Ending contact with people who put you below them and look down on you

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I have one friend who is three years older than me and whenever i hang out with him or we call i have a feeling of inferiority. He is indeed stronger and heavier than me and he moggs me with that, also he is more ,,NT,, than me. In the end i feel bad when hanging out with him. I liked him a lot and tried to be friends but i think its useless for me since he will always look down on me. I will always be the beta pack guy because he is a dominant person. I had the idea to slowly ghost him and end the contact. I have one good friend who likes me and respects me for who i am and this is a relationship which is helpful and good for me. After reading in this forum i realized this dynamic and now decided to ditch him.

Thanks for opening my eyes.
 
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Does he actively bellitle you in front of others?
 
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Kamikaze said:
Does he actively bellitle you in front of others?
He calls me little one and gave me a joke name and makes jokes about that, its funny if you do it from time to time but its a bit too much and it hurts me to be honest. Its to reinforce my low position. So yeah he belittles me. He is not a real friend guys. I cant open up to him. I consider a real friend to be someone i can cry in front of, who would give me a hug, who accepts my dark sides etc. But he cant really relate to me i think?
 
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I had a friend in highschool and I think he thought he was superior to me. For example he thought I was too awkward to give a good class presentation, and then later said revealed that to me when I gave a good presentation. Later I beat his presentation grade as well. He changed seats next to me when he wanted a higher grade in maths and he thought I was a nerd who only got high grades. He tried to establish contact again through linkedin and noted that we sort of ended up in the same field. I didn't respond to him, but now I sort of regret it, since I have no friends left.
 
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calimero said:
I had a friend in highschool and I think he thought he was superior to me. For example he thought I was too awkward to give a good class presentation, and then later said revealed that to me when I gave a good presentation. Later I beat his presentation grade as well. He changed seats next to me when he wanted a higher grade in maths and he thought I was a nerd who only got high grades. He tried to establish contact again through linkedin and noted that we sort of ended up in the same field. I didn't respond to him, but now I sort of regret it, since I have no friends left.
Doesnt sound too bad although since he felt superior thats a red flag and not a good start for a friendship. Better be alone than with people who mog you.
 
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tomsterhi said:
Doesnt sound too bad although since he felt superior thats a red flag and not a good start for a friendship. Better be alone than with people who mog you.
The thing is that he didn't mog me but he probably was convinced he mogged me, and I can't really stand people like that, who can only see the negative in others but not the good
 
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Yeah, on that basis no friendship can develop. I remember i once read in a book of a biologist that friendship can only be between males with the same social status. If one ascends friendship afterwards is still possible but thats it. I think thats an important thing to consider.
 
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The problem with people who feel superior to you is that they will expect to get more from you than they will give to you. You have to be very careful with " friends " who don't see you as equals.
 
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yes tbh, that should be the main strategy
 
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those who are friends with you because they are interested are the worst.
 
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This is the single best thing you can do for your mental health, in any scenario with people if they are ACTIVELY MOGGING YOU eg


there is a distinction to be made, people can mog you BUT NOT USE IT AGAINST YOU i classify this as a PASSIVE MOGGING, they dont use their advantage as leverage whether it be social, economic, status leverage etc etc, THESE ARE GOOD PEOPLE THESE ARE THE BEST KINDS OF PEOPLE. Because they have power over you real social SMV, physical power over you BUT SHEATH THE POWER AND DONT USE IT, this means they have essentially passed a psychological test. In my mind they have passed a test of POWER CORRUPTION, they hold power BUT ARE NOT CORRUPTED BY IT, they are NOT CORRUPTED ABSOLUTELY BY ABSOLUTE POWER.This is the single biggest test in my opinion a human can undergo, it is essentially a litmus test you need to find out for everyone YOU EVERY COME IN CONTACT WITH. eg if they fail this test and leverage their power THEY WILL FUCK YOU OVER AT SOME POINT IN YOUR RELATIONSHIP.

As opposed to people who ACTIVELY MOGG YOU, eg People who mog you in multiple areas or even one area, and USE IT WHETHER OVERTLY, eg towards you passive aggressively socially leaning on you eg constant shots angling etc etc, FAIL THIS TEST, they will fuck you over and use you at every opportunity, when tested when you need them they aint going to be there.

The only way I have found to be effective with normans to decipher this is from the outset of the relationship eg on meeting, show a weakness a small weakness, whether it be a real weakness or a faked one, best use a fake weakness, and when the norman tries to mog AND USE IT, come back real strong and call them out.

Its a perfect set up because anyone who does this YOU DONT WANT TO KNOW ANYWAY, calling them out and getting in a confrontation doesnt matter because there a douche YOU DONT EVEN WANT TO KNOW YOU LOSE NOTHING.

Also further than this if you see the same norman ACTIVELY mogging other people EVEN IF ITS NOT YOU, its the same deal THEY ARE SCUM TO BE AVOIDED THEY STILL FAILED THE TEST. AND ONE DAY IN A PARTICULAR SCENARIO THEY WILL MOG AND ACTIVELY MOG YOU ITS JUST WHEN NOT IF, AGAIN AVOID.

I have found this is super effective at weeding out arseholes and filtering them out of my life while gaining a few good genuine people, my arsehole to good people ratio has dramatically declined exponentially, It also saves a fuck load of time because essentially when you know a complete cock you are essentially wasting time for them to reveal themselves to be a cock until you dump them and it saves you being USED BY THEM SIMULTANEOUSLY.

ONE problem the % of arseholes to good people is like 9999999999999999999999999999999999999^99999999999999999999999999999 to1 in the wild

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Good decision