at before deiciding if it’s over or not?