Serious Even if personality is important,changing you personality is borderline impossible.

[Deleted member 33688]

Normies often tell us that personality matters a lot and that we must work hard to change our personality in order to get into a relationship.

even if they where correct,The thing is that your personality isn't that easy to change. Most people on this site don't go around screaming about their hate for women IRL,In fact,most of us irl are silent, shy and socially awkward people. Our personality was shaped thanks to what we experienced and how we were treated during our developmental years. Changing your personality is changing your very self. If we were to try that we would feel as if we are putting on a mask.

I'm not gonna deny that personality is much easier to work on than your height or your face but it isn't something you can just change.

 

[Deleted member 33216]

They normally give two conflicting pieces of advice. They tell you to be yourself, and at the same time, they tell you it's your personality.

 

[Deleted member 33091]

Personality can only be changed during traumatic events but other than that our personality stays the same.

 

[trying to ascend]

You could just fake a personality

 

[Kamikaze]

Its impossible to change your personality after formative years. You can somewhat try flexing it a bit either way, but asking for more is impossible.

You are who you are for valid reasons.

 

[Cuckoja]

What is even a personality? You could change how other people perceive you by treating them differently but you cant change what you feel and want.

 

[_realist_]

It‘s hard for me to be anything other than what I am. Cold, serious. Fuck it.

 

[Gone Coping]

this is a big part of why personality disorders are basically untreatable, after your late teen years/early 20s you're not going to change much

 

[Kamikaze]

this is a big part of why personality disorders are basically untreatable, after your late teen years/early 20s you're not going to change much

Yep. Have to just learn live with my Avpd.
It is what it is.

 

[Speedloader]

They normally give two conflicting pieces of advice. They tell you to be yourself, and at the same time, they tell you it's your personality.

 

[Saigon Depression]

They normally give two conflicting pieces of advice. They tell you to be yourself, and at the same time, they tell you it's your personality.

"Be yourself" is for Chads (although they don't need advice)
"It's your personality" is for ugly males (although advice are useless in their case)

 

[kt0_0]

I will not change anything about my personality for anyone or anything.

 

[erenyeager]

They normally give two conflicting pieces of advice. They tell you to be yourself, and at the same time, they tell you it's your personality.

this is a big part of why personality disorders are basically untreatable, after your late teen years/early 20s you're not going to change much

Personality is also genetic. But most normies won't ever care about this fact

 

[Lebensmüder]

Personality is also genetic. But most normies won't ever care about this fact

Unironically this. If they knew how much of an illusion power/control over life in general is and how much fate determines who/what you are they would rope. One wrong infection/injury can destroy the greatest mind, one cell that by chance accumulated enough mutations can give you an extremely painful death, etc. The small things in life are under control, but the larger things are just fate - which means stochastics.